Dealing with prejudice

I get it every now and then (Dirty looks, stares, smart comments.)
but not that much. I wasn't that worried that much, but I knew of the
consequences. I hear alot of people say that they didn't see color in the
person they got with, BUT with the history of IR couples you had to
know what kind of relationship you were getting into, so....


When you entered an interracial relationship or thought
about it did you realize what you were getting into and
some of the basic things (The stares, sny comments, possibility
of realtive or close friend not approving.) that can possibly come
about?

When you first started interracially did you experience
some prejudices?

Or have you not at all experienced it?

And with more of the hate coming from unfortunately
some bw, is it a bit on the tough side(for the bm) to
either tell, be around and introduce your ww to bw?
(for the ww) Is it bit on the tough side as well to do the
same to wm and bw?


I ask the last question because Jamie Foxx recently made a
joke about australia with their being alot of white women and
he apologized to the sistas in the crowd...I know he probably was
joking but why was there a need to say that? He must of find
it tough say something like that in front of bw.

 

I think we have all felt this way one way or another in our lives when it comes down to interracial relationships, and as much as people who are involved in interracial relationships claim they don't care, they do, in fact, they think and talk about it as much as those who are against it, and not only that, but they feel the need to defend themselves all the time when some brown-noser decides to comment on it. So far, even in this day and age, we haven't conquered all the dimensions to this societal fear yet...

and as for Jamie, well, he certainly knows the score, after all, he's a product of Hollywood.

 

It's funny that most bw won't give you a second look but as soon as they see you with a ww they have to make a comment. I mess with their minds by just ignoring them because those against IR relationships just plain hate it when you don't walk on egg shells in their presence or acknowledge their mean or condescending looks. Their joy and satisfaction comes from your getting angry or show signs of being ashamed. It's to the point where they just crack me up because they act so childish. Even wm make me laugh when they stare hard at a ww who I happen to be accompaning on a date. Call themselves trying to intimidate or scare HA Ha ha ha . Yeah right!!

 

That's an interesting and helpful way to deal with it. Going on that note, the more you resist them, the more they will feel compelled to give themselves way, and when they do, they instantly lose the confrontation.

 

watch out though!

You were right about bw not giving us bm a chance when approahing them, but watch out! U may get f***ed up confronting or ignoring bw's when u go out with ur ir partner!!! Words of wizdom 2 u!

 

Actually just, it doesn't annoy me AT ALL, as much as you would love to believe it does. Like I said in my post, it's about the condescending LOOKS. I did not say that someone actually walked over to me while on my date and said something. If they did they would certainly get put in their place. Like 7Seven says all of the time,"Stop creating a straw man as a basis for your arguements" Thank you very much

 

The both of you are being defensive to one another back and forth, obviously. :roll:

 

justhereforaminute: I truly appreciate your comments and your point of view on this and in many other topics where you have posted.

However, could you please not type in ALL CAPS? On the Net (forums and chatrooms) it means that you are YELLING. And so, your posts may come across as aggressive. Also, it makes what you write a little difficult to read.

Thanks, girl!! :smt061

 

Thank YOU PearlGirl for saying it. I was holding back because I didn't want to offend her.

 

a good example is an interracial couple, say bm and ww adopt a white russian or vietnamese kid. there are alot of black folk who come off like they can tell you that it is wrong to adopt a kid who isnt black or biracial. they assume that you should just adopt black kids cause you are black. meanwhile they dont even care for black folks themselves, they wont give a black man the time of day, they dont do anything to help other black people or the so called black community.

you just have to laugh and tell them "Do I know you"? "If not, i d ask that you keep your statements to yourself"

 

:smt104 :smt105

 

:lol: Like white on rice...er..um :shock:

 

I don't think he is pretending........some of the stuff he talks about regarding blacks in the South makes it pretty obvious that he is black. Not all blacks are the same....you guys know this....we are eclectic in our styles of dress, taste, skin tones, outlook on life....etc. A WM would likely try to overcompensate and try to act "super-black" trying to fit in. (By that I mean...spewing all of the stereotypical slang that we are supposed to use) Either that...or they'd come on here and troll the boards. Maybe y'all are kidding I guess....but wow....if y'all aren't kidding....damn....that'd be a shame....just like the crab....always holding ourselves back.

 

I get the impression his attitude and behavior ensures that blacks are never inclined to approach or associate with him. This way he can rear back and crow about being shunned as he fantasizes about the reason being attributed to his imaginary special class status.

 

Unfortunately, I do believe he is a black man. His yearnings and desires have simply gotten the best of him...that's all.

 

I remember Tucker putting up a picture of himself and some WW at a Republican meet/fundraiser. A clean-cut black dude. Does any one else remember?

 

I'm with you chosen. I will admit to only being on this site for a few weeks but dude seems OK to me...

 

I remember but that was mostly a random bm whose image he chose to use. C'mon now! :lol:

 

I'm from the south and there are more than a few black people that as Mr. Reed has said, "don't have black friends."

To each their own.

I think he is a black guy.

 

why am i pretending to be a black man? this is interesting that everyone is talking about me and yet not even asking me. I have stated over and over again, that I am black just like the rest of you, why do i have to pretend and why does anyone have to prove they are black by acting a certain way?

ask me, dont talk behind my back.