If a Woman Does This, What Does It Mean?

I was wondering if some folks on here could share with me their opinions on this, because I'm not sure how to interpret this situation. I don't jog as often as I used to, because I'm now more focused on building and maintaining my muscle, but occasionally, at least once or twice a week (or every other week) I would jog in my neighborhood, which until recently, used to be predominantly white. Now, it is more mixed. This has happened to me about three times on separate occasions. I would be jogging and a woman will scream at me from her car. Some could scream: "Heyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy!!!'" Or like last week, which caught me completely off guard (this time I was walking, but I had a soccer jersey on) a young woman on the passenger side of a car screamed at me so loud that I was embarrassed. She screamed something to the effect: "Yo,yo, yo, yoooooooooooooooooooo!!!" I felt embarrassed because there were so many other motorists driving behind their car.

A friend of mine once said to me that the next time such a thing happens, I should try to motion the woman with my hand to stop her vehicle so that I could talk to her, since most of them tend to speed off right after doing this. Now, I'm not saying this is the case, but if a woman were doing this because she felt interested in a man or was calling him out (I'm really not sure how to interpret these kinds of situations) why doesn't she just stop her car and ask for his number rather than speed off? All the women in those three incidents were white ladies.

 

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:shock: Something's not right here...

...just can't put my finger on it...

 

Maybe I can. These women are attracted to him as a black man, and are expressing it in a derogatory, condescending, and racist manner.

 

Maybe...
...and yet there's more...something else... :?

 

:shock: I don't know about the "racist manner" thing...maybe RUDE is more like it. But it's something that men have been doing for centuries in my opinion...CAT CALLIN'!!! :lol: I've done it too in my younger days and a lil' bit now if the lady is fine enough and depending on the situation of course...lol. :wink:

 

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Why don't they just stop and ask for my number, then? That would be nice. There's not much I can do when they keep speeding off in their cars. Or well...I guess they enjoy the thrill of the tease.

 

Saying things like "yo-yo-yoooooo!!!" can be easily interpreted as racist, especially if they think that teasing is enough to boost a black male stranger's ego.

Like LMS stated, somethin's fishy here.

 

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Dudes do that alot man, so I don't know what to really say there but next
time put them on the spot when they do that and get straight to the point of what they want. Thats my advice.

 

Not to take away from this story,But one day I was walking down the street and saw these two brothers in a truck,I guess one of them was trying to talk to these two white chicks that was walking and one of the girl started acting real ignorant. I can't really say what she was doing but she turned in to a sha nay nay acting like a hoochie momma staggering around like she was in a rap video or something. I know her friend had to be embarrassed. If she did not want to talk to the dudes she should have just walked away normal.

 

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The two women who reacted that way to those black guys are the kinds of white girls who think they are doing black men a special favor by being willing to step down from their pedestal and lower their dating standards by giving them any form of attention. I guess that's the risk one has to deal with when trying to talk to some white women.

To the person who suggested that I try to put one of these women who scream at me on the spot, it's incredibly difficult to even have a chance to say one word to them because I tend to encounted them in areas where there's high traffic and in those rare circumstances where cars are stopped, the lights on those streets often turn green really fast so that the cars speed off immediately again. Plus, many of the motorists, as is the case in several American cities, are extremely impatient. If any of these women were to try to stop to talk to me, they would be perceived as obstructing traffic, and those clowns would start honking their cars to destruction.

But I do agree with the one poster about the latest experience I had. I didn't appreciate how this last woman yelled at me. It only helped reinforce the stereotype that many white Amerians, when they see a black male, tend to assume that he's not intelligent and that you can't have a decent, intellectual conversation with him unless it's about sex and rap music. That's probalby how they perceive me. They have absolutely no clue and wouldn't imagine that just because I jog often doesn't mean I'm necessarily an athlete...and that I'm actually a graduate student in his second to last semester, hoping to get a Master's degree and with extensive experience in Corporate America.

 

:shock: And you got all of that from them "cat callin'" you :?: :!:

 

Trying to read another persons intentions in that situation is pointless. Maybe it was a bunch women having a little or a woman who was being an ass.

leave it on the outside.

 

If I had a nickel for everytime that happened to me...I'd owe you $3.55! :lol:

Maybe they were just being silly. If they were young, that's how young (minded) people show their interest.

 

I can understand your frustrations, Shaft because i have experienced what you have. I remember when i first came to this area of Miami. There was this girl who lived around me. She seemed really quiet, preppy and one of those whitebred type of girls. But for some reason, whenever she notices my presence, she'd start to cuss profusely, talk loudly, use Ebonics and say certain things which were aimed at me indirectly. No racial epitephts as such but there was no doubt some insensitivity. I also overheard her say to her friend, "I wonder how much he's packing" which is quite obvious she was referring to my endowment. She and her friends(two white girls and one Asian girl) too joined in and it got really annoying and one day, when the camel's back was broken, i went up to her and confronted her about it. I told her i felt rather uncomfortable by her switch in demeanor and i interpreted it as insensitive. It turned out the girl was trying to get me to talk to her. And then i asked why she did not just come up to me. Well, she did not want her brother to see her talking with me because he'd tell daddy and then ......... well, you know the rest. I could tell she wanted to have a word or two and in fact, it was more than that. She actually invited me to her house when she was all alone at one point but two words; KOBE BRYANT. And the rest is for you to figure out.

Now i will not be too quick to interpret yours as a sign of attraction or anything so its either these girls are trying to have a word or two with you but cannot get around to it OR they're being insensitive for the kick of it.

 

I'm sorry but I don't think there were racial connotations at all. I think they thought you were hot.. end of story..

its like driving by a construction worker.. and you whistle? come on..it just means you liked to view. Doesn't mean you are looking for more at all..



I've be whistled at.. gotten similar 'cat calls' from guys both in my race and out of it.. I really don't think it is a race thing or a condescending things.

I also think you are looking too deep into it..

 

I wave a "Hi and Bye" 2 in 1 when that happens. I don't take it as offensive and don't pay any thought to it either.

 

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Laydeezman Cris, it's always a pleasure to get to hear your take on things. Thanks for your feedback, and also to all those who took time to respond to this post. The tricky thing is none of those women are people I tend to see regularly. I'm guessing however, that most of them must have spotted me jogging in the neighborhood for quite some time. One of them was actually an older white lady in her late 20s or so, probably. I think she eventually moved out of the neighborhood. Anyway, I'll keep watching to see if it happens again and if I get a chance someday...I might just try to see what would occur if I asked for a phone number.

 

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This is what I mean. No matter who disagrees, you can't rule this out as just looking to deep, if this actually occurs. It may not be everyone's experience, but it doesn't have to be.

 

quite honestly I doubt what you have bolded was the case at all..

and it bothers me if a white women whistles.... show attention to a BM she finds attractive, even if in passing.. that BM who date IR, could actually take it that it meant she felt she was on a pedistal that comes down to him as if it is a favor?

and men have appreciated a sexy woman for years? but if the table are reversed... suddenly there is something wrong with it?



Take the complement AS a COMPLIMENT..


jeez

 

Thank U Sassy and I couldn't have said it better. This has nada to do with racism, it's more about Liberation, meaning women are now stepping to the plate and aren't waiting for us men to do it. We men have been and are still doing this stuff for years, heck for a lot of us it's like a mating call.

Shaft, stop complaining and take it as a compliment.