Cheating

1. Have you ever cheated? yes

2. What were the circumstances?my ex-husband cheated on me first, and I was upset and did the same. My ex-lover and I had amazing sexual chemistry and that is what made me choose to cheat

3. Was it long term or short term? For about 6 months

4. What was the end result?Divorce, but not soley because of the cheating in our case the marraige was in shambles before

5. Did you get caught? I caught him, he suspects, but has no proof

6. What about the other personwe tried a normal relationship when I first seperated from ex-husband did not last

7. Would you cheat againnope, my current boyfriend and I have an awesome relationship. he is everything my ex husband was not. also, i know that i would not, as I ran into my ex-lover a couple weeks back, we had a beer and talked. the opportunity was there, but I had no desire to be with him again, as I am in a healthy and happy relationship now

8. Do you regret it? in someways, I wish I had left my husband before I cheated, but I and glad that I got the rebound relationship out of the way, as I would not have the great relationship I am in now. The affair in some weird way healed a lot of emotional baggage

 

Have you ever cheated? A few times, yes.

What were the circumstances? My ex-girlfriend (who was from Wyoming) graduated from college and then moved back to Wyoming and came back to Florida occasionally.

Was it long term or short term? It was brief, about 4 months

What was the result? We broke up after she read a text message.

Did you get caught? Yes.

What about the other person? We only became fuck buddies :roll: ; i find it very difficult to pick up a relationship with someone i cheated with.

Do you regret it? Of course

 

Once with, with my first girlfriend back in 10th grade. (Oh here comes the puppylove story.

The circumstance was me being too jealous cause she used to always dress sexy and back in the day pre-halle berry Toni Braxton was the shit
and she had features similar to her and damn near every guy was her friend. I thought she was cheatin because she says she flirt with guys and nothin else and my jealousies got the best around the wrong person her friend who told me she was cheatin so we slept together.

It was short term: One day, we slept together thats all.

The end result: Is just like any jerry springer episode where cheatin is involved that you saw. Remember I said jerry springer. That had to be the school fight of that year.


I Didn't get caught, her friend told her the next day and first I lied until I caught them fighting outside the school so after me and some guys broke it up I told her what was the deal. (Like I said puppy love is somethin else.)

What about the other person? They still good friends (LOL)! Knew that was goin to happen, but later that senior year we all forgave and had a threesome, nah Im playin that was someone else (LOL) Oh Im so stupid.

I would not cheat AGAIN Because I wish she would allow me to put pics up of her on her I think I described before if anyone could remind me but
she look like a blonde haired, blue eyed veronica lake with a phat ass, she so beautiful, I could see the love her eyes she has for me as well as I.
I don't like it when other people hurt her so I vow not to never do that on our wedding night at the reception and she vowed the same thing to me as well.

I don't know if I regret because it was so good(LOL) nah Im playin
I was young and you learn from your mistakes I've learn and grew up.

 

No.
I never did but I won't say I never will.

Cheating is one of those "lines" that I've drawn for myself and because I believe cheating is never about your mate but it is all about you, I don't think I will.

I am wise enough to know that anything can happen however so all I can do is take it day by day.

 

Never have, don't think I ever will.

 

I don't see the point of cheating. If you have a lady/man at home who pleases you emotionally and sexually, then why cheat?? And if your lady/man at home is not pleasing you emotionally and sexually, then you'll both be better off just going your separate ways and finding somebody else. I think it's much better to just split, rather than cheat on someone.

And i've seen instances where a guy/woman would cheat, and their partner would take them back time and time again. I don't think i could reconcile with somebody who cheated on me. The first time that my woman cheats on me, that will be the end of it. I guess i have an extremely low tolerance for that sort of thing.

I'm not judging anyone here who has cheated, i'm just saying that i personally could not do it, and i personally could not tolerate anyone who did it to me.

 

No never cheated and won't say I never will (although I hope I never will) and I also hope I won't ever get cheated on in the future.
I might be open to an open relationship down the road, if I truly feel that we have a strong connection in all aspects of our lives but the sex gets boring.

 

1. Have you ever cheated? yes

2. What were the circumstances? I have cheated twice. First time was in an open relationship but I went outside the rules because I did not want to stop seeing my now husband. The second time was after all that. I got into another relationship, he was abusive, possessive, insane, and I cheated on him right at the end with his childhood idol(thugged out brotha), don't regret it, we were friends for those two years and I had been fantasizing about him for soooo long.

3. Was it long term or short term? First time 8mnths, 2nd time 2mnths before I got away from pyscho.

4. What was the end result? relationships ended.

5. Did you get caught? yes, first time broke into my email account...BUSTED....2nd time, he has NO CLUE and still calls my mom's house professing his undieing love for me....did I say psycho? and that was 7yrs ago.....

