IR Book:Swirling

[Mikey]

Well...his first preference are biracial women. So...the question is...what sort of biracial mix are we talking here?

I ranked white women third, but by your logic, every male on here should vote #1 for white women to justify their reasoning for being on this site.

If being happy to you amounts to you pleasing your family and doing what they think you should do with your life rather than what you should do with your own life then you do what your family members tell you that you should. If you consider yourself an adult you will make your own choices in life good or bad despite what loved ones tell you because if they actually cared about you then they will let you be who you are even if it's someone they themselves would not choose to be. Just my two cents.

Accepted. Also, we have to think about the family of the other person as well. But I understand your POV.

 

[GQ Brotha]

So if you date interracially as a Black man that means you no longer have empathy for others or your own community? Really?? If you believe that then definitely do not date interracially never mind marriage.........

LOL, I think Mikey bought into that website about black men not uplifting black women, doing them dirty, etc.

Maybe Mikey is the type who might feel guilty if he dates white women over black women. Who knows.

Can't make everyone happy Mikey.

You're right. I guess that's why the same few people on here get upset when I'm making these kinds of posts. And yes, the world is not a perfect place. There's a whole bunch of things wrong with it. And I know what I want in life, it's that the race of the person is not primarily what I'm attracted to. There's something unexplainable about particular females that I really like and that transcends race. That's why I have the views that I do on here. And yeah, you're right about me worrying about others.

I understand what you are saying here, but remember only you can decide what is best for you in the end. No one else.

You might run into women of all races, including black that despise black men, conversely you will have those that love black men, so take it for what its worth and keep perspective of the wider world out there.

The things you encounter on blogs are a miniscule fraction, a grain of sand on the beach to the wider world out there. Just remember that around these subject matters bro.

Sounds like you also have a conflicted situation with your family input as well that affects your views.

 

[Morning Star]

Mmmmm...nope. You're stretching it though.

I'm not complaining about your preferences. But after your comments, I question as to whether you love them for yourself or that your parents may create a struggle with you.

Either way, you're still a baby. You have so much to learn. And please, take Ra's advice.

I ranked white women third, but by your logic, every male on here should vote #1 for white women to justify their reasoning for being on this site.


Accepted. Also, we have to think about the family of the other person as well. But I understand your POV.

 

[Mikey]

LOL, I think Mikey bought into that website about black men not uplifting black women, doing them dirty, etc.

Maybe Mikey is the type who might feel guilty if he dates white women over black women. Who knows.

Can't make everyone happy Mikey.

I understand what you are saying here, but remember only you can decide what is best for you in the end. No one else.

You might run into women of all races, including black that despise black men, conversely you will have those that love black men, so take it for what its worth and keep perspective of the wider world out there.

The things you encounter on blogs are a miniscule fraction, a grain of sand on the beach to the wider world out there. Just remember that around these subject matters bro.

Sounds like you also have a conflicted situation with your family input as well that affects your decision making.

Ok, understood. Replying to what you said in bold, I actually don't know how I'd feel because I've never experienced it. I use this site just to do some research and analysis so I know how to handle things when I get into an opportunity to meet women. Some of the posts on that site really tested the limits of my intellect because they're giving accurate reflections on humanity in general. For instance, I don't think we can really say that this particular post is garbage. This was from the article with 49 comments.

Humans as a whole; regardless of race, and women especially are pretty selfish, and for the most part are just trying to look out for themselves. People don't *really* give a fuck and support others unless there's something in it for them. I don't knock em' for it. I do the same thing myself, when I have the chance. We live in a dog eat dog world, kill or be killed. And we have to stop expecting more from people. This ain't some Utopia, it's Plant Earth. America; Land of Fuck You and The Horse You Rode In On. Population: Who Gives A Shit. Its racist, its sexist, its homophobic. Its not right, and it's not fair, but it is what it is. And you just have to deal with it, and find a way to manipulate your way to the top (whatever you consider the "top" to be). If you expect nothing; you will never be disappointed. "If you want something done right, you gotta do it yourself."

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Do I consider myself black or a women?: Uhhh, both.
"But people..." But, but, but, but-nothing. Fuck people, Im both.

Either way, you're still a baby. You have so much to learn. And please, take Ra's advice.

Maybe I have a lot to learn, but I've already learned about you. I've learned that you have some gross fetishes and that might be a turn off to women (regardless of race) once they've found out.

 

[Soulthinker]

I wished that book supports IR for both BW and BM to date,interact,and maybe marry not just the BW standpoint.

