Nice post Tmass. I feel you about why you are attracted to WW and I think we are in total agreement. I also appreciate the fact that you wanted to contribute here instead of just posting your pic and rollin' out. I think the more opinions the better as long as there is respect and no trolling. Again nice post.

 

Greetings all,
I wanted to post a topic rather than just dropping my picture off and leaving. I've been silently reading and watching this site for a couple of months now and I must say I'm impressed. I'm also a bit confused and sometimes offended. I love the fact that there is a platform for those of us who have preferences that don't fit society's definition of "normal." My problem is the answers or the theories that are associated with the question, "Why date inter-racially?"
I've been mistreated by black women, but then again I've been mistreated by white women as well. I understand the social dynamics and differences between the way blacks and whites are raised, but I think our differences stop there.
I date women because I happen to think that white women are beautiful. I know that it's taboo to even admit that but I do. I love their skin, their hair, their eyes, etc. Personally, I think a lot of black men who choose to date outside their race are forced to justify their preferences with some life altering event that led them to the arms of a woman who isn't black. White men who prefer blondes or redheads don't have to explain to brunettes some justification for their preference, so why should we?
My mother hates the fact that I prefer white women. She raised me to be the perfect black man for a black woman not just any woman. In my heart, I believe that my father had a lot to do with this. He, a black man obviously, treated my mother poorly for years. As a result, in me she made every attempt to break the generational curse of the so called trifling ass nigger.
She did well. I'm successful not only in my career but in my self image and my self worth. I'm not rich but I have a hunger for life and I enjoy my contribution to society. (I'm a teacher.) So my mother is proud. From ear to ear she smiles and proclaims to the world that she finally has a good black man in her life, even if happens to be her son. Unfortunately for her, somehow this "jewel of the Nile" she raised has an affinity for fair skin women. I've dated black women but for whatever reason, my preference is white women. I used the word preference because I don't date white women exclusively. In other words, given the choice I prefer a white woman but if I met a black, Asian, Hispanic or any other race woman that I fell for I would love her just the same.
Brothers, you don't have to justify your preference. Be proud of not only who you are but of the fact that you know what you want and you know what you like. I assure you there are millions of men out there that are completely confused about their own personal needs. I'd rather piss off a few sisters with my attraction to white women than to be with someone because society dictates that she is the appropriate woman for me.
Love who you love. I love white women because to me, white women are beautiful - to me. That's all the justification I need.

Your response, flaming, and other wise comments are greatly appreciated.
Tmass aka "that Arnold Schwarzanigga dude" (thanks mosiah1, it's all love...)

 

I empathize, and completely agree with the last paragraph.

 

This was a great post to read, Thanks Tmass

 

Again the 24 million dollar question: Why?

Each person has their own reasons for their actions based on everything and nothing at all.
Ask 5 people and you'll probably get 10 different answers.
Ask a person not in a interracial relationship why are their dating, in love with, sleeping with, married to, living with the person in their lives.... Take those answers and it will be the same answers you'll get from people in all relationships, interracial or not.

I think the question is why do we [some of us] feel the need to constantly explain ourselves?
That to me, is part of the problem in why we always fight the same battles....
When people question the legal, natural actions of adults, they are [for the most part] judging those actions as “wrong” and the more you try to explain it, the more justified they will feel in those judgments.

I think what we need are some militant interracial people to say “Fuck you.” and keep walking when the judgments come.

Will it make things better? I doubt it.
Will it make you feel more like a free human being when you are being judged by people who are just as fucked up as everyone else? Absolutely.

 

Tmass, it's good that you remain true to your preference. Quite frankly, I'm of the opinion that some of you cannot love or care about BW. I hope you don't settle like some have hinted they might end up doing. BW have enough problems, and being concerned about a mate who couldn't pull his first choice shouldn't be one of them. If you ever cared anything for blacks collectively you won't give BW any consideration knowing how you feel deep down.

 

I don't think any of us should settle or explain why we date who we date. About the only person I really care to explain w/any depth why I date blk men, would be a man I would be about to date. I have no problem explaining to him, because lets face it, we all date for different reasons.. but to anyone else? Unless I am in a talkative mood.. unlikely I'll spend much detail explaining.