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Do you think more men should take care more about their wardrobe, manners,education, responsibility and reputation?​

 

YES!!!!!!!

 

Men and Women should do that!

 

Both men and women should.

1. Warddrobe-dress to impress, dress for the occasion
2. Manners-be polite and have some common sense. You do not have to attend English Etiquette & Manners Finishing School to know these.
3. Education-does not mean go out and earn MD, JD or a PhD. A high school drop out with some common sense and knowledge of life is a lot more educated (at least in my eyes) than a PhD IVY leaguer asshole.
4. Responsibility & reputation-No need to explain

 

No, problem, let´s say men and women


I observe many times that people (excuse me, mostly men) get lazy in dresscode. But I think, especially in business it is half of your success. It needs not to be expensive, but it has to fit and to underline your typ.
I also have to say that especially bm in suits are extremely sexy..

Manners are the price tag, you wear

Education I totally agree with GZ

Responsibility and Reputation, I guess that is something many people lost..

so at the end, yes, we should take care more about ...

 

I wholeheartedly agree. I think it boils down to: "Presentation is everything".

 

Yeah.

 

The sad reality is that white men have a generous margin of cushion to be lax and indifferent in these areas..... and they have a broad safety net in relatives, acquaintances and money to cover-up and recover from indiscretions of judgment as they move forward as men.........but if a brother is poor and ignorant and uneducated, he only compounds his chances to be further trivialized and rejected if he is also weak in these areas.

 

Yes, he just cleans toilets for a living.

 

I see what you are saying but slightly disagree. I see some sort of different trends with men and women when they get comfortable in relationships. Atleast in America anyway. I'm pretty young but from what I see its more like this-- many times men start slacking more on the romanticism and affirmation as the relationship goes on and women start slacking on keeping themselves fit. Men getting more cold and distant is the bigger issue I see.

The guy starts taking the woman for granted and the women cuts back on the dressing up and keeping fit since she has a man locked down. She falls more into the caring for the kids role and losses her desire to come off attractive. Womens obesity rate in America skyrockets past 30. (not just getting on the womens case because this is a problem overall but I see this trend a little more). This is a fact with the obesity i'm forming my opinion on here. I understand it's harder for women especially when having kids but its ridiculous with some people.

To me fitness/ health and trying to keep yourself presentable is a lifestyle. Just like brushing my teeth making some time for regullar excercise weekly is a habit in my life. Plus I eat balanced and healthy 90% of time. I don't slack on the words of affirmation and appreciation with my lady either. I'm not ashamed to tell her she's beautiful or plan little surpise romantic adventures from time to time.

 

You seem to be able to read my thoughts, because this was my original question. But I thought, it would be a little bit racist.

I think that bm must pay attention even more to these points than wm. Sadly, but true.

 

Christine,
If I could get a little closer to you, ...I would be able to write your thoughts !

 

I know that it would be a big mistake to undervalue you..I am an open book for you, like many others, too... The combination of knowledge and experience..

Writing thoughts..I´d like to write a story sometimes with you, your choice which title..

 

I'm quite a bit older than you but even I need to be reminded to maintain compliments to women (and YOU have a damn good head on your young shoulders, ya whippersnapper!!). In the past, when I haven't been in top shape, my compliments were often misinterpreted as advances, and unwelcome ones at that. I learned pretty late in life that it's better to compliment, and be considered a lech by the maladjusted, than not to compliment good, worthy women who may, deep down, be in dire need of some affirmation.

You mentioned something about men taking their wives 'for granted', and them putting on tons of weight. I hope the inference here is not that the latter is some kind of excuse for the former. Some weight gain is to be expected as you age, few people are lighter at 40 than they were at 20, but like you say, married people REALLY tend to abuse the concept.

 

Your argumentation could also been written from a man in germany..But I have to say it depends on the country. What I was able to observe in US, I have to say, most have the same indifference , how they look like, as germans.

When you compare this with Switzerland, Milano or Firenze or Paris- it´s like day and night.

 

The title would be:
” If I could climb through cyber space and visit you for a day...we would....”

 

Baby, there is something wrong---

The title should be:
” If I could climb through cyber space and visit you for a night...we would....”

I like to simplify things..

 

Yep I understand 100%. Some women's guard is so high that they take casual compliments as comming on to them. Alot of people really don't know how to take a compliment. I am talking more so about complimenting and keeping up the reinforcing with the lady you are already in a long term commited relationship with not really random women. I agree with what you are saying though: GOOD women need to be randomly complimented sometimes, especially on their REAL qualities as opposed to looks/sexually all the time. I see alot of attractive women that have no real qualities with their heads gassed because men are always drooling over them and complimenting while the average looking lady with exceptional qualities don't always hear them enough.

Nope not saying it is an excuse to take your wife for granted at all. You are right. The majority of the time as you age you will put on some wieght. I am talking about clinically obese here though not just putting on 10 pounds or so as you age.