I Think I'm Attracted to My Soon-to-Be Boss

This was originally meant ot be sent to Tucker privately for advice, but I thought I might as well share it with everyone to get their opinion on this. I'm about to begin a new job in a couple of months and I feel very attracted to my future boss, a really pretty white lady, brunette, average height. Man, she has this really unique ass...I couldn't help noticing it. The thing was shaking when she walked and it curves in a very unique way. She's the person who interviewed me for the position. She's probably about a year older than me (I'm thinking 29 or early 30s). When I met her, she was wearing a ring on her finger, although it didn't really look like a marriage or engagement ring, although I don't want to make any assumptions. I don't want to lose the job when I officially begin, so I wouldn't do anything silly like making a move on her. First off, I don't know how she might react and most people have tended not to encourage office romances.

I was wondering however, if there might be some subtle signs I could use to show her that I like her? Also, are there any signs that a supervisor might show an employee that they might feel attracted to, just in case?

A friend I talked to personally suggested that I wait until my term is over next year before attempting to reveal the way I feel about her. Yet, I'm worried that if I do so and she's not interested or might not be single, she may not feel comfortable writing a letter of recommendation for me in the future. She has a beautiful smile, wonderful eyes, and a great personality. And oh my goodness, she has a great ass that curves in a very unique way and it shakes when she walks. Whenshe interviewed me, I couldn't help saying to myself "Damn, damn, damn..."

Anyway, I'd appreciate any helpful feedback from you guys. I have to meet her for orientation at the new job next week.

 

Tell her how you feel, but continue to respect the business nature of your relationship (employer and employee) without crossing the line. Just be yourself, and don't jump to any sudden conclusions, or get excited about anything.

 

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Honestly Sardonic,

I don't think I have the courage to tell her how I feel right now...probably not until I'm almost done with the job. That would be almost nine months from now, though...and if she isn't taken yet, she probably would be by then.
Saying anything to her right now might be too risky. This is just a fantasy, but the best thing that could happen in my opinion would be if she herself suddenly made a move on me herself, or if I revealed to her how I felt at the end of my term and she too said something like: "Wow, that's interesting, because I too felt the same way!"

 

Procrastination is a killer. Just get it over with...

also, if you get shot down, at least you tried, and then you won't have to wonder anymore.

 

I can`t believe Sardonic gave u that advice...

Man, FORGET IT...forever....or remember how cute her ass is after u are done with the job!!
This is "professional suicide" if u tell her anything now...unless u are ready to take the 1 chance out of 100 that she`s also mad about you...and still...

Just imagine going out with her, HEAVEN right? until u guys have your first fight...and the next day at work...hmmm..."honey you`re fired" and "actually you didn`t eat pussy anyway, so bye"

Ok seriously, I think it`s wayyyyyyyyyy too risky Shafty!!

 

He can't wait until the term is over to find out whether or not she's taken or interested for that matter, because there is no guarantee of either, and I did say for him to respect the business nature of their relationship without getting too excited or jumping to any conclusions.

Edit: If she reacts in a racist or prejudice way against him because of it, then it obviously says more about her than it does about his attraction to her.

 

Hmmm.

Shaft...

According to Obiwan Kenobi: "Search your feelings."

You already know what you will do.

As the Korean Prez would say: "It is inelitable!"

Good advice, SardonicG!

JREMINATOR, I WILL find you AND you WILL fuck your boss...over that NMR machine downstairs! The Force is strong in you.

 

Lucifer...you and sardonic are nothing but two evil Sith Lords...the dark side has long blurred your vision and your powers are strong...but you are willing to send the young Shaft Skywalker to hell...well, so be it! ha ha ha ha haaaaaaaaaa :twisted:

 

:roll: I catergorically deny all the allegations! I just wanna see what you and...your boss's magnetic fields will look like in an NMR magnetic field. Is that so bad?