6. What about the other person first time, well he was a playa, playa, and I knew that, so I moved on with psycho...BIG MISTAKE!!!....2nd time, we caught mad feelings for each other but I had promised myself that no matter what if B ever came back in my life I would be with him NO MATTER WHAT....but I think I hurt J and I feel REAL bad about that eventhough we were not serious.


7. Would you cheat again HELL NAW, I respect my man too much to do him dirty like that....unless he screwed me over then alls fair baby!

8. Do you regret it Nope, interestingly enough, the guys I cheated one were white and the only black guys I've been with were the ones I cheated with!! And they were, by far, the best lovers I've had!

 

OK - this is true confession time - I haven't told anyone about this, but there is something very liberating about the forum so here goes...

1. Have you ever cheated? yes

2. What were the circumstances? I cheated on my last b/f with my current man.

3. Was it long term or short term? For about 2 weeks

4. What was the end result? I broke up with my b/f. Not for my current man, but b/c I realized that we werent' really meant to be more than friends, there just wasn't enough emotion there. However, I did start dating my current man for real about 3 weeks later. My old b/f and I would never have gone the distance, and meeting my current man and feeling more strongly for him in a matter of weeks than I had for my old b/f in 8 mos made me realize I was in a 'convenience' relationship.

5. Did you get caught? not at all

6. What about the other person? I am dating him now.

7. Would you cheat again? I would like to say no.

8. Do you regret it? Absolutely. I only kissed my currenty man once while I was dating my old b/f, that's all we did physically and it tore me up, felt so guilty! I just can't deal with the idea of hurting someone who trusts me. It was a poor decision and I handled it badly, but we make mistakes and have to learn from them and move on.

 

1. Have you ever cheated?
yes

2. What were the circumstances?
A very long term relationship with a lot of love but (I felt) in a rut.

3. Was it long term or short term?
For 2.5 yrs.

4. What was the end result?
Good and bad. We broke up, because we were not meant to be an item "long term" - just too different. But what we had was valuable and good. We are still friends, still close.

5. Did you get caught?
I was honest from the start, I told my bf. To be honest - with these two particular men - in an ideal world, I would like to have both. Don't throw bricks ok, I'm being honest.

6. What about the other person?
Both are very good friends and companions. But did it resolve itself? Yes and no.

7. Would you cheat again?
It was the only time. And I would rather meet someone who is compatible in ALL areas.

8. Do you regret it?
Despite the stress on all side - mostly mine, lol.... no.
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Aqua, just wanted to say, I have been thinking about you and I am glad you are back!!!

 

Awww thanks, WhiteSheDevil. I have been thinking of you and the other board members also. Things have just been hectic.

 

Glad to see you back Aqua :!:

 

Thanks, NobleD. I am in your beautiful city of Atlanta right now. I am exhibiting aproduct at a convention. i am here to Wednesday, so could you suggest some reasonably-priced places to eat? I did not fly all this way to eat at MacDonalds. I want southern food. I had grits for the very first time this morning and they are really good! We didn't rent a car because my colleague is not adventurous...he hates getting lost. But lost is my middle name :lol: i don't mind taking public transit if I have to.

 

1. Have you ever cheated? yes - several times...

2. What were the circumstances? months and months of inactivity, despite my persistent prods, attempts, and suggestions that we weren't hitting it on any cylinder...
3. Was it long term or short term? about 4 months

4. What was the end result? My significant other acquiesced, and accepted my "new" relationship as "necessary"... My significant other even agreed to me having outside relationships as long as her needs (financial) were met....

5. Did you get caught? Every time! I wasn't trying to disguise what I was doing. I wanted to terminate a dead-end relationship disguised as a marriage, as well as satisfy my primal needs... If I had known what made her tick, I would have never stepped out... But my best efforts were met with indifference.

6. What about the other person? There are no other person(s). I stayed with my significant other because we have a son nd I have abandonment issues. I grew up without family and was determined to break that mold. My ground rules (a man with standards and rules, yet cheating...) with any woman stipulated: 1. No drama! 2. No threats when things weren't going an expected way. (I am not a good candidate for bending to another's will).... I'd die first!!!!

7. Would you cheat again? A very subjective question.... "Cheating" suggests negative connotations of honor and fidelity, not that I intend to imply these are not human traits.... But to be fair, if my needs aren't met, yes.... I'd cheat again and again and again....

8. Do you regret it? No... If she had been sincere, I would have felt remorse. She only cared about my money... When, though my influence, she starting making money, she thought she could make a clean break, without the "baggage" (me)... When we divorced, reality made her humble.

 

Thank you so much for being honest

 

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Sooooo depressing.