Are black men naturally friendlier?

This idea came to me from a post Bryant wrote in another thread. ( Yeah, I know, I finally got around to it)



It seems true to me, because a brotha will normally speak to anyone, whether or not they are also a brotha, and it doesn't seem to matter if it's in the ghetto, the suburbs, the county areas, the library, the mall, you name it, and they'll greet you there...



along with the fact that we don't even have to personally know someone else who is or isn't a black man, but when we see another black man, we'll usually say something like 'whassup, man', what's happenin', brotha', or maybe just give an upward head nod at one another to indicate a greeting gesture :lol: which is what I am also guilty of doing time and time again.



Apparently, this seems to work best among us, because it non-verbally let's us know from one another whenever we come in contact with another black man who's a stranger, that we are 'down' in our own individual way and have no bones about them personally for any reason ( or no reason). Sure, we all may not talk, walk, think, feel, and act exactly alike (I know, I know, the TV told you wrong) but regardless, a brotha is a brotha, from one to anotha, if you get my drift, fellas.



The best thing about it all is what Bryant mentioned in a previous thread. You know, the thing about how we can just go up to one another, and start talking to one another about something in particular, as if we actually know the other dude very well. I have lost count of all the times I have had brothas come up to me and make a conversation by starting off in the middle of the conversation, and me being able to keep up with what they're saying and talking about altogether.....


but, I'd like YOUR feedback. Is this something that you have taken to notice on your own, or has your experiences been different in some way, or entirely?

Don't take this all as an overgeneralization on my part. This isn't what I intended to make the thread for.

 

well I love Black men and happen to be drawn to men who are people 'persons'... so part of me wants to say YES.. but to be honest..

there are a lot of men from many races who are friendly and find it easy to talk to anyone. I've known guys who have made friends from people who called them as a wrong number!

 

hahahaha.......that's funny ! :lol:

Now back to the point.....

In my perception, and the black men I've met (men from Europe only) are indeed friendlier, even though one couldn't say their other races counterparts aren't friendly.

In fact, I'm so glad you posted this, because I couldn't quite pinpoint what was it that attracted me to black men other than the simple physical attraction, and this is IT !!! I found them as warm (warmer) people, friendly, easier to have a joke with, in other words, I feel more comfortable and myself around a black man.....how do you say this.... - at ease. They are so naturally friendly that it comes very easy to interact with them. That's my perception and my experience. With a black man, I feel "at home".
I wonder if there is anything about white women that black men like them for other than physical attributes (and I'm not talking about ww are slutty HA ! 8) compared to their more conservative black counterparts, idea that I've seen in this forum quite often).......but then again, that and this (BM being naturally friendlier) are generalizing, but I still think it's true, even though of course there are exceptions. Maybe when you are not the dominant race as numerical population and you are not such a power freak you are better in social skills terms, or maybe I'm reading too much into it.

But anyway, I'm loosing track. Carry on replying to the topic, people :wink:

 

Yo man, I'm normally right there with you but you gotta be kidding me on this one. While that "natural" connection between many of us BM does exist (the "whats up bro" thing), people are still people. I'm sure that same type of connection exists among WM that are cut from the same cloth. I mean heck, I'm a twenty something male and I feel that type of connection and say whats up to other twenty something males when I am out and about. While I dont think you are trying to overgeneralize, I totally disagree with your notion...

B

 

You know something else just occurred to me as I was clicking submit on my last post. It could just be a Midwest thing. Sardonic, I don't know where you are from but I find what you are saying to be true down south. I still hold to my beliefs that people are people but when I'm down there (my parents and grandparents live in Alabama and Georgia respectively) BM's almost always show crazy love to each other. No matter if I'm at the gas station, mall, out to eat, whatever BM's usually show the love but not the WM's. I don't know but I just wanted to be honest and put something out there that I just thought of to balance my beliefs. I guess I could come back and say that the south is generally a friendlier place...I dunno but I still think its ridiculous to say that BM are friendlier in general.

 

I agree that where people live depends on how friendly people are..

If you live in a bigger city, where crime is higher, I think any race is less friendly.. less hospitable..

When I moved back near where I grew up in the northern RURAL midwest after my divorce, we drove down this country road and everyone waved. My son asked me if I knew them. I told him no. People are just friendly here.

 

Well from my personal experience I don't find (in general) that BM are friendlier than Hispanic or white men. Especially in business I've encountered quite a few, rather impersonal and arrogant guys.

BUT, one thing that always amazes me is the whole nod thing between 2 BM. When I am out with my guy it happens all the time and I wonder why that is. I think it's great, I almost think it's kind of like "hey I see you and I got your back" ... I don't know if that is really true or not but I like the idea of it.

 

Race, especially if you are a minority, is an instantly recognizable similarity. No matter how different I am from another BM on the street, I know we share some of the same life conditions. The nod is an acknowledgment of those similarities. You'll notice that the nod DOESN'T take place when there are a lot of BM around...it usually occurs when there are few or no BM in the area.

If you really think about it, it isn't any different than if you were in a foreign country and ran into someone wearing a shirt that said "HI, I'M FROM CHICAGO!!!". You would probably acknowledge your similarities with this person with a smile or even a greeting.

BLM

 

Exactly.

 

Couldn't agree more.....well said.

 

Maybe if you stop trolling, and then whining about being called this and that, then you won't have to worry about it, and if you're not trolling, then what's your purpose for being in here? It's not rocket science.

 

When I wrote the original post, I was asking question about how black men tend to be friendlier in comparison, whether or not there are or aren't many other black men around. What I said wasn't an implication to suggest that non-black males are ever friendly, like a couple of you seem to believe I said, especially if you know what I said has some truth to it regardless.

 

I see. Good point.

 

Blackloverman great post and yes totally agree, I do the same whenever I sense other Germans around (hear them speak or see them wear a T Shirt or so)

 

LOL, that's because way too many Black men want the approval of White men and Black women when it comes down to dating or marrying White women.

Now as for Brother's being friendly, that depends on where you are from and the circumstance. I'm friendly in LA but cautious in NYC where it could be misunderstood like I'm trying to get something from you.

 

i think we are and we aren't. We tend to go through the process of acknowledging another person a lot more than others may do.

We do offer salutations as a customary thing and that is restricted to the head nod and gesture.

 

true as Hell!!! I alot of times in college BM and sometimes older bw come up to me and just act like they know my ass! The funny thing is sometimes Latin/hispanic people do it as well! lol I definitely agree that it doesn't always happen in a predominately black area. There certainly is a bond among fellow black people that makes it easier to start conversations, etc. I see other minorities do it all the time ,but as for white people I never see two white people acknowledge each other unless their foreign born or share sometype of foreign nationality.