Are All or Most of Your Female Friends White Too?

I noticed something a while back.

Since I "crossed over" to the vanilla side of women (basically my freshman year of high school)...my "friends" have also gotten a little lighter in the skin pigment.

I mean its weird. It started out that when I liked black girls, most of my female friends were black as well. But since I started dating white girls, my female friends also became white.

I think sometimes, when guys and girls become friends, its often because it started out as the guy (or sometimes the girl) hitting on the other, getting rejected...but staying "friends" (when in reality you are just waiting until they break up with their man or warm up to you). So once I started hitting on white chicks, some would reject me and I'd stay friends with them, maybe get the hook up from a friend of a friend, and so on.

But just something about being "friends" with them...turned me on...

.....something about being around a group of white girls who are hottt and chilling with them as they giggle and laugh and gossip and smoke, something about walking with a group of fine ass white girls through the mall (especially when its like 4 of them and just me), got me HOOKED to just being around them in general...whether or not it was a romantic one on one situation, or just friendship and chillin...

But soon I started to notice, I had no more black female friends, and I used to have a TON. I just noticed myself not speaking to them that much anymore. Went from having full conversations with them to it being just Hi and Bye and then I run off to give a big hug to "Becky" or "Stacey" (complete with ass grab and all).

I didnt get it at first. I know I only wanna date white girls now...but why am I friends with only them now? They say once you go black you never go back. That is such a stupid myth and so untrue. I dated my girl Kristen for three years and I was her first and ONLY black dick. Since then she has gone back to white boys and is loving it. I think once you date WHITE, nothin else feels right. I have known very few guys who have been with a white girl and went back to looking at black chicks the same way.

Not sayin' there is anything wrong with black chicks, theres hott ones out there...but they are like a neeld in a hay stack...

the Tyra Banks's and Meagan Good's and Hoops chicks (Flavor of Love hottie) and Stacey Dash's and Christina Milian's (i think shes half black) are very very few and far between...well...where I live at least. Most black girls here look like a young Queen Latifah or some version of Chris Tucker but with boobs and long hair. I mean its THAT BAD LOL. A dime peice black chick is a one in a million (or maybe I am not looking in the right places...or maybe my idea of a DIME is very tainted or high standards considering my racial preference). I mean i think its like...with black girls...at least here...about 75% are waaay below average. 20% are butt ugly, and a rare 5% are cute. With white girls, and spanish too, a good 30% are butt ugly, another 40% are cute and datable, average, whatever, and another 30% are super hot. Have any of you noticed this? It's so easy to find a white girl that I can be attracted to, even if she's not hot, just average, where as its IMPOSSIBLE to even find an AVERAGE black chick. I dunno why?


Some of the black guys I know, with black girlfriends...be like yo my chick is bad yo...so I meet her and im like .....eww...damn, shes nasty. Like a 4 out of 10, at best. But to them, thats hot. They dont even look at white girls because thats "selling out". But a few will mess wit the occasional spanish chick just for the one night stand or whatever, but he wont bring her home or make her "wifey".


But the few dudes I've converted to white girls...cant leave them alone afterwards. And same thing with them...next thing ya know...all his friends are white girls. Its like joining a secret club and you dont want to leave. Its crazy man.



So...have any of you noticed that all or at least many or most of your female friends (if you have any...i have tons) are looking alot like the girls you date...meaning...WHITE? And if so, what do you think it means? Does it even mean anything, or is it just coincidence? Or is it true what they say about guy/girl friendship? Supposedly, we "are friends with our mental back ups"...meaning mentally we see them as back up dating options. So pretty much, if you are unsure what type of girl you are really attracted to, just look at what types of girls you're friends with. Its a good indicator...

 

To answer your question, yeah, most of my female acquaintances are white. But it comes with the territory if you're not a stereotypical brotha out here.

I'm also with you on the scarcity of hot black females. I notice it all the time. And I don't wanna hear the "brainwashed by white beauty standards" bullshit, either, you can save it. Even pure African women (like the model Alek Wek who I LOVE) look better than a lot of Af-Am chicks. It doesn't help that the .01% who aren't ghetto, know how to eat with a knife and fork and actually look good are with white boys, so there you have it.

