Ladies, Do You Like Today's Sensitive Men?

You hear a lot about the lack of true masculine matured men these days. We hear that what we have is a generation of whiners, mommas boys and girlie men who are afraid to take a stand on anything. Ladies, do you think this belief about the american male is bunch of b.s. If so why? What kind of man (no color) do you really want and what do you want from them? Do you feel you need to be protected? Do you want a man who can stand on his feet against the odds or do you prefer having a man you can take care of? Forgive me if this thread subject was generated before. I listen to a lot of talk radio from the right and left and i tell you there are a lot of conversation on this subject from women across the social and economic stratas of this country.

 

I personally want a man that I know can protect me. But there are differences between being protected by a man and his masculinity. He doesn't have to be a "he-man" type lover. That's just my two cents anyways.

 

It very much depends on how I feel and the period I'm going through in life. I often look for someone who will mirror my own state, so if I feel sensitive I'll go for someone sensitive, and if I feel positive and strong I'll go for someone more confident. But as a general attitude, balance is the key. I hate it when men become so PC that they treat a woman as if she's a man. And I gotta say this trend for men to be skinny, feminine and self-obsessed is not my thing - more because it's pretentious and poncy, but it's also not very sexy either. On the other hand I don't understand how women can live with the gratuitous sexism I've experienced in Greece where I come from. Manliness is great, but when being macho means women are inferior (i.e. getting beaten up, being expected to do all the housework when you work full time, being openly & constantly judged for how you look and what you wear, getting served last at the dinner table, being touched at every opportunity, the list is endless...) I gotta run away. And I did...

That's just my take on it of course. You'll find women who say exactly the opposite for each statement I made.

 

man has to be a man!!! I dont wanna see a punk ass next to me! lol I can protect myself, but I m still a girl, so, i wanna be protected, I wanna feel that! its natural! God made men to be strong and women to be sensitive.
but there is a tendency today...the rules are switching ...and its sad to see, when men are staying home and cooking and women are earning money...etc

 

So I guess you hooking up with a "metro-sexual," is out of the question

 

I think that the notions of manliness / womanliness have taken so many meanings and dimensions, that it would be hard even to agree on a single definition. For me, old fashioned roles make sense when it comes to courtship. I wouldn't end up with a man who shows no initiative, because I won't do it for him. If he doesn't call me, our contact will end on its own. And I don't buy into the whole "come on girl make the first move, men love it when you take the pressure off them!" No. When I step into my favorite restaurant unaccompanied, I get looks, smiles and drinks sent to me by men, and I beam and say thank you. I feel that the men enjoy it as much as I do. There is no need to turn things around.

For me, being a man is about responsibility, strength, maturity, will power. A kind heart, the way he softens and smiles when he sees a cute girl. Fidelity, not because he couldn't cheat but because he chooses not to. Yes, a man will protect his woman/family if need be. It's the same in the animal kingdom. His insecurity, which only a loving woman can comfort. The way he gets shy when a pretty woman flirts. I like a man who has inner morals - meaning, who doesn't take the private outside of his relationship because it just would feel wrong.

It's truly beautiful how in a long-term relationship or marriage, where the two people truly know each other inside out and, it would seem, no facades are necessary anymore, the man continues to honor his woman's femininity: gets her bags at the door, is polite, helps her with her coat... cares about her feelings and calls if he will be late... that's a real man.

 

In a relationship, both people should look after each other. I don't need a super masculine protective man - just want a relationship of equals where both looks after the other one as the other one needs it.

 

I agree.

 

yea, kinda metro-sexual...lol but its not that distant from the topic thaugh! coz metro-sexual is the final result of the sensitive man, lets say the worst one....)))
well, sensitivity is a good thing but just within reasonable limits of it.

 

Agreed 100%. Give to me, and I'll give back to you. I just ended a marriage where he was a 100% taker. That's not a healthy relationship. Both sides have to give.

 

Women say such nonesense all the time, but then complain about not getting paid as much as men.......fuck,,you cant have your cake and eat it too is all i gotta say

 

lol..

interesting...

One of my coworkers used to say "until they start giving me a 'man' paycheck, I won't do man work." This was a rebuttle during an argument which came up between him and a female employee, who was very dainty and didn't want to do any heavy lifting... She preferred if the men did the heavy stuff, while she did something else...YET she still wanted to get paid the same as a man..

get the f*** outta here, lol

 

when it comes to the 'protection/strongman' thing.. women mention this so often, usually the first thing.. are people getting mugged or threatened with a fight every time they go out together? Are they hanging out in thug bars? why is this the pre-eminent 'quality'? not to say a man of character won't be assertive, but are women really only checking for cats who are ultra-macho/spoiling for a fight, telling their women what to wear, how to wear their hair, constantly checking who they're on the phone with, "f$@! Tom Hanks, we're going to see Terminator 4, so shut up and enjoy it", etc.?

or am I being.. ahem.. oversensitive? :roll:

 

I can't speak for anyone else, but for me, the whole "protection" thing is not about hanging out with thugs, but more of a general sense of security when I'm at home. When I lived alone in my apartment, I wasn't scared out of mind every night, but I always felt apprehensive about being there alone at night. And when my husband was away at night for his job, I would actually prop a chair up against the door handle of the house. I don't know why. Maybe it's just all psychological, but I HATED being in that house by myself.

So, for me, it's really more of a sense that someone is with me at night (who has a better chance of fighting off an attacker), if God forbid, someone tries to break into where I live. But, out and about in the world, I don't feel the need to have a man next to me for fear someone will jump me.

That's my 2 cents.

 

its concerning an absolutely fuckin different topic though!

 

I want a man who is secure enough in his masculinity not to have to talk about it. Macho posturing is tiring.

I also want a man who doesnt view women as the enemy, constaintly complaining about them wanting "equality".

 

well...

there goes my chance at "fly gurl"

:smt069