Good Dates

What's your idea of a good date?


What are your expectations when it comes to a date?

 

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A good first date would have easy, relaxed conversation. Well, first he better be on time, if a guy can't get it together enough to show up when he says he will then no thanks. But yeah, lots of talking. I really don't like it when guys make overtly sexual comments on the first date, b/c it's too soon. I'd rather be shown respect than a big sex drive.

Guys who brag constantly are boorish, or guys who don't really listen to what I'm saying. If he's looking around the coffee shop while I'm telling a story then obviously he isn't interested enough.

A good ending for a first date is for a guy to kiss my hand, look me in the eye and tell me had a great time. Guys who put their hand on my waist or back and lean in for even just a kiss on the cheek are getting into my space way too fast and that turns me off. Plus, I don't want to hear "I'll call you." It's cheesy, even if it's sincere. Just say good night, walk away, and then actually call later - or don't, whatever.

Most importantly a good date is going to have the 'X' factor that sets you off a little bit. That undefinable attraction that makes you want to hear more and see more of that person. No use figuring out how to make that happen - its either there or it isn't.

 

Personal view

In my opinion, a first date is only the first step in securing a smooth transition into an eventful and exciting night. A "first date" is about an impression. A woman wants to feel that the man she's with has not only thought about the date, however also prepared accordingly.

Let me present three techniques that can assist in making nonverbal expectations for the evening, and what a woman may want a man to do but would never actually say. The descriptions below is I how believe a man should respond:


1- Go the extra mile... or two
If you greet her with a red rose and a smile you're sure to get a warm response. But why not turn up the heat and offer her a less stereotypical treat? If you already know some details about this woman, use the information to your advantage. If her favorite color is purple, give her a purple flower. Otherwise, use your imagination.

If she's the playful type, she might enjoy a bouquet of lollipops to sweeten the night. Or, if she's of a more intellectual persuasion, perhaps offering her a copy of your favorite book might stack the odds in your favor. The key is creativity -- she'll be impressed if you've shown that you not only got her something, but that you thought about her while doing it.

2- Be polite, not pushy
She may not tell you that etiquette is a priority, but be sure that she's keeping an eye on what you are, and perhaps more importantly, what you aren't doing. It's the little details that make the difference, like chewing with your mouth closed. Remember; nothing you have to say is either important or funny enough that it can't be said after you swallow.

Do offer to open the door for her, but if she insists on doing it herself, be sure and let her. Another rule to remember: any stories that involve vomit or secretions of any sort (no matter how funny or appropriate you think they are) will generally be a complete turnoff to a woman.

3- Be complimentary
Many men forget to notice and compliment their date's appearance. There must be something about her outfit, her hair or the way she smells that you like. You can rest assured that she's spent a good portion of her time primping and preparing for this first date, and it's important that you acknowledge her efforts.

By the end of a date, a lady should know that this guy is really putting together a great impression, and it is not just imaginary. It is the real deal in addition, this is how I would react on a "first date", which is creating an amazing quest for the relationship to last.

 

The Attraction.A Good Date.

1.Relax
2. Have fun
3. Go someplace that the two of you totally enjoy, and find out beforehand what your date likes.Then go DO that. 4.Only the two of you can determine your expectations.5. Be considerate in a sincere manner.Women can spot a phony a mile away.Don't pull a chair out for your date the first time just to make an impression;do it only if you plan on doing this EACH AND EVERY TIME!
6. Don't brag about yourself.7. Make a sincere effort to find out about the other person. 8.Be considerate of her time.If she says "I have to work early," then be a gentleman, and leave as she asks you to. 9. Only the two of you can determine what the ideal date is.It may the fanciest join in town, or it may be a walk in the park after a cup of tea.
10. Appreciate your date, and don't be cheap."Cheap" can also mean "shallow" in that you're not fully enagaging your date.Don't think because you spent money on a dinner that this makes up for lack of conversation.
11. Expect to make your time with your date special, and be a gentleman at all times.

 

Thank you!

I guess I should answer my own question.

Some great points have been made already ....interesting to see the common threads too

HereIam - great "techniques". I love thoughfulness and creativity

If it's a first date especially - I would really prefer we go somewhere where we will be able to talk. I've never quite understood the idea of going to a movie or someplace loud on a first date...makes it very difficult to get to know someone. I want to be able to talk with someone and it's very important that they look in my eyes as they are talking with me. I love to go to different things and I think that can be great on a first date too...but I just think that there needs to be an opportunity to talk to each other too. Whether it would be over dinner first or something.

If a man asks me out, I would hope that he has planned something for the evening. The whole - what would you like to do back and forth thing doesn't do it for me. I understand some feel they are being kind by asking that...but I would hope that they had already gathered some amount of information about me and what I like to do and would plan something well.

I expect a man to take good care of me. Be attentive, kind, considerate, and have very good manners. He should handle himself and be considerate of those around him.

I think good follow up is important. I think the whole waiting to call for a few days is silly. If you like her...call her, send her an email, or a note - something to say that you appreciate her and enjoyed being with her. And if you'd like to see her again...ask for something specific...don't do the whole - I'd really like to see you again sometime and leave it dangling.

 

Online Chat Party!

Well, I did leave an indication (perhaps not dangling), however I was wanting to meet on-line this coming Friday. The objective is to have an on-line chat party for beginners. In my opinion, this would be a great way to express ideas, concerns in addition, many facts in which the reality of the Web-site will benefit its purpose. As a result, I hope to see you there!

 

As for me, there isn't such a thing as a "perfect" date, so i simply opt for something simple, noble and honest. Just look nice (although i could do without too much makeup), be able to hold a conversation and have good taste in food :lol: and we're all good.

 

Somebody who acts like a gentleman. I once had a date with a guy who picked me up at my house, brought roses, and took me out to a beautiful restaurant where we even danced! He never called me back after the date but nonetheless this experience made me very happy. Even if there was something about me that turned him off, he did not show it. On the contrary, he complimented me and made me feel very special. A true gentleman he was, and I appreciated it. :smt058

 

A good good date would be an outside table at a casual waterfront restaurant at sunset, sharing laughs, seafood, open conversation, and the occasional intense eye contact. No expectations other than the ability to unabashedly be ourselves.

 

Yah THAT!

 

I guess my tastes are pretty simple. My idea of a great first date with someone that I have know and talked to first, so we have some idea about each other first.

Then pizza, beer, and pool. Me winning guarentees a second date, unless the guy is trying to lose blatantly lol.