A White Man Once Said This To Me...

i feel ya karma

 

You know, sweeping generalisations expose one thing; stupidity, lewd misunderstanding and ignorance.

 

I was thinking the same thing when I read it too, Cris, since all of my experiences with American black woman weren't as colorful as some of these guys in here make them out to be.

 

Is that right? Then I take it your current GF is African-American?

 

[T.I.]
Hey (I want a soldier)
Well you got it, I'm the hottest around
They'll know it when they see you rollin' Impalas around
(I got a soldier)
With the top down, feelin' the sounds
Quakin' and vibratin' them thighs
Ridin' harder than guys
With the chrome wheels at the bottom, white leather inside
When them flames be spittin' at you, tell 'em don't even try it
To shoot it with 'Chelle, and kick it with Kelly, or holla at B
You gotta be G's, you way outta ya league

[Kelly]
We like them boys that be in them Lacs leanin' (leanin')
Open they mouth, they grill gleamin' (gleamin')
Candy paint, keep that whip clean and (clean and)
They always be talkin' that country slang we like
They keep that beat that be in the back beatin' (beatin')
Eyes see so low from that chiefin' (chiefin')
I love how he keep my body screamin' (screamin')
A rude boy that's good to me, with street credibility

[chorus]
If his status ain't hood, I ain't checkin' for him
Better be street if ya lookin' at me
I need a soldier
That ain't scared to stand up for me
Known to carry big things, if you know what I mean

If his status ain't hood, I ain't checkin' for him
Better be street if ya lookin' at me
I need a soldier
That ain't scared to stand up for me
Gotta know to get dough and he better be street

[Beyonce]
We like them boys up top from the BK (BK)
Know how to flip that money three ways (three ways)
Always ridin' big on the freeway (freeway)
With that East Coast slang that us country girls, we like
Low-cut caesars with the deep waves (deep waves)
So quick to snatch up yo' Beyonce (yo' Beyonce)
Always comin' down, bobbin' our way (our way)
Tellin' us that country girls the kind of girls they like

[chorus]
If his status ain't hood, I ain't checkin' for him
Better be street if ya lookin' at me
I need a soldier
That ain't scared to stand up for me
Known to carry big things, if you know what I mean

If his status ain't hood, I ain't checkin' for him
Better be street if ya lookin' at me
I need a soldier
That ain't scared to stand up for me
Gotta know to get dough and he better be street

I know some soldiers in here (where they at, where they at)
They wanna take care of me (where they at)
I know some soldiers in here (where they at, where they at)
Don't mind takin' one for me (where they at)
I know some soldiers in here (where they at, where they at)
They wanna spend that on me (where they at)
I know some soldiers in here (where they at, where they at)
Wouldn't mind puttin' that on me (where they at)

[Lil' Wayne]
Hey, see cash, money is a army
I'm walkin' with Purple Hearts on me
You're talkin' to the sargeant
Body marked up like the subway in Harlem
Call 'em Wizzy F. Baby
Please save the baby
If you don't see me on the block, I ain't tryin'a hide
I blend in with the hood, I'm camouflage
Bandana tied, so Mami, join my troop
Now everytime she hear my name, she salute!

[Michelle]
I like them boys over there, they lookin' strong tonight (strong tonight)
Just might give one the phone tonight (phone tonight)
Homie in the Dickies, in my zone tonight (zone tonight)
He don't know we might be on tonight (on tonight)
Ooh he lookin' good, and he talkin' right (talkin' right)
He the type that might change my life (change my life)
Everytime he look at me, my girls be like (girls be like)
That one may be the one tonight

[chorus]
If his status ain't hood, I ain't checkin' for him
Better be street if ya lookin' at me
I need a soldier
That ain't scared to stand up for me
Known to carry big things, if you know what I mean

If his status ain't hood, I ain't checkin' for him
Better be street if ya lookin' at me
I need a soldier
That ain't scared to stand up for me
Gotta know to get dough and he better be street

I know some soldiers in here (where they at, where they at)
They wanna take care of me (where they at)
I know some soldiers in here (where they at, where they at)
Wouldn't mind puttin' that on me (where they at)


*women don't actually take a song like this seriously--do they?

 

No my fiancee is Latina, not African-American. Although i must point out that it makes no difference whatsoever. Lest, i know what you (and Jerome) are onto. Look, African-American women come in all kinds, just as much as any other ethnicity of women. There are silly and intelligent ones, beautiful and ugly ones, tall and short ones, dark skinned and light ones; enough of the rambling, you get the point. For every idiotic and immature one, there are two-fold great ones. Never mind the fact that i have only seriously dated one black American girl. Still, the point you and Jerome are trying to prove carries no reasonable weight at all. Whilst growing up and till today, i know, have met and see many intelligent, mature, classy black women who interest me irrefutably and would attract my attention any time. So, just because some of them are classy, that means every single black woman is? Ummmm no. Equally, it would be utterly insane and more importantly stereotypical of you to assume that "Shaniqua" and "Tameka" represents every single woman of the African-American persuasion. Big deal, three females decide to state that they like the "thugs up top from the BK"? Newsflash, it is only a song. Half or three quarters of the songs pop culture produces makes any sense or has any real meaning to it whatsoever. These girls claim to like the "soldiers" but i am pretty sure they have different agendas. Michelle is probably dating a "clean" guy, Kelly was dating a football player, not a Crip, Blood or anything like that and finally, Beyonce is dating the President of Def Jam Records and multi-millionaire rap mogul Jay-Z. Now prove to me that either that song had a different interpretation or was just something to gain attention or perhaps record sales? (However, it must be said that Jay-Z does not necessarily possess a clean record but blah...)

My point is, not every single black woman likes the 50 Cent type of guy. I am aware of the whole "good girls love bad boys" theory but there you have it, good girls. Good women detest and will have nothing to do with a stupid crime-prone ignoramus who cannot keep a job and has 7 kids with 6 women. Girls and women have their similarities and differences. The similarity is that they are both female species but there are countless differences between them which i feel you are old enough to exploit yourself. Your whole outlook on black women is very silly, misunderstood and general and whilst i am by no means trying to change any of that, it would make sense to look at other perspectives and see that it is not as bleak as some people make it out to be. You do not date black women, fine. You have to put them down and come up with asinine comments as to why you do not date them? Not sensible.

 

Well, there you go.

 

What are you REALLY getting at? Why do you need to draw a correlation, if even when there is none?

 

Let me state the obvious: you're talking the talk but not walking the walk. If you thought African-American women were so great, and you cared so much, you'd be engaged to one, end of story. All else is merely lip service. Thanks for playing.

 

Of course i think African-American women are great, just like every ethnicity of women. You seem to have a profound hatred, or should i say, dislike of African-American women stemming from an obviously far-fetched and rather exaggerated bigoted view of them. I do not wish to go further with this as it is getting redundant but making a few individuals speak for a whole group is very silly. They obviously do not act, talk, and see things the same way. Some might but not all. I am not trying to change your opinion of black women but i'd tell you this; its not as bleak as you are making it out to be.

 

I don't think things are bleak at all, and I don't "hate" anyone either, just being real in this discussion. "Keeping it real" is such a cliche yet one does it, there's a problem. Just pointing out a tiny bit of hypocrisy on your part, that's all. It's called "putting your money where your mouth is," which you are clearly not doing. You can dance around it if you like, but that's the gist.