how to have a better relationship

I'm lucky if I get a fresh coat of paint on without mishap.

 

lol. my shit is sooo simple. im not into it like most tho

 

Obviously what all of this leaves out is... you have to be with the right person in the first place, otherwise none of this will work.

Number 1 # make a decent choice of your life partner

Number 2# Don't play happy families with a person you 's couldn't care less about.

Real talk here, I have friends who are playing happy families ie table center pieces the whole thing and they feel not a jot about the man they are sleeping with and sharing everything with.
One told me a couple of weeks ago that she looked at her partner wearing a onsie sitting on the sofa and thought "he sickens me"

This is more common than you think, the Moment I look at my babe sitting on the Sofa in his Darth Vader dressing gown and think "he sickens me" is when it's over.

Love the one your with and everything else comes naturally, I also think arguments are normal "not screaming matches" as long as you can laugh about it and not go to bed angry it's all good.
I know mine loves me and I love him, everything else is just everything else.

 

That phrase is usually applied with the preface "If you can't be with the one you love..." You can generally make yourself pleased with someone if you set your mind to it, I think. But if you decide not to be tolerant, then you won't be.

 

the other is stop dreaming and live in the real world. people taken tv as to how things are or everryone is thinking or doing that.

people are flawed and are not perfect.....also its not sexy to act like an adult but u have to do it.

 

Ahh didn't know that lol okay Love the one your with or get a different one!

Sounds like a special kind of hell to me, tolerate and accept what you don't want, I'm not sure I could do it, but I know people who are doing it and they are less than pleased with that way of life, not that the man would ever know, I'm sure she seems pleased to HIM

I really wouldn't want anyone to have to force themselves to be pleased with me, I'd rather they move on.

 

yeah....i think people go to the extremes. example i dumped her cause she snores....

im like ok....is she giving u grief.

 

It's from an old song, I think by the Mamas and the Papas. I didn't mean necessarily to be with someone you hate, but I meant being satisfied with someone that is alright or that you care about. A lot of relationships also don't work because one or both partners have superhuman or unreal expectations of perfection or idealization of their partner. Those expectations are often an external reflection of their inner dissatisfaction with themselves.

 

Deep.

 

I think expecting your partner to love you is a minimum requirement imo otherwise you just have a housemate and not a partner.

Mine is stubborn, messy, fussy eater, interrupts movies to tell me whatever he wants to talk about and sometimes a bit judgmental of others.

I do enjoy his company though and I can pretty much tell him anything without worry of changing his opinion of me.

It will be 4 years next year and we are still doing good, he works hard at what he does, can't ask for more really.
But I'm not a particularly needy or demanding person, so maybe that helps I don't know.

 

there u go....u looked at everything and see what works for u....(whats important).

 

Your own personal strength of character could have a lot to do with the success of the relationship.

 

i think a woman should play strip club with her man. drop and pop for your man....and the dudes should make it rain.

it has its advantages:

woman has her mans attention and money...
men has the fantasy as would at the sc.
women can feel sexy

win and win