A board about White Women and Black Men..

I personally don't need to hear what a black woman's got to say about IR, I already know what she thinks about it: she hates it. Except for if she decides to step out. Then you'll hear all the statistics that show she can't find a black man on her level.

Or you'll have the black woman who's supposedly "not like" the ones who cause all the drama, and come on here to say so. These women always somehow work into the convo that they've got a white man. They end up spending more time on here than with their supposed white boyfriend.

Or you'll have the Conscious Sista who tries to shame us "sellout" brothas back to the "community" but strangely enough never talks about any of the ills plaguing black people like stray bullets killing kids, drugs, fucked-up single moms who won't keep their legs shut, prison-industrial complex black men fall into.

I could live without BW being here.

 

I agree, I don't really think THIS is the place to gain insight from BW about IR dating, actually regardless of their view. If I want to know how BW feel or view my choices I will seek out a site that is appropriate. We all have opinions, and are entitled to them, but it's nice to know that on this site I can talk about MY concerns and joys reflecting MY world of interracial dating without having to explain it to someone who can't relate.

 

I say live and let live. Besides, i rarely pay attention to comments i do not like regardless of its origins.

 

Mosiah, I've always liked your style. I definitely agree. 8) There are enough great debaters here to handle whatever problem arises, so trolls really aren't an issue if you ask me.

 

I second that chris. I don't know why everybody has such a problem with so-called "trolls." If i don't like what i'm reading, i just move on and find something else interesting to read.

 

I think it's in the nature of the board that people who do not fit into the target group have some kind of "agenda" or "mission" to sign up. And this agenda or mission is the reason why their presence so unpleasant - not the fact that they are WM or BW. (eventhough, interestingly enough, there are almost no WM trolls)

I admitt that I was curious as well to see what people are about at WM/BW boards. I read some posts to satisfy my curiousity and that was it. I never felt the urge to sign up or join the discussion to question their choices, fling mud at them or to bore them with my IR anecdotes.

 

I personally would love to belong to a group that only permitted BM/WW to join and discuss their interactions and relationships.

 

That's a great point you made Silvercosma. I never read white men & black women boards (because honestly, it just doesn't interest me) but i have to admit that sometimes i do visit all black discussion boards so that i can see their viewpoints towards interracial relationships. I don't read on those forums often (hardly ever) but when i do, i have absolutely no urge whatsoever to sign up and join in on the conversation. I just like passing by you know. This is the only forum that i participate in because i feel like mostly all of the topics that i am interested in, are actually discussed here, so there's basically no reason at all to join anywhere else. So yeah, i definitely agree with what you said there at the end.

 

That's because you went there out of curiousity, not out of feelings of inadequacy compared to white women, or rejection by black men, or to convince the black men on the board that you don't need them, or to prove you're not the "typical" black women that gets talked about on boards like these.

 

:arrow: Either way I can handle it because on other boards that I hit where people discuss various subjects that are serious or otherwise, if you come on there with something WEAK :shock: and/or don't have your facts together then you're going to get SLICED UP whether you're a TROLL :shock: or not :!: :lol:

 

I will just leave it at this: Sassy makes perfect sense, and despite what karmacoma says about black women in general (especially the ones who come in here) so does he.

 

As I have said, I have belonged to groups with this theme who were exclusive. No other races were allowed. One of my closest friends is Black and when she found out I was going to a party in Vegas, well Vegas is Wilda's city. This girl can breath on a slot machine and make money, and so she wanted to join me for this party. It wasn't an easy thing to say no to her because Wilda will give you the shirt off her back. There isn't a party that she has held, I haven't been invited to. So for me to say Sorry, you can't join me, was something I wasn't proud to do.

But I knew the rules. No BW.. No WM.

Did she like what I had to tell her? No. She knows I still belong to that group and she doesn't understand why they would exclude people. I respect those feelings because I know, Wilda doesn't see color. Not in a racist way. Her friends are not dependent upon their race. So when she wants to join a group, its to have fun. Never to have an attitude about who she is, or to prove to anyone anything.