Ladies, do you prefer the lover or the fighter?

Basic question which I would like the answer to.

To give you something of a definition, I am talking purely about the physical characteristics of the man. In other words, what he is physically capable of.

So the "fighter" will be someone who can physically overcome another dude who's hassling you somewhere. If your nephew is getting bullied by thugs, this is a guy who can lay some "KAPLOW!" on thier candy asses.

However, this DOES NOT refer to his ability to mentally fight someone or win an argument. That's what I meant by purely physical.

Also, this guy isn't really good at the romance thang. He is gentle towards you and may even try to be sweet but he's not the type of guy to sweep you off your feet. He isn't silver-tongued or blessed with the gift of the gab either. This does not mean to imply that he's some brute - he has feelings and CAN express them. He's just not good at doing so. And he can't really "tingle" your senses the way the "lover" can. He can however, protect you from all the meanies in the world and makes you feel SAFE. Very few other guys would screw around with this guy.


The "lover" is someone who can both charm you to bed and thrill you inside of it. He's soft-spoken, gentle, romantic and sensual but can also have his moments of being animal-wild (sexually speaking). He's a natural at talking and conversing with you and can elicit feelings of arousal and comedy at the same time together. He makes you feel soft, tender and SEXY at the same time. He can TURN YOU ON at the tip of the hat.

However, he CANNOT fight someone physically. In that he's likely to get his ass kicked if he gets into one with someone who can fight. So when you go out on a night in the town, you'd probably be better off with some security. The "lover" ISN'T to be thought of as a complete weed, he's just not really good at protecting you in the same manner as the "fighter". Other fellas definately won't be put off by him.



So ladies, which type do you prefer?

I know the immediate answer is "some combination of both", but that's not an option here. When presented with the above two choices, which one tingles your womanly senses more?



--And fellas, please refrain from answering some junk like, "wait man... can't go for the dude who's gonna get HIS ASS KICKED!!!! Just ain't right!!!!" Or something like that. Let the ladies decide. Thanks-- XXX

 

I would go for the lover. I used to be with a guy who was more of a fighter(yet he had lover characteristics as as well) and I didn't like it.
Due to what was done to me in my childhood I despise physical violence anyway and think any kind of problem has other ways of solution than fighting.
No more fighter-type of men for me !!!

 

I want to add something:The following poetry is NOT(!!!!!) my work but it represents as well how I define the strength of a man:

The strength of a man isnt seen in the width of his shoulders.
Its seen in the width of his arms that circle you.

The strength of a man isnt in the deep tone of his voice.
Its in the gentle words he whispers.

The strength of a man isnt how many buddies he has.
Its how good a buddy he is with his kids.

The strength of a man isnt in how much respected hes at work.
Its in how respected hes at home.

The strength of a man isnt in how hards he hits.
Its in how tender he touches.

The strength of a man isnt the hair on his chest.
Its in his heart...that lies within the chest.

The strength of a man isnt how many women he has loved.
Its in can he be true to one woman.

The strength of a man isnt in the weight he can lift.
Its in the burdens he can carry

 

Based strictly on the above descriptions of both men, I'd take the lover any day of the week over the fighter. I'd rather connect with a man emotionally, mentally, and physically than know that he could kick someone's ass to defend me. Just because I know those situations will be few and far between, and I'll be spending more time conversing with my man, etc. I'd rather have those "lover" qualities.

 

Well I would love a combination-but since you said that is not a possibility-I will have to go with the lover. I can always use a 38special to handle a fight! Just kidding! LOL. The lover is my choice.

 

hmmm....
this is kind of a toughy. both my ex's fit the above descriptions - one was the "fighter", and had serious anger management issues. after we broke up he got in trouble and is now in prison. (what was i thinking?) and the other ex- would fit more the "lover" description....he's now gay....(again, what was i thinking?) :shock:

my husband, on the other hand, is the perfect balance. we connect in every way possible - spiritual, emotional, psychological, sexual, etc. - and one of my biggest attractions to him was the fact that he makes me feel safe. he's not one to "jump" anybody, but i know he'd never let anything happen to me either.

so, i guess b/c the "balance" wasn't an option....and i've already had both the other choices...i'd just stay single. :wink:

 

Sorry just to clarify - when he makes you feel safe, you mean from physical harm? So in other words, if trouble ever DID start, he'd be a guy who could sort it all out?



--BTW, glad to hear everything is working out for you in your life. Hope it all goes well.--

 

yes, he could "sort it all out", haha. :wink: he's not the type that goes around looking for a fight, and he definitely stays away from trouble....but if he had to physically lay it down on somebody to protect me, i know he would/could. and the fact that he's military trained helps in making me feel safe.

 

I'm not a lover or a fighter....

I'm a Lighter....yes that was cheesy...I know this

 

Good for you Chosen One-you know we prefer a multi-talented man!

 

Co-sign. :wink:

 

Correct me if I'm wrong, but in this game "staying single" is cheating

 

hahaha, nah, you're right...but i guess i'm just a cheater than, lol.

 

He can be a fighter on the streets and a lover on the sheets

Seriously, of course he can be a fighter if he fights for good things. Im a fighter myself (if I have to) but ofcourse he should be a lover too (just like me)

And if he fight for me well, the he fights because of love and that´s a good thing

 

Lover, only fight to defend my Family, my country and the weak

 

Pretty much both then, huh?

 

But you haven't really answered the OP of which one you prefer?

 

Such noble values



what if you were a good fighter..and you had a REAL chance, at making tons of money, with what you could do with a fist, foot, and a sword?

 

dont need money so i wouldnt be interested. and i like amateur sport, not paid sport

 

because whooping someone's ass for free, is much better than whopping someone's ass for a reason, being money

lol

"Ay Yo, i'll knock you the fuk out fo nuttin..dat how much I can't stand yo ass, pimp"

j/k

I watch more college football than professional football, although some of those kids are getting bribes to play good.