Does age change things?

I have noticed on here that it seems that most of the women on here that start dating black men are in their 30's, maybe I am but I don't see anyone here close to my age(I'm 25). Am I wrong or just not noticing it? And for the guys around my age(and from the older people), does it seem like it's harder to date interracially in your 20's?

I know for me it's very hard because it seems that every female in the 18-29 age group wants either the baller or the player, or Mr Good dick(he has no job, no future but he has great sex) and guys like myself we get looked over, so I am assuming that when I am in my 30's, the women will get better. Any thoughts?

 

Are the white women in your age group like that? I know there are some hip-hop/ghetto/white trash chics out there but I can't believe you can't find a nice, quality one

 

Honestly most of the great females are with Mr Good Dick or they are too afraid to say hey I want to date a black man.

 

Don't know about all that I was with B when I was 22-23, then again when I was 25...not in my 30s for the first time.......

 

Ok your different tho, like alot of females don't cross that line until they are in their 30's

 

Maybe the women will get better, but will you???...

Its all about game(personality) + looks + some money (You dont have to be bill gates to get laid). Although i got mad game myself, you wont see me playing games with broads. I tell them what i want and what i need, if they got a problem with it, they can keep walking. Seriously, slip a note or something in a womans hand, and wink at her, while at the mall or something, and if she calls you back, tell her you aint got NO time.....woman LOVE guys that got "something else hapning"....believe me.

Im 22, and find myself beating women off with a stick, but then again, im a decent looking guy, educated, good head on my shoulders, and simply dont give a fuck......

HAH-and its summer time around here,all you see are FINE/FIT white broads with fresh tits and ass hanging out....shit....im out

later

 

Sounds like a game to me...

 

Man, I am from a different breed because I don't believe in game(except for my wrist game yea I'm a watch man now) but I should have to trick a female to call or go out with me, that is what game is to me.

 

I feel you my man. I sort of feel the same way. I've been dating IR for 2 years and still have not found anything yet that stuck. You just gotta keep plugging away at it and keep a positive attitude.

 

chiman...i dated my first bm when i was 15/16 years old...so this is just my opinion but it seems as though you are attracted to women that are not attracted to you...and the women that you attract to you are not quite up to what you consider to be your dating level...this had nothing to do with age...but more to do with the laws of attraction...keep in mind once the lust phase has blown through you hopefully find some common ground...have you ever thought about finding common ground first and then letting the rest happen?
something to consider...perhaps?

 

To be honest, i never put much thought into things like this. I just act on the spur of the moment. Of course i reason through things that i do, but for the most part, i just satisfy myself - although not at the expense of the other person.

 

I am so passed the lush phase but it seems that women in their 30's seem to have lost that superfisical phase where they only want the Tyrese or the Thug type of Black male. But from what you have said makes me wanna lose weight to look like some of the other guys on the site. Like I'm a heavier guy and I really don't do the whole big girl thing because two big people don't mix well, ok I'm joking but I do like big girls that atleast have a pretty face.

 

something you need to know about women...we will always lust after tyrese...the same way the guys lust after coco...do i think i can get a tyrese? probably not but he sure is beautiful to look at...if you start to set boundaries for yourself by saying when i lose weight, when i move into my new place, when i get a new car, when my job starts paying more...then it won't happen because you have decided that now is not the time...your pictures show a party guy...but you say you don't want a party girl...then you might have to look somewhere other than where you are currently seeking "the one"

 

The Laws of Attraction

I like language like this........are you metaphysically minded? I brought this up earlier, and no one repeated it until this post I believe.......say more about that if you will, Lipstick.

 

co-sign.

In addition my 2 cents. I do think things change with age. I became interested in BM when I was 17, had my first boyfriend around 19. Naturally at that age and until in my early/ mid 20's my priorties were different from what they are now. Back then I wanted to party, go out, have fun with my girlfriends and goof off. The guys I hung out with weren't the most accomplished, nor where they always perfect gentlemen. But I wasn't who I am today either. Now I want a man who is established, sincere, genuine and humble, can offer stimulating conversation about what goes on in the world... a gentleman all the way.

It's a level of maturity, confidence and priorities that someone (not all) in their mid 20's might just not have yet.

 

So true what both lipstick and chi stated.

 

Chi Girl: You just proved my point, after they are done partying and fucking every other guy, when they hit 30 now they want stablitity so they come to guys like me, that's kinda bogus and wrong, don't you think?


Lipstick: Yes I am a party guy(not like I use to be) but I love for my lady to be out with me and I never said that set boundaries for myself

 

I thought your issue was that the young party crowd is coming at you, looking for Tyrone and Mr. Gooddick and not the ones looking for stability and an accomplished man? Which one is it?

Also allow me to clarify., DO NOT interpret my previous post into anyone fucking around. When I say party I meant going out, not slutting around!
Also, just what do you expect, weren't you the one "hollaring" (your language) at the girl with the raunchy pics (me being judgemental) on the picture thread? So what, you think that type of girl will be the wholesome nice girl, not looking for Tyrone and Mr. Gooddick? Sorry you need to get yourself in check and like someone else said maybe change where you are looking. Can't have it both ways, you know :wink:

 

I don't think it's bogus and wrong for a woman to be with or pursue a man who she is attracted to. And if the type of man changes as she gets older and learns more, then that's OK. Surely you aren't attracted to the same type of female now as when you were 15, right? I bet when you were 15 you weren't all that worried about how mature the girl was, or whether she was anything more than just superficially interested in you - I would guess your main goal was more physical? :wink:

Plus, there are 20something women out there who aren't immature and just looking for the Tyrese/thug - but yeah, they might not be in a night club so much as a coffee house/gym/grad school library...

I know how it feels to be looking for certain qualities in a person and just not finding that - frustrating!!

 

actually chiman you do/did set boundaries for yourself...in your subconscious...you tell yourself that you only attract 5'2" 300 pound women...so you bring this to yourself...you tell yourself that if you lose weight you will attract a woman that you feel suits you better...the more you focus on telling yourself that you are a big guy...the harder it will be to be anything but a big guy...you are holding yourself back and don't even realize it...you need to visualize yourself where you want to be...and who you want to attract...you must believe it's possible...you will only attract what you allow yourself to believe that you can attract...