If that Wu-Tang concert didn't do it, I don't know what will! So @jen14 and @beccaomecca are fellow travelers in this department...hmmm...lol
I love how direct black men are with me. I show up for the date, they say i look beautiful or sexy. Then I feel beautiful or sexy.
I love dark chocolate. The kind that's candy AND the black men's skin kind. *shrug* I hope that's okay to say. I can't seem to help it. Though I haven't dated a black guy before, it hasn't been a new thing.
For me it is only two years I dated a BM. Was attracted physically before but did not commit to it. Now like they say : I will never go back.
Out where? Let's remember where I reside and that the majority population are white lol. I've been single so long that I'd need sex education lessons and etiquette lessons, I also have two fluffy free loaders that have taken over half of my bed, so sharing a bed isn't a likely scenario. That ship has sailed and sunk to the bottom of the ocean. But oddly enough I'm content with it.
Don't get too content over there. I think the brother of your dreams will show up and shake you out of your torpor.
I'm already content LOL I've sincerely and without sadness given up on the idea of ever finding someone. The longer I've been single the harder it is to even want to find someone, sounds cooked, but it's how it is. I think what I dreamed of 10 years ago isn't what I dream of now. How's your love life panning out?
“The longer I’ve been single the harder it is to even want to find someone” going through that now myself. Guess I’m so used to doing life alone it’s almost taboo to do with somebody else on a near daily basis. Idk, I try to remain positive about it though
I definitely feel y'all. Part of my issues finding and meeting men lie firmly in my own mixed up brain noodles, but it feels like 95% of the single men around me are a blend of pridefully dumbassed and gleefully rude, dismissive, and insensitive. I swear, there needs to be a a revision to sex education to include "Modern Practices in Courtship and Mating."
I'm sorry you're experiencing the same, I can't say it's something I ever imagined I'd go through..finding comfort in being single, can't be normal lol
It is totally okay to take comfort and solace in being alone/single. Everyone goes through phases in their lives, and periods of isolation are common. Just keep using the time to work on and improve yourselves.
Relationship with an African man can be a struggle tbh. Most black men i met were very charming. Beside of this I admit that I’m attracted to their good physical shape, very manly. One last attraction to me is the darker the swing the better. but many had very social and extremely tolerant attitudes which I truly appreciate most.
