opinions please - how soon to sleep together?

can i have everyones opinion

i have known this fella i really like now for bout a month. chatted, talked on phonme loads etc, had 2 dates. now he's asked me to go stay with him on the weekend
which i wanna do cos he is HOT
but i don't wanna ruin the chances of any long-term thing
and girls are always told to keep fellas wiating to keep them interested

so
a - is this true
b - for how long do i keep him waiting
c - or does it not make a difference - if he likes me he likes me.

opinions please

 

What happened to your Nigerian fella?

Anyway, there is no right or wrong time to sleep with someone - only what feels right. If you're asking, you must have some kind of doubt in the back of your head, so maybe it's not yet right for you.

 

Life is short. Fuck him now.

 

Don't be a cheap..easy trick..

Just because this person is "hot" doesn't mean he'll be around when you wake up..

He might be the best guy on earth...

But then again

He might be a walking turd that should have been flushed long ago..

Play it safe

See how he acts if you make him wait...at least make the mofo show if he has any character..(this will only work if you have character yourself)

I've come to realize that the AVERAGE woman is too horny to wait for the right man..

 

Now thats what I'm talkin' about! LOL!

Seriously, I would hardly think that a month and 2 dates is too soon. I personally think the make him wait to keep him interested thing may work but it could also backfire. Ol' boy may become disinterested and bounce.

Either way just follow your heart and do what YOU want to do. Not necessarily for what he wants but what YOU want. This way, no matter what the outcome you can have no regrets knowing that you went forward with a clear conscience (spelling?). If he decides to leave afterwards, then he wasn't the one for you anyway. Just keep it moving and smile because you know you've got it goin' on!

I hope things work out well for you!

 

thanks for the advice everyone

Iffeyswifey - how are you? me and my ex split bout september time.

 

Oh dear, sorry about that. Hope you're OK with it?

I'm not too bad at all actually - a lot going on!

 

yeah, it was my decision!
he went off in the summer saying stuff like he'll be back but the distance just showed me what he was like etc. he also went back home, and said he'd be back in 3 weeks, and showed no signs of coming back. so i admit i got fed up of waiting - just showed me i wasn't in love with him anymore so ended it.

lots going on like what?
hows your little girl?

 

Correct me if I'm wrong females, but a girl usually knows if they cans ee themselves giving up their goodies to a guy within 1-24 hours of meeting him.

Sleep with him already, or he might leave you. Ever thought of that?

 

If you question him sticking around after sex, I think you don't know him well enough.
So I'm thinking it's too soon if long term is what you want.

My two cents

 

I was actually being flippant when I said sleep with him now. LOL

The truth is you should do you and not try to play a game or be someone you are not. If you are comfortable sleeping with somone on the first date, then by all means DO YOU. Do not become a slave to societies controls.

Besides, trying to be someone you are not (whether that means sleeping with him when you do not want to or not sleeping iwth him in hopes of getting him to do what you want him to) will only bring problems down the line.

There will always be guys who think you are too loose and guys who think you are too restricted. The best choice is to be yourself and find who fits you. If you try to be someone else, you will end up with someone who doesnt fit and it will only cause problems.

 

Hey Girliekinduk...
Well, remember, most guys, or at least many guys are predators...the bigger the prey, the better the hunt...translation: the longer you make him wait, if he is the predator-type, the longer he'll wait, enjoy the challenge and when he finally gets you, he's likely to...either stay for more, or be satisfied with his conquest and run away...

So according to me, there's no point in giving yourself a timetable...go with the flow!!!