If a Woman Does This, What Does It Mean?

Shaft, can I just say something? Why do you take these chicks so ssssssseeeeerrrrrrriiiiiiioooooouuuuuuuuuussssssssllllllyyyyyyyy??????? actually analyzing their juvenile behaviour like you're watching a lab experiment?

They take the term "holla" at a man too literally... :lol:

 

Hey, couldn't it simply be that these women are acting like...um...typical guys?!

Brotha's are ALWAYS yelling at women out the car window, from the street corner, at a club, walking through the mall...whatever. So women do it and there is suddenly a huge issue? Come on guys.

Maybe these women are just having some fun.

 

I dont understand how any of us can conclusively say what these women's motives were one way or the other. WE DONT KNOW. All we can do is speculate and give our take on it.

Now in my opinion it can go either way. Now as a BM living in a mixed community I can see how something can seem fishy about the situation. Unfortunately as a BM in this country racial undertones are almost always in the back of my mind. I dont want to speak for every BM but I assume this is the case for the most part. Maybe there was nothing racist in the ladies' actions. Maybe these were just "cat calls". Who knows?

Having said that my advice would be to just forget about it and move on. You'll drive yourself crazy trying to figure out whats going on and you'll probably be wrong when you do figure it out. If it happens again try to flag her down and talk to her. The more you talk to her the more you will be able to find out whats really going on. If she dosent stop then forget about her. She's just playing games.

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Yeah, this is what I was trying to explain earlier. Also, with the things people say about white women lusting after black men for sex when they get much older in here, some of the posts in this discussion contradict all of that as well.

 

Only Shaft really knows what the experience truly was, and just because it bothers you doesn't mean that it doesn't happen at all. A whistle is also not a compliment. A whistle is just that... a whistle. Turning it into a battle of the sexes/liberation discussion is faulty logic.

 

Sorry to correct you Sardonic but actually Shaft doesn't know what it means, otherwise he wouldn't have posted the question here...
Who knows, maybe his running shorts are too tight and those women just can't help themselves (...sorry being a smart ass)

But now seriously, it means what you want it to mean. If you are flattered by being whistled at it's a compliment, if you find it bothersome well then it is just that. It's what you perceive it to be and unless you actually have a chance to talk to the "whistler" you won't know the true intentions.

I personally would never whistle after a guy simply because I would not liked to be approached in that manner. When I see someome, or flirt in my car (which I do quite a bit) I wave even if I know I might not have a chance to say anything... and I can assure you it's just that an innocent, flirt wave, no hidden raciscm or sexist agendas.

 

I said only he knows what the experience truly was, meaning that only he knows what really happened, and as far as perceptions go, yeah, you're right, but that's also what you're doing: perceiving to be what you think it was without actually knowing for sure, and how can he or anyone else in here be totally sure without being there themselves, along with these women passing him by while he's jogging in jogging shorts, without giving him the chance to talk to them?

 

to be honest..it probably means nothing..

How many of us would have gotten whistles or waves... and then you never see them again.

its a moment in time...

take it as a compliment since there is no evidence to think it wasn't



but dont' look at it as so deep an interest either... if they really wanted more.. the car would have stopped.. or days later you'd start seeing her jogging.... but you didn't.. so more than likely 5 minutes later you were probably not even in her memory.. Unless the same woman has done it over and over....

 

Boy, this is really drama queen BS. I'm so glad that I don't have this I see racists in everything that comes my way.

 

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Chigirl Wrote:

"Sorry to correct you Sardonic but actually Shaft doesn't know what it means, otherwise he wouldn't have posted the question here...
Who knows, maybe his running shorts are too tight and those women just can't help themselves (...sorry being a smart ass)."

Nice one, Chigirl. I don't run or wear tight shorts, anyway. Never have, never would. It's just not my style. I'd love to experience those cat calls again and hopefully get a chance to flag one of these women down to see what happens. Unfortunately too, I'm near sighted and I tried contacts a long time ago, but my eyes just kept resisting them. So I often can't even see the faces of these women clearly, since they tend to be so blurry. So half the time as I jog, I wouldn't even know or notice it if someone were waving at me to flirt.