Do your family/friends know?

100% had the same experience and came to the same conclusion. The ones that do it’s their problem not mine. I will continue to live and love however and whoever I want ‍♂️

 

you completely made my day with this, thank you so much just knowing there are men out there who will unapologetically pursue what they want and ignore everything else gives me the energy to keep doing it myself

 

Aw shucks, glad to do so!

 

My family and friends do not know about this, and would be shocked to find out.

 

That is often the case with people who still live at home or who have only recently become independent. Once people are a bit older, however, they are usually more open about their lives and preferences. Have you discussed this topic with the black men you have been involved with?

 

By now everyone that knows me knows what my "preferences" are lol, having been with the same (black) man for 10 years now, lived together for 7 and married for 5... and I'm not trying to hide it whatsoever. I have never gotten any grief or even a negative reaction, I would say that everyone has been largely supportive, but in reality everyone has treated my relationship or my partner any differently than it would have been if it wasn't an interracial relationship. Yes, sometimes you would see people giving you a double take or even staring but that's about it. I had a coworker who was asking me all about what it's like being with a black man and was talking about it as if it was something so extraordinary and exciting... I told her it's no different than being with any other man really... but again, these are generally positive reactions. Having said that, when I did start dating him in 2015, I was nervous as hell about telling my family about it, especially my son... and I must admit it took me longer to introduce him to my son, as well as my parents than it would have if I was dating a white guy, or to put up pictures of us in my office, but again everyone was supportive and reactions were largely positive.

 

That's great. I'm always pleased to hear about people whose relationship is received as the same as any other relationship, rather than as interspecies or alien contact.