Online dating

Sorry that some of those bros are players in Germany. It is sad most of them when they apply go to the flirt section. Anyway lets hope the bro you find is a gut one.

 

I think on-line is an OK way to simply meet people - we all know how hard that can be, but you have to arrange a face to face. Amazing how many people think a picture that is five years old still adequately represents their likeness. (20 lbs is a significant gain! - don't fool yourself)

I don't ever put my pic up - privacy issue - so I have to be aggressive when dating on-line b/c no one 'hits' on profiles without pics. So I come across a profile of this guy who is so original and witty. It had me rolling, I was competely intrigued and his picture was cute. I sent him a note asking him if he was feeling adventurous, and if so if he wanted to meet for a drink the next night without seeing my pic. I told him if he didn't like me then I would buy his drink. :lol:

So he says yes, we meet the next night and ended up dating for about 7 mos! He told me his leap of faith really paid off!

 

ummm, personaly i think you guys are reading too deep into this issue

The guy simply stated that chi is wasting away herself considering shes limiting her potential dates to BLACK MEN. He didnt say shes too good for black men, did he??

Would you call a girl a "homophobe" if she thinks handsome gay guys are wasting themselves?..ofcourse not......Or would u call me a sexist for thinking sexy girls should never exclusively date other girls??

 

LOL......

Dont hate your white brothers, my white sistas, ....

 

some guys have a problem when you have a preference for dating black me .. and they are not one..

sometimes it is a racial issue.. and sometimes it is disapointment they get no chance since it knocks them out..

I've seen both from guys..

 

Interesting, even though your preference is in black men he replied to your profile letting you know how he was against your dating of black men.

When I see a profile of a white woman who ask black men not to respond to her profile or a black woman who preference is white guys I respect their wishes and don't respond to them.

Obviously, he has an issue.

Ignore his profile.

 

Alot of wm will say your too pretty to date bm because they be them type of racist guys that think we can't get with a ww they are attracted too, and think they are too good for us.

 

I find this topic interesting simply because on dating sites, when i would see an attractive WW, and she says that she only prefers white men, i back off. I don't try and contact her or send her any messages. She stated her preference, and i respect it. On the other hand, to hear that white men continue to send you messages despite your stated preference for black men, that makes me start to wonder if the respect is there or not. It doesn't sound like they respect black men as the preferred dating option for a WW, and because of that, they ignore your preference, and continue to pursue you anyway thinking that with enough pursuasion, you might eventually "come around" and rejoin the club. I just find that to be a tad intriguing and a little disturbing. :roll:

 

I get what you are saying here...but IME many men don't even read what women put on their ads. While what you are saying may be true...it also may be as simple as that they see her pic and are attracted to her and approach.

Obviously if they are approaching with some shit comment...then it's a completely different thing.

 

Yeah I agree with both of you Bryant and KnCA.

When I see an online add and the BM doesn't include caucasian as an option in his possible matches I don't respond and yeah I don't feel the need to tell him how much he's missing out either he he he.

I think a lot of WM are just in complete denial about the fact that there are WW not interested in them. It's ignorant but that's how some can be... I am just glad that it's not the majority of them.. And yes a lot of guys don't really read the profiles and just give it a try.

 

Thats why it's so tough to go on those dating websites where all races go on and post your preference, because your gonna get somebody hatin' when they shouldn't be preoccupied with someone who is not interested in them in the first place.

Thats why when I get haters like that I tell em like T.I. says and tell em:
"Keep it movin shorty, you don't know me."

 

This is an unusual online dating story...

When I was online dating, I didn't put my picture up (too many crazies) so I would have to be aggressive as far as reaching out to guys, b/c everyone thinks if there is no pic then she's ugly...

So I saw this profile of a guy that looked fascinating, I knew even if we didn't click we would have an intersting conversation. So I emailed him and offered to meet him for a drink the next evening, but I wasn't going to send him a pic. He had to chance it. If he didn't like me I would buy his drink for him.

He went for it, we ended up dating for about 8 months!

 

Bryant, they have a lot more issues than a lot of Black men I know have.

It's a self-esteem issue. If you feel good about yourself, it does not matter who someone else is dating cause you have your life working or feel good about yourself.

i think the bigots get upset cause there seems to be a lot more BM/WW friendships / relationships / cohabitation / marriage than WM/BW. And, every year, it gets more and more the norm; a lot more acceptable. So, it makes the haters very nervous.

I find this pretty funny: What makes the haters think that, just because they have the same skin pigmentation of the woman they are pursuing, THAT THIS LADY IS EVER GOING TO BE ATTRACTED TO THEM specifically. (Especially with this attitude).

I still think it's very strange that Hollywood studios have such a very hard time with this. I mean, how can you go to any grocery store or mall in California, see a Black man paired with a White woman, and never make a movie mirroring today's reality?

If you gave this script to a studio in London, it would be made in 5 minutes.