Am sad - Start of Long Distance Relationship

Hi everyone
am sad, my fella is moving away
he can't afford to stay around here while he has free board and lodge at home - but is 3 hours drive away
will miss him so
cos he'll be working, and so will i am limited to 1 day a week, maybe 1 a fortnight.

anyone got any experiences of long distance relationships they wanna share?

or anyone wanna cheer me up?
:cry:

 

Sorry to hear that one.... 3 hours away is very far...

Its my opinion that they dont work but i dont want to rain on your parade.

 

ur opinion
or ur experience
it amazes me the number of people who have an opinion on them and never actually had them

 

3 hours is not far at all, he could come up every weekend.and you could come down every fortnight.

I live in the US, but i had a relationship once that lasted for 3 years that was 12 hours away and I had another one with a woman who lived in London UK for a long time. It works if you work at it, and also if you have a goal to be together in the near future.

 

thanks tucker
is nice to know some people have experiences of it, and are not jaded.
I pray we stay together cos love this man so much
if we can't be apart for a while - then what can we face?

 

I've never had one before, but from what I understand, many folks do get into them, and sometimes it helps the relationships, but only sometimes, depending on the people involved. I guess absence really does make the heart grow fonder.

 

hi sardonic
thats my idea
if we can last this out, we will be fine
if not - we weren't meant to be

 

Hello again, and good for you.

 

I had a two hour long distance relationship and it worked for years.
We saw each other two or three times a week but talked on the phone all the time.

They can work.
Believe that!

 

i loved it too, we wrote letters every other day for 3 years straight, we called each other several times a week and saw each other as often as we could. We were serious romantics so that helped

 

ok, thanks for those reassuring words

but how many of u are still with that person u had an ldr with???

 

married her! 9 years

 

wa-hoo!
thanks love
you've made my day
i know its just a case of keeping faith, and thinking if we don't last we weren't meant to.
thanks again

 

Hey, 3 hours are not too bad. The distance will show you if you can stay together or not. If your relationship is only based on sexual attraction and physically feelings or if there is more then just sexual attraction such as friendship. If you regularily talk to your boyfriend about everything...and may it be sooo simple or so much like everyday stuff, if you talk bout what bothers or worries you, if you tell each other what you like/dont like about each other,... if you dont feel like losing touch with each other but gaining more strenght in your relationship than you'll love this experience when time comes when you guys will be together again.

I know what I'm talking, I have a long distance relationship myself. Im in Germany and my boyfriend is in South Africa. We have a long distance relationship for over 2 1/2 years and within this long time we only saw each other 2 times. The first time after 1 1/2 years. We didnt know before that it was going to be such a long time. We thought, it was going to be a few month. But we manged to make our relationship stronger and stronger. And we really work on our future. And in 1 1/4 years we'll be able to stay together permanently for the rest of our life. And this time apart has tought us so many lessons. Patience, trust, faith, love, learning to talk about everything and anything bothering you etc. ... And we know, we managed this hard time, we'll manage the rest even better.

Ok, maybe a plus is, that we have a doughter. And this is keeping us even more encouraged to fight for our relationship. And i get a long more then well with my inlawas and even my family with my boyfriend.

So, all the best for your long distance relationship. (ooops, i wrote a bit too much, sorry )

 

Still, even if it was long, it was worth the read, Bella.

 

Thanks sardonicGenie.

 

Hey Girliekinduk,

I think that what people are saying is right. 3 hours is nothing. I live in the US, and my fiancee is in Germany. The next time I get to see her is December, for 9 days. She'll be doing her internship at some corporation and be here for 8 weeks in February. She'll be getting her degree in the spring of 2007. Then we'll be together forever.

I hate long distance. I was just responding to be polite. I thought she was so gorgeous, and decided to get to know her a bit. She turned out to be the most incredible woman I've ever met. We're both willing to go through this because we love each other so much. We know that we want to spend the rest of our lives together. That's pretty heavy for me, cause up to this point I wasn't even thinking about marriage to anyone and I'm 42. Before she met me she was feeling the same way and she 28. If you want it to work you can.[/img]

 

hey girlie

don't worry....everything will work out fine....my bf and i have had along distance relationship for almost a year and he is in Senegal over 9000 K away. it is okay and i am sure you will make it....remember what you put in is what you get out