Cultures & Attraction

Are there any white women on here that are learning afrocentrism or into any other black cultures?

We all have heard of white women being attracted to black men are mainly into the hood/hip hop culture. But are there any that go about it in a different way.

I bring that up because I know some women's attraction goes
towards our cultures as well, like are you looking for a...

Hood Brotha

Urban Brotha

Soul Brotha

Afro-American Brotha

Blues Brotha

Brotha Love (man of the cloth)

 

wtf lol

 

Like how some people adapt to religion of their mate such as jewish and muslim, etc. and start to go for people of those cultures...

 

First of all, Im new here so I just wanted to say hello.
Secondly, nice sig!
Last but not least, you have a wrong understanding of what cultures are all about. Every nation has its own culture, so I doubt that e.g. White Americans or Black Americans live a completely opposite lifestyle. If anything, the gap is beginning to get narrower.
This topic would make more sense if we were to speak about interracial relationships between men and women of different countries rather than the same.

 

and within a nation's culture, lies various "sub-cultures," which is what I think kenny was trying to point out. Sunni Muslims living in america, tend to behave differently than baptist black christians. A girl raised in a traditional suburban neighborhood, is going to be expected to behave differently, than a girl raised in a ghetto.

I understand what you meant Kenny. Living in mixed areas of this country, all my life, I came across various groups of people. Sometimes one group takes on traits of another group, and vise versa. And sometimes instead of this cross-culturalization happening in groups, it would happen on the individual level. You would see guys using Chop Sticks, for example, instead of forks. Or, you would see the hard-line muslim female, uncover her face and show her smile.

 

Ooh, sexy!! jk

 

Okay I understand your point, sub-cultures do exist especially in big countries like America but thats a little bit hard for me to understand since I live in very small country. Nevertheless the sub cultures arent very extreme opposites of one-another since they belong to the same country. More so, they are usually categorized as homogeneous cultures especially when compared to cultures from other countries. The religion part was a good example but the standard of living is a weak example. Standard of living never interferes with a person's culture or at least minimally. In any case America is mostly christian so the presence of muslim traits is hardly effective overall.

 

I disagree with categorizing people or cultures.
A culture ha so many different silhouettes and I am interested in learning as much about any shade of it as possible.

 

What if a BM doesn't fit any of those cultures and he's just "normal"? :?

 

or maybe the boy next door in the suburbs or country,

or professional brotha

 

Well, talking about national cultures, if a person's culture feels like something I can connect with then it goes a long way. What I mean is people's everyday communication and manners more than anything - I like people who are direct and relaxed. So far I've found that I get along well with Jamaicans, Italians, Peruvians, Nigerians and Lebanese people for example. But obviously I can't generalise about the people of an entire country. Northern European cultures are not my thing but I have very close Finnish, English and German friends.

Talking about black subcultures, I can appreciate rastafarianism, afrocentrism and hip hop/urban culture in their own terms (and I know there are several variants of each), although I don't buy into the whole package. And most people don't either, or don't even have any such affiliations necessarily. So, to answer the question in a way, I'm just looking for someone who's direct, relaxed, not too cocky, not too materialistic, not too careerist, unreligious, loves music whether it's blues, hip hop or dub, has a social consiousness, and a lot of feeling. Does this fit into any of the categories mentioned?

 

i have a minor in african american studies...or as i like to say, i minored in black people, lol. so, i have studied all different aspects of the african american culture. i've studied sub-cultures within the culture, issues in the black community, origins of spirituality, race relations, the harlem rennaissance, the hiphop culture, afrocentrism, etc. i've always been interested in other cultures. it's just something that i really enjoy - i love learning what makes people tick....as individuals, and as groups with which they identify themselves.

as far as what my attraction was to my husband and his culture...that's kind of a broad question. i wasn't on a hunt for a black man when i met him. (i was actually dating someone else, haha) but, me and him just hit it off - our chemistry was great...we shared the same values, faith, future goals, etc. and of course, the physical attraction was just icing on the cake. actually, b/c we met online, i was already falling for him before i had seen a picture...so it definitely wasn't based on physicality. (is that word?) anyway, i had been dating my husband for over 3 years when i decided to minor in AAS, and to be honest, i would have chosen that minor even if my husband weren't black. like i said, learning about other cultures is fascinating to me. i don't do it to try to "be black" or to "attract black men"...i've gotten those kind of attitudes from people before. i'm just me, and people can take it or leave it.

sorry, to get on a rant.... :wink:

 

Co-sign on all of that. I was always told from when I was little to always respect and appreciate your heritage, but at the same time you should embrace the cultures of other people because you can always learn something. My mother raised me the right way, and I should hope that society continues this trend.

Thanks for the insight.

 

I don't think you grasp what Im trying to say. I put it in a
nutshell. If you are mainly attracted to black men and
is interested or already indulged into any black cultures. Do
you prefer to date men of that culture? Or if you are not apart
of any black culture do when dating a person of another culture
do you indulge as the relationship gets serious.

Like famous couples for instince;
Hiedi Klum & Seal indulge in each other's cultures. and
one way is that their kids both have nigerian & german names.

When Russell was married to kimmora
he took part in her asian cultures

Joss Stone she is into the soul culture and most
of the guys she dates are as well.

Denise Matthews when she became a born
again christian went for christians who shared
her religion.

most whitegirls into the hood type brothas
are from(or moved to :lol: ) the hood, most of
their girlfriends are also hood.

and so on,....thats where I was getting at. I already know that
there are those who indulge in a culture but don't date inside the
culture.

 

Yeah I forgot those types.
But you get the basis of what Im saying don't you?

 

I'm not much into players and (wanna-be)gangsters. That's pretty much all.
I just want someone who I share a few interests with and who treats me good. I am ready to learn whatever he wants to show me concerning his culture.
That's all I can say about it

 

It was about something different for my hubby and I

I met my husband at church. I have lived in white suburban neighborhoods 85% of my life. And to be totally honest. Interracial was frowned upon by most of the white kids..and these are the young generation. I moved to the city and then went to an all black highschool. i learned a lot from both races. I am a white woman, but I never talked slang like other white girls that are around black people for a long time. I just felt like an idiot, cuz it just wasn't me. But yes, people do tend to adapt in culture, language, etc. when they are around other peepls. My hubby came from East St.Louis(a very, very bad area), and was at one time the stereotypical black male smokin', long braids and always riding around doing nothing. But when he got saved, Jesus changed him inside and out. He is now and has been for the past 5 yrs, clean cut, shaved and carries himself differently. His relationship with God is the #1 thing that attracted me to him. And i do have to say it still keeps me attracted to him. :lol:

 

Re: It was about something different for my hubby and I

What a nice story, God bless you guys.

 

Re: It was about something different for my hubby and I

Nice story, Nice family as well(just visited your myspace.)
Thank you for elaborating.

 

Re: It was about something different for my hubby and I

that's awesome! God is good!! it's amazing what He can do when He gets ahold of a lost soul. :wink: i looked at your myspace page, and sent you a friend request. your little girl is beautiful! :wink: happy mother's day!!