Ladies opinion prefered

So I met a nice young lady at a bar a week ago we danced a bit and flirted , I got the # at which point I was going to call it a day and kick it with my friends outside. Then later on that night I went back inside to get a drink and she was being harassed by some guys and I swooped in and played the bf role then we sat down and had a good 45 min conversation until the bar had closed. The last thing she said to me was "Call me". Now here is where I need some perspective. I met her Friday night and waited till Sunday afternoon to call and see if she wanted to go the mall and hang out, got the voice mail and left a message... no call back. Normally I would call it a L and move on but she was exceedingly gorgeous so I decided to send her a txt today about something that happened at work that reminded me of something we joked about, she txted back. Now I'm not sure whether to proceed or move on... Any help would be greatly appreciated

 

Ok look you are interested. Then proceed. Forget the games.

 

I'd rather not If she's playing games I'd just quit but I cant tell. P.S. her txt didn't really give me any hints either, very neutral

 

Look - what do you have to lose. Ask her out, she's either going to say yes or no.

Maybe she was busy on Sunday and/or didn't really appreciate being asked at the last minute. Oh and here's a possibility...maybe she didn't get the message. I think sometimes we rely waaaaaaaaaay too much on technology. I often don't get my vms.

You asked for a woman's opinion. You got it.

The bottom line is that you have to decide if it's worth it or not. You have to be willing to risk it and put yourself out there in life.

ETA...if she's playing games...you'll figure it out soon enough.

 

Thank you! I will keep ya'll posted

 

of course go and call her out! when you do, you dont need to keep guessing any more! I m sure she will accept your invite anyway! cause if she said "call me", that absolutely means she liked you!

 

damn dude..

where ya been?

 

Some one messed up my computer so I have not been able to get on the net from home for about 2 months. Great to be back whats good with a POJ?

 

Sorry for this hijack.I've got my eye on this girl at gym…I need a decent ice breaker..any ideas? Anyone . This has probably been covered before, but cant seem to find it.

 

How about - Hi, how are you today? And introduce yourself.

Hell at the gym...there are all sorts of things you can talk about.


Come on now - it's really not rocket science.

 

haha..its not rocket science...TRUE..

give me example...I get a mental block..

 

Geeze well....after you say hi and introduce yourself....I don't know - how many days a week do you workout? Do you always workout at this time? If there's something unique she's doing in her workout maybe ask her about that. Or has she gotten good results with whatever it is she's doing (I'm just tossing things out off the cuff obviously)

The best way to be interesting is to be interestED...but make it genuine.

Realize though that there are definitely those who really don't want to be bothered when working out. So try to keep it brief. Maybe say something like...Hi (introduce yourself) I'd really like to get to know you better, but I don't want to cut into your work out time. Would you be interested in going to lunch? coffee, whatever you want to say. And if she says yes then get her number and say a specific day...Would Tuesday work for you, or would Thursday be better? I actually think this is the best approach. That way things are clear to her. Sometimes when men are talking about the work out or equipment or whatever it is wherever you are we aren't sure if they are just talking to be talking or really interested. Telling her you are interested in getting to know her is non-threatening but also gets the point across.

If she ends up being chatty then you can talk a bit more but still keep it brief and get the number and set up the date. Most people really don't want to be hanging out in the gym talking endlessly.

People have the biggest problem with "closing".

 

cheers for the advise...

 

Swaziking- I saw your pic you posted before- you are a hottie-so just be nice and chit chat about her workout and introduce yourself and ask her if she would like to have lunch or coffee sometime. Be sure to smile at her during the conversation too! Good luck!

 

but MAKE SURE not to leave it at "sometime" be specific.

Those "sometimes" usually end up not happening.

 

Dear men,
if you see a girl you like, and you want to say something, and you don't know what to say -
JUST SAY SOMETHING! IT DOESN'T MATTER WHAT! SPEAK ALREADY! MOST CONVERSATION STARTERS ARE STUPID ANYWAY. WE ALL KNOW IT. JUST DO IT!

 

Mosk, that's some real s$#@ right there.

Its true.

You don't need "game" to pull women.

Talk. Be polite, a gentleman...witty if possible.

Most importantly, be honest.. just not too honest.

You might scare them away... or interest them more...

If you don't succeed, keep trying until you learn what works for you.


Just recently I've began having more confidence in the random approach. Before, I would think to hard on what I'll say. Trying to plan every little step. Now, I'm more spontaneous about it and let it flow as it comes. If it doesn't work, I'm right back to where I started... which isn't a bad thing, at all.

 

.......... and then I realized this thread is titled "Ladies Opinion Preferred"..

Ah well.

 

Go for it. She could only say no. If she does, move on.

 

Just be nice and respectful. Show your intelligence if you have it. "Witty" can go wrong.