Does Opposition to BM/WW Relations Bonds Them More?

I have heard it said that the high negatives in society toward BM/WW relationships tend to bring the two together sort of like the two being against the world together. With my girlfriend i feel like it's us both against a world that do not want us to be happy. I catch hell from white men, and black women, yet those two genders and race are commonplace here in interracial relations. I don't get it. The stronger the opposition in our case the stronger is our bond.

 

From my experience, it didn't help me bond closer w/ her. It was annoying but it was never enough reason to leave her solely because of the problems it made.

 

"I catch hell from white men, and black women, yet those two genders and race are commonplace here in interracial relations."

While "white men and black women" do date and marry, their numbers are about 1/3 or 1/4 of the number of black men-white women pairings in America and Britain. So, that could be part of the problem some wm and bw have (not wanting you and her to be with each other when they wm/bw don't have the same attraction for one another...at times).

Unlike Britain (which has very little difficulty dealing with black-male /white-female couples, at least in London), large parts of America still does.

My own personal experience? It has not been a huge problem (to be honest).

I live in two separate towns that are extremely integrated. So, interracial dating here is almost as commonplace as two white people dating is in the rest of America.

I literally forget that people see her as "white." She completely forgets that I'm supposed to be "black." I never forget that her ethnicity is German because some of my cousins are. She loves being around African-Americans (and everyone else for that matter).

We never really talk about our ethnic backgrounds except when we see something on TV that is interesting or historic.

Sometimes we get stares from people when we leave the towns we call home and travel elsewhere in the country. But, we are so strong and so confident in our ourselves that we stare back at them as if THEY are very strange (as if they have tissue paper on their shoes ).

We even had one hater look at himself years ago to see if anything was wrong with what he had on.

We both spoil for a fight. However, to be really honest, we've been disappointed the last few years. It used to be a small problem for us, which allowed us to have a fun clash with bigots. (It can turn into great sex...cause you have what that wm wants and she has what that bw wants).

Something has changed in the past few years (in terms of our experience). I think the haters have given up on the two of us.

Now, we walk into a crowded mall and she will put her hand all the way in my back pocket and pinch me. And I will place my hand square on her butt and keep it there while we are walking everywhere.

I'll kiss her and do everything but take her clothes off in public. I always take her into the men's dressing room with me when I'm trying clothes on.
We hope that a security camera did not catch her doing something once.

Anyway, no problemo to speak of so far.

It may greatly depend on where you live.

You would not live in a hick town if you were white. So, no need to do so if you are not.

 

Hmmm I truly do not know..

I live in a small town, and there are 2 black families here - and when my ex boyfriend came to visit we would get so many stares. Wasn't comfortable at all :? But if we travelled 30 minutes to Copenhagen, noone would look twice.

 

It used to when I was younger but now it doesn't matter any more. The only thing that bonds me stronger to my man is the relationship I have with him and not what is happening around me.