cheatin??? please help me asap

i got a text late last night from a girl claiming to be my fella's girlfriend, saying i should leave him alone etc.......
and i don't know what to do!!
I have spoken him today but pretending everything is fine
but dunno whether i should say or not
see he's just moved away, just started an LDR, so issues of trust are difficult right now

anyone experienced something similar?
anyone any advice as to what to do?

my heart is saying she's lying, cos been with my fella for 2 years,
but my head is saying she could be telling the truth
what do i do
please help me asap

 

That seems like a really hard question to answer,but I think you should talk to him and ask him straight up the girl got your number some how.

 

Weird that the girl had ur number to start with...

U should tell him casually that you received a text msg from the girl (her name) and see his reaction first...that will already tell you a lot...but don`t tell him that on the phone, u should see his eyes!!!

After u see his reaction, u probably will have an idea already whether he knows her or not...then u should tell him the content of the text and ask him...don`t be aggressive though, it won`t help at all!

and please, trust him until he is found guilty! that might be a hoax!

 

definitely be straight up with him, without assuming he's guilty. some women are vindictive- curious how she got your number but regardless... talk to him and see what he has to say. if you've been in this relationship for 2 years, i think you'll know him well enough and be able to figure out what's really going on. and i agree- don't do this over the phone if at all possible. hope it all turns out ok!

 

hate to say it
i think its true
she's calling my phone
he's not answering his
am so mad

 

It doesn't sound too good From experience girls only tend to do that kind of thing, which is vindictive, if they have a personal reason to, it would be a sick kind of hoax to play so it's more likely that she's got hold of his phone and found messages from you and wondered what he's up to. On the other hand she could be a friend, or someone who was pissed off with him, or maybe that she came onto him and he turned her down and it pissed her off...you just don't know so it's best to ask him first. But like people say don't do it over the phone, do it face to face, and don't give it all away at once, just that you have received the text. If he is frantically questioning you then it's likely that something fishy is going on, if he brushes it off or doesn't seem too interested when you throw him the bait, chances are everything is fine.

And I'm really sorry for you that's so harsh *girly hugs*

 

Don't let some unknown bitch wreck your relationship..

If your going to cut and run everytime some chick calls then you might as well join a Convent..

You are falling right into the TRICK-BAG..Don't be a dummy..You can tell if your man loves you or not.

 

In my opinion, you gotta go with your gut...even if it's telling you things you don't want to believe. A girl (almost) always knows. :? Good luck!

 

It might be him pretending to be his girl friend .......think before you act always be cool when you respond to him!

 

This sounds like a shitty shitty situation.

From past experience I have learned one very important thing: if something appears shady, than it almost always is.

It may not be exactly as you think it is... but something is definitely shady here. You need to listen to your heart and you will know what you have to do... whether that is to confront him, ignore this or end the relationship.
Listen to what your instinct is telling you... it is always right!

That's certainly true... however, a man loving you and a man being faithful to you are two completely different things!!

 

All the advice already given in this topic to you is enough for you to go on when handling the situation. Best wishes.

 

There is one thing that I'm having a problem with. A couple of responses give me the impression that this kinda crap is common place. I've had plenty of relationships and lots of female friends, and I've never had anything like that happen to me. If it did and I wasn't guilty, I couldn't just blow it off either. I'd be very upset and pissed off at the person calling. I really don't think that getting text messages and calls like are indicators of anything good.

Seems like a real interesting time frame that this is happening in. I bet if you really get honest with yourself, there have been other signs that you chose to ignore. It is best to lay it on the table.

 

oh oh a woman e-mano a e-mano.

sorry to hear it...

Unless you can get hold of your bf to verify it, I'd just ignore the woman.

I've seen it go both ways, when a woman who WANTS a guy warns off other women, bold as hell!

Or I've also seen when a woman is in a new relationship with a man and gives the bad news to the old girlfriend who still thinks she is.

In either case, guys never react well to this kind of fighting, whoever is upfront about the fighting gets rejected, so my thing would be to keep it cool and straight up.

Do not get mad or fight back....wait for the truth.

If its bad then walk away, you don't need a guy who didn't have the nuts to tell you fairly what was up with him.