Chicks like Aisha Tyler, Gabrielle Union, Tanika Ray, or Gabrielle Beauvais only exist on TV to taunt us.

 

Karmacoma quote: "Chicks like Aisha Tyler, Gabrielle Union, Tanika Ray, or Gabrielle Beauvais only exist on TV to taunt us."



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EXACTLY MAN!


And with white girls...at least HALF the chicks that go to my college are AS HOT as Britney Spears (in her prime) or hotter. Makes it that much easier to know what types of girls I wanna go after.

 

:shock: I'm older and most of my female friends are black and damn good people too! I do have cool-azz white lady-friends as well and they're down too! Where I live there's no shortage of attractive BLACK and WHITE WOMEN AT ALL! :wink:

 

Another infamous post by Pey. I know by talking about BW in this thread it's probably going to start some defensive posts but I do understand what Pey is saying. I'm not going to say whether I agree or not because people seem to get offended from this kind of stuff. I must say that having less BW friends might be due to the fact you do not seek them out as you simply put it.

 

I follow you here, but don't know about the part of not having black female friends simply for not seeking them out. I don't think friends are something that you seek out: friends are natural...they come into your life naturally. Girlfriends/boyfriends on the other hand, you have to "seek out" so to speak. When romance comes into the picture is when you sometimes have to go on scavenger hunts.

To Pey's point, I follow you and agree with you on many points. The one about the scarcity of attractive black girls, in my experience, has been the same. But I still believe that if you frequent the right places, then you may find more of the beautiful ones more often.

I've loved white girls since my earliest days. My first girlfriend was in Kindergarden and she was white (if at that age you can call her a girlfriend). But we had a long, passionate makeout session during naptime once, so she must've been something well beyond a friend! [One of the greatest memories of my life ] But all my life I've gotten along more often with whites (not just girls, but other guys too) than blacks. I say "more often" rather than "better" because how well I get along with you depends on how well we can identify with each other...and there's nothing race-specific about that. I think I'm embraced more often by whites is because I'm not a stereotype. I have a vivid personality, as I'm sure is the case will all of you fellas in your own ways. As far as just the ladies, I have a lot of trouble [internally...meaning I don't share this with the girl in question] with platonic relationships. Most of the girls of any race I've been friends with throughout my life, I've at the very least had a romantic curiosity about...not to mention the ones I've all out wanted to be with! I'm goin' off on tangents here. Bottom line: I agree.

 

Cool topic. For me I started in elementary school. I knew that I preferred white women. So I knew that the best way to get with them was to have white friends. So most of my friends, female and male have been white. Its also because I dont speak ebonics and was raised in the non stereotypical black family...so I tended to have more in common with white people. At least in some ways.

 

He makes dating and feeling attracted to white women out to be like some sort of cult religion, especially when he says that 'once you go white, nothing else feels right', because of some lil' spoiled racist hick he got involved with who couldn't handle her relationship with a black man, which obviously turned her into a slut with white men, probably due to being with Pey anyway, :lol: since he is just speaking from his own personal experience about white women wanting white men more.

And, if he's right about what he claims, does it mean that all of the white women in the world currently involved with black men (for any reason) as well as in here will just kick black men to curb in order to be with white men because it just 'feels right'? :roll:

 

Pey, Pey, Pey :lol: :lol: This guy really makes me laugh. Anyway, in order to avoid any personal vendettas against anyone, i'd just speak for myself on this issue. Since the time i began to date "others" if you will, most of my friends who are females happen to be non-black for various reasons which i have no hand in. I have female friends who are black, white, latina and asian but the vast majority fall between 2 and 3. It is not out of any hatred for black women as such but because generally, the black women i am close to, upon finding out that i am dating non-black women, alienate me. In all honesty, i'd love to be friends with many of them but they have told me right to my face that they cannot be friends with someone who hates his own race of women. It astonishes me but i do not even wanna get into that now.

