Exactly my dear :smt051. Now your getting it. Expand your options and horizions in this world live life and enjoy it ;-)
Finding a good man of any race is very hard! Look at all the unsuccessful relationships there are in the world of different races.
A "Good" BM First, let's define what is a "good" man and then we will define a "good" black man. A "good" man by most women's standards is one who is supportive, funny, kind, caring, ambitious, loyal, and hard-working. Now, what is a "good" black man? That's the same thing as a "good" man EXCEPT his skin is black. What? Am I serious? Is it that easy? Why yes, yes it is. The problem isn't that there is a shortage of "good" BM, the problem is the shortage of "good" men. Period. When a woman finds a man that is what she is seeking and that is good to her and for her, she will do everything she can to hold on to him. His race becomes a NON-ISSUE. For those women that lament the lack of "good" BM around, it's not we horrible WW that are taking them away. The only thing it is, is 2 people in love with each other and wanting to have a happy, caring, and healthy relationship. It's nothing more and nothing less.
I dont think that is a far assessment. Just because the relationship go south does not mean it is the mans fault. How come it couldnt be the womans fault ? How about that they were 2 good people with good character traits but they had a different value system that did not match ? I hate to hear that the good men are hard to find statements because it seems like we are a rare species. also for men it is hard to find a good woman . again 2 good people can come together but it could be the wrong time or they have different values.
And there it is. Good BM suddenly become "sellouts" that hate their mothers and people soon as they hook up with a non-BW. When it's BW and non-BM...well she's just "exploring her options" because soooo many BM ain't shit...ect ect ad naseum.
Tell me about it. Don't you just love double-standards?:smt042 Do as we say, but not as we do. What part of the game is that?
The people that slammed Essence for having Reggie on the cover are quiet as roaches about Kerry Washington on the cover of Jet and a pregnant Paula Patton on the cover of Ebony. I actually feel sorry for Brothers that don't date IR. How they deal with the hypocrisy is a superhuman effort in futility...and is totally beyond me.
the ww are where they are . they cant help that. if a fine ww is around me all the time and she giving the eye and we click then it is not a disturbing trend. it is what it is
