If/When you are/were in a interrical relationship did it seem more intense?

Let me explain my question. I hope this isnt a sterotype/myth question.

I am if/when you were/are in a interrical relationship if you have experienced that you get to know the person more because of all the negativity associated with it. I mean I knwo in most relationships most folks that are in ones that work have to be willing to work with the person and will have problems.

But I ask becuase im wondering if maybe the IR relationships that last longer than regulad relationships are a little stronger because of all the drama and hurdles the couple has to overcome.?

For anyone that has dated outside thier race, I would like to hear the stories. Again im not trying to offend, but jsut curious :idea:

 

It was normal.

 

it was normal, but I see what your saying my ex parents hated me just because I'm black, so I guess even earlier on you really really have to like the person if you want to stay with them and make it work.

 

We had hurdles to overcome but they were mainly of his own doing, so no it was not more intense we did not climb mountains together, hows the song go, aint no valley low enough, aint no river wide enough to keep me from youuuu!!

Uhmm none of that just normal

 

I was in a marriage (for 26 yrs) with a man from Mexico, he spoke another language and had other customs, yes we had to overcome a lot, I learned to do so, I think I made it too easy on him though.

I learned his language fluently in less than a year, he took 10 years to learn mine and never became fluent.

I learned his customs so I wouldn't offend others, I let a lot of mine go because he wouldn't compromise. He never let any of his go, even though he lived outside his country.

I never felt that he really appreciated me, or my people, he grew angry over the years because of the differences in culture more than anything and became quite prejudiced.

Yet even with all that said, I do think we lasted longer because of what I had learned to compromise on, I don't think it was all good though, because I compromised much more than he did and lost a lot of who I was. I put up with stuff I would never have tolerated from an American citizen, or an English speaking person. I did more for him than I would have done for someone with a more similar background.

It has taken me 3 years to discover again who I am, what I really enjoy for me, and what I want to do with my life.

I will not be willing to give those basic things up again, no matter who it is. I have learned it wasn't healthy for me or for the relationship. Now I want a man who will appreciate the differences more than trying to make me more like him. So maybe it's just in the way we respond to those differences that helps or hinders a relationship.