I have a lot of white friends because i do things such as wakeboarding, surfing, skiing, rock-climbing, hiking, skating to mention a few. You do not need to be Nostradamus to figure out that these are activities which have a large white congregation. There are a handful of blacks and other non-whites but they tend to mix in with the majority, which are white. For some reason, a large number of black women are not into such things and tell me its geeky, feminine and "white". Am i then to be a loner and do it all by myself? No. I'd find people who share common ground with me and if they happen to be white, so be it.

I also dance to salsa a lot; i go to salsa clubs every week. Even a complete stranger to America who watches TV would know that the majority of people you'd find in a salsa club would be Latinos. Again, another activity that you would not find many African-American folks doing. In fact, most of the time when i go to salsa clubs, i am often the only black American person there which exerts a few odd behavior from some but is okay generally. In fact, i've met a number of girls whom i'e dated at salsa clubs. Black women do not seem to be very interested in these things so the chances of me making friends with them here are very low.

Lastly, i do karate and taekwondo, an activity where the majority of participants are either East Asians or whites. Again, am i there for anyone? No. Am i to be a loner when i attend? Nope. I'd make friends wtih the people there.

So you see people, a lot of the things i am involved in do not feature a large number of black folks. Coupled with the fact that i live in a white majority area, i have to socialize and interact with people and a large number are white. I do not discriminate against people so i make do with whoever is worth it.

Now, on the subject of white guys, as you know, i do not hate them; i have many of them as friends but you know the deal with "them, us and their women". :lol: I have been around white dudes for many years but you know how they get all emotional and stressed out when you try to get too close to white girls. I had a friend in college who was a roomie for some time. He never used to bring his girlfriend into out apartment because he thought that she'd one day sleep with me behind his back. :smt105. Even at work, because i am really close to many of the women who are white, the white guys get all worked up over it as if they "own" these women in the first place. I do not want to turn this into an anti-white male tirade but some of them have got major issues with their self-concept.

 

Interesting thread PeyBack. I must admit that I haven't made a whole lot of black friends since realizing I've developed a thing for WW. And no, I've not gotten rid of my earlier/childhood friends who happen to be all black, nor do I despise my family, its just that I haven't really made any new friends in the last 2 years since I realized I'd "changed".

But then, my apparent inability to make more friends may be because I've: (a) moved cross continent and therefore lost my old friends (b) become really busy (to socialize) in the past 2 years (c) become overly fixated and unhappy with "singleness", that I've lost the ability to enjoy making friends like I used to (that can, and does happen) (d) subconsciously view making black friends as representing a step in the direction I really want to go (after all, I do want to marry a WW)

I won't be surprised of some militant black woman read this and threw a fit. But hey, I'm being honest with myself, and I'm not justfifying my actions. I'm just trying to understand them, and hope to change where I fall short. Thats the best anyone can do.

 

Pey does bring something "new" to this board.
Good to have him back.

To answer the question: I have more black female friends than white ones but I don't put any meaning into that that fact....

My two cents.

 

I go drinking with a couple of white chicks now and then but she is not into brothers. Her sister dates a spanish cat though.

 

Chris! You are such a SELL-OUT, doing all kinds of interesting things like that!! hahaha... :lol: :lol: :lol:



I kid.... of course!!




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Tee hee.... "cat" Haven't heard that expression in ages!
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Cris I do Taekwondo also. I am thinking about switching up to jiu jitsu though.

 

like wise lol Iam a bluebelt currently :smt062

 

For the record, doing things or engaging into hobbies that you personally love do NOT have a some sort of 'color/race attachment.' Nothin' to be ashamed of, in my book.

 

That is exactly the point i was raising.

 

All my female friends are white. It does wonders for the mind.

 

Yo PeyBackTime8818;
Your mad funny, true but funny. I'm from the city where the towers fell too bro. I hang with crews of White Chicks as well. I figured out why. White Chicks, at least the ones I know, like to have more fun without the hang ups. As for not finding the fine sisters, well, all the ball players, stockbrokers and entertainment cats have them bagged up. Not to mention the ones that are married and bagged up. Isn't it dope to be with 5 fine White chicks in the mall and everyones staring at you all. Thats the kicker, I like the stares good and bad. It makes for good conversation. " Yo you saw all those people (White, Black, old, young, male and female) looking at us?"