Dealing with those who have problems with 'western women'

ok, i posted a few days ago bout problem i have with fella - girl saying she's with my fella
a friend of mine rang the number and turns out its his niece! who is trying to split us up cos his family don't want him with a 'western woman'
anyone else had a problem like this?
i knew racism went both ways, and my mum and dad may not accept us, but they let us get on with our relationship
what do i do bout this situation?
:?: :?: :?: :?:

 

First thing girlie, turn off your "panic mode" button...take a deep breath and now...well...

How old is his niece? Is it that important that she tries to split u guys up??

Do you guys love each other enough? Cuz if u really do love each other, then u will be able to overcome problems with ur respective families...this happens to all IR

So I say, relax, if he likes u and u like him....then there is NO problem!!

 

also you need to have your guy stand up to the family, talk to his niece and kindly set her straight, that its none of her business and to stop it at once. whats so great about non-western women?? Western women are just as wonderful as all other women.

 

Also try to stay positive to his relatives whenever you encounter them. I understand that you are pissed off (rightfully so) at the fact that the cousin is trying to split you up.

I have seen people going through similar situations. The worst thing you can do right now is to show your distaste for his family right in his face. At first he won't care, but eventually, it will start getting to him.

I do say talk to him and tell him to address the situation with his niece. In the midst of all these, stay positive and respectful to his family including the niece. This is hard to do, but even your bf will appreciate you more.

 

I completely agree with infiniti here. Even though you might be angry, the best way to handle the situation is with grace and poise. If you take the high-road, there is a much better chance of his family changing their minds about you and opening their hearts to you!

Good luck with this!

 

yeah and i normally would take the high road
but the viciousness of what they have said to me to split us up - without ever meeting me has just amazed me
the calculated nature of what they have done

and what annoys me too is i dunno what my fella is doing about it

my mum and dad told me they didn't approve of me and my fella, but they also said i'm an adult and do what i like

i suppose i assumed his family would be the same, and just leave us to it -not to purposely try and split us up

argh!

 

Pearlgirl where are you from in Europe? Great you heard of the website.

 

You know, girlie, I'm startin' to think that there is definitely some good chemistry between you and your man in this current relationship, because of the threads that you have been making about it lately, and the reactions you are getting from your friends, family, and his family.

 

U being sarky sardonic?
what u mean??

 

I wasn't trying to offend you. It was just a personal observation. You read too much into it.

 

no, i was kidding
sorry, my sense of humour doesn't translate well
i took it as a compliment