meowkittenmeow
Well-Known Member
I think the perception of that word varies greatly amongst bm. I don't know a single bm irl who thinks that word is "bad".
I think when you're able to transform something ugly into something that's your own, it becomes empowering.
I hear it every day, at one point or another, during adult conversation between my husband and his friends/family and it's never hateful or ugly. It's always in a loving/joking manner. I know everyone is different though and this is a very hot topic for some, and I respect that.
The conversation about retiring the word often comes up in an effort to protect the white person who said it. I’ve noticed that trend for quite some time.