As for my man Shaft:
Shaft Skywalker has seen the ASSside of the Force on a FINE WW. The Force is strong in him because he knows he HAS to do her doggy-style and NUT all up in that white pussy! "It's inelitable!", says Il Jong Kim of Korea. It's natural. The Lion must tackle the gazelle. It's genetic, son! :roll:

Anyway, Darth Vader was framed!
:roll:

 

It says it all here. You know, me and you, Shaft, are very similar in the way we think. Maybe you might just happen to be the incarnation of my deceased-at-birth twin brother :shock: . But anyway, i've been in your situation before. At my work, well i like to call it "THE HIVE" because the honeys are swarming, literally :lol: :lol: But really, there are a lot of attractive women in my workplace. The most attractive to me, a senior attorney whom i work with, is someone i've been deeply attracted to and she equally is attracted to me. Its very obvious as she always winks at me, strokes her hair around me, holds and touches me a lot. We hang out together and i sometimes give her rides home when she does not drive to work. But anyway, the reason i did not ask her out is simple; i have someone already. If i did not, i'd have given it a shot. Although a few things did ensure which........ umm, never mind :wink: :wink:

Really, son; if you like her, go for it. Or are you worried that the "business relationship" might be ruined? or you scared of "THE MAN" :shock: :shock: :lol:

 

If you are truly an educated man who is a professional you will leave it alone. we all have attractions, but they should not interfere with our professional careers. It will seem like a nice thing at first but it will cause friction in the workplace over time.

with all the women out in this city and looking for black men on the online Interracial dating sites, why does one need to mess up a career?

 

shaft: join for free just to look at the women in our area(PA/NJ), it doesnt cost you anythign to look my brotha.

www.interracialmatcher.com sign up and then start browsing the lovelies in our area that fit your criteria

 

Re: She's Getting Married, Anyway

It wasn't meant to be, anyway. First off, I don't think I would have felt comfortable taking such a risk. Perhaps I could have tried to do so at the end of my term, not at the moment. I didn't mention what I'm about to say in my post yesterday because I first of all wanted to get as much feedback from folks as possible. I actually had to stop by briefly at her office this morning to pick up some brochures highlighting the kind of stuff that my predecessors used to do. We had arranged that I would stop by and do so today. When I went into her office and she sat me down, I noticed a picture of her dancing with this tall, white guy. I already knew that wasn't a good sign. In addition, the ring she had on her finger today was much flashier and bigger. Very shiny and silver. After a while, she told me she would be away during much of October because she would be getting married. Those words pricked at my heart like a sharp thorn, although all it did was confirm what I already feared.

"Wow...congratulations," I responded.

The one thing that I kind of liked today was that both her and each of her co-workers complimented me both directly and indirectly on my looks and the way I was dressed. Well...some other lucky fella's gonna enjoy that unique ass.

 

very good

 

Shaft, if you feel that way about your soon-to-be Boss then do not take the job.

You may not have a problem with dating your boss but she may have. Why jeopardize your job and career with someone who supervises you and just because she jingles her butt. Also she may not be attracted to you and any signs that you would give to her will sounds alarms of "workplace sexual harrassment" which would be uncomfortable for both of you. If you do decide to go through with this wait a couple of months and look, listen and learn from the future co-workers by asking off hand questions and hopefully you can transfer to another department, because companies frown on interoffice romances especially between bosses and the people that work under them. Also since she is white you have to be extra careful because she may not be into black men, also she could be dating someone in the company already!

My advise is to concentrate on your new job and put thoughts of getting together with her behind you otherwise you will be in for alot of heartbreak not to mention legal issues and possible job loss.

 

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Hi Howiedoit,

Thanks for your comments. I already said earlier that I had no intention of taking that chance. At the very least, if she weren't married, I could have waited until my term was over to try talking to her. I just don't think it's a risk I would want to take. Now that I know she's not only single but about to get married, it would be very inappropriate for me to continue thinking about her that way. I'm sure there are quite a few other white women out there, hopefully single, whose butts jiggle when they walk.

 

shaft, what was wrong with the two young ladies in the personals here on white women black men? they are pretty hot

 

Brother

Just heap as many compliments as you can heave her way..I mean just light her ass up with all kinds of complimentary shit..Nothing lurid of course.

And keep her laffing and thinking about the shit you say..

But don't sweat her..

Oh

DO NOT...I mean

DO NOT tell ANYBODY else at work that you like her..or let them see it in your demeanor or body language..

Just be as devastating as you can be...dress up like a mofo..put that cologne on her ass(not literally)..and keep her ass spellbound with your rap..

BM have a unique RAP..So lay it on her with a thickness..I mean just spackle it on her ass like tile grout. :lol:

 

:lol: *at flaminghetero's post* :lol:



Also, Shaft, if she's already involved, then you need to make sure that she isn't 'happily' involved, if you get my drift, and if she is, then stay away from her. You COULD wait until you have completed your term, but seriously, what good what it do you?