 

[JamalSpunky]

Yep, where the white women at.

That site was boring me after a while, those ladies need to date whomever they want and live life, or they will just go on and on incessantly being miserable and insecure about life.

That shit never looks good.

Hopefully it brings them some happiness because they sound like they have a boatload of issues to sort out about their own personal state of mind.

It seems like the site had an agenda of attacking black men who they feel are not uplifting black women and making them worthy to the world, so girl screw black men and go get you a non black man at all cost.

I never understand why some folks seem to make interracial a game of one upsmanship,

That's mostly a black woman's game. I guess a lot of them are nuts. And delusional. Black women being subordinate within the black community? LOL! Is there any other community in the world in which the females are overall in a better position than the men (employment numbers, targeted consumers, college educated, heads of households, most influential voters and church members) as they are in the African American community? Laughable.

 

[JamalSpunky]

I ranked white women third, but by your logic, every male on here should vote #1 for white women to justify their reasoning for being on this site.

Well, not justify but still....look at the damn title of the site, sir. My IR hookups have been more so with non-white women but I'm smart enough to realize the driving focus overall of this site is clearly on WW/BM.

 

[JamalSpunky]

I wished that book supports IR for both BW and BM to date,interact,and maybe marry not just the BW standpoint.

Dude, black women don't often write anything that deals with any standpoint/viewpoint other than their own. This definitely includes books about IR.

 

[Mighty Quinn]

http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/

That is the site and the below quote justifies why she feels the way she does.



Any ideas, opinions, suggestions?

All I'd have to say to you all is good luck with the pursuit of dating inter-racially. Honestly, I don't even think about women as often as I used to now because things are stacked against us.

Basically being with any other woman besides a black woman warrants a serious problem.

Wait, a "Race Woman"? One angry sounding heffa.

 

[GQ Brotha]

That's mostly a black woman's game. I guess a lot of them are nuts. And delusional. Black women being subordinate within the black community? LOL! Is there any other community in the world in which the females are overall in a better position than the men (employment numbers, targeted consumers, college educated, heads of households, most influential voters and church members) as they are in the African American community? Laughable.

I am left with the distinct feeling that it's all a smokescreen and has more to do with a basic grudge of "white beauty standards" being prevalent in society.

Many of these individuals tend to dwell on the notion of how black men put white women on a pedestal and worship them in our society. They even have a thing against light skin black women being pursued by black men.

It just comes across as an envy of other women, nothing else.

My motto is get in where you fit in, whatever works for you, because you better believe that is what I do and no one can make that decision for me, but myself.

Its the way it is and always will be.

Wait, a "Race Woman"? One angry sounding heffa.

LOL, just the kind of foolish individuals to stay far away from, when people start speaking like that you can tell the bitterness is entrenched in their attitudes and mentality. Not a healthy place to be.

A confident and secure person goes about their business void of an axe to grind or agenda about who to love.

 

[saintaugusta]

Wait, a "Race Woman"? One angry sounding heffa.

I know... HORRIBLE. She is bitter and nasty, and any man of any color would be well advised to stay clear of her.

 

[JordanC]

Why so surprised? Seems like typical Mikey M.O. to me.
Little dude could be persuaded to any garbage as long as it is well written. He has clearly from many of his posts lately, been drinking the cool-aid. He buys into bizarre and empty arguments w o critically analyze them just because it sounds good. I could probably convince him that there is a correlation between the price of bananas with the price of oil if I write it convincingly enough.

Actually, went to a lecture where a statistician did exactly that just to prove the point that just because you can show a correlation doesn't mean it is real and mean anything at all. It was a very cool lecture. Mikey should have seen it.

Mikey you over-analyze things way too much.

The world is full of complexities, oddities and idiosyncrasies.

Only you can navigate your way through it, no one else. Better to do it on your terms than those of others.

You have to know what you want in life, what your goals, pursuits and interests are and embrace them.

Looking at other folks only leaves you insecure and lacking confidence in yourself to call your own shots.

His mind is too malleable. There are too many "experts" on the internet waiting for weak minded people. They have a pipeline to put thoughts in his head that he obviously will never question. If all it takes is a few articles to make you give up what you want then well.........

 

[TheHuntress]

His mind is too malleable. There are too many "experts" on the internet waiting for weak minded people. They have a pipeline to put thoughts in his head that he obviously will never question. If all it takes is a few articles to make you give up what you want then well.........

You'd think after his solid background at community college he'd be a mental giant.