Orange County, California

Anyone have any experience with interracial dating there? What vibe did you get from the people and the place? Discuss in detail.

 

I don't live in Orange County but I've been with to the "O.C." with a WW before and it was a subtle, yet, unwelcomed vibe I guess you could say. First off, there aren't many black people in most of the O.C. area period and the closer you get to the beach, the less you see. Interracial relationships are not popular out there as well as unfavored. People did the typical look-twice thing but nothing was said verbally.

Actions speak louder than words and I could understand what they were saying. I noticed when we went to one of the restaurants in Huntington Beach it seemed like people were watching us. Maybe because I was the only black guy in the restaurant. Maybe because I was with a pretty WW and they were disgusted. There are some cities in the Orange County area that aren't as bad as others but for the most part, I don't care for it whatsoever.

 

I work and used to live in the O.C. I now commute there from Long Beach to Irvine. I have seen quite a few interracial couples there so it may not be as bad as it seems. I don't know how some of the girls react to black guys approaching them there as black people are rare in the O.C. I don't really carry an intrest for women anymore so i couldn't say.

 

I'm so very sorry. You must've been supremely wounded.

 

Wow, wow, wow!!! Orange County!!! Well, i've been to the O.C a few times (with my white ex-girlfriend) and let's just say that i felt as though i was a beauty pageant or something along the lines. I swear, virtually everyone who saw us gave second looks (or third in some instances). I know SoCalValleyGuy has said it all but trust me, the O.C is not the place to flaunt your white girl (no pun intended). Now, they will not openly call you "nigger" or criticize you for dating outside the race, but actions, as they say, speak louder than words. The looks and attitudes explain it all. There are not very many blacks in Orange County to begin with so the mere sight of someone who does not look white is strange to begin with. So to be seen with a white woman is like a peacock walking in the midst of vultures.

Now interracial relationships as a whole are not relatively strange there. You will see white guys dating Asian girls but please, do not think that makes it a "progressive" place. It is not at all. Some areas are not all that bad like Laguna Beach, Newport Beach and Santa Ana whilst some are just downright conservative in nature and will not show a positive attitude to the sight of a BM/WW couple.

But i must say that in the whole of the Southern California, Orange County is perhaps the only area like that. SoCal (except for O.C), whilst not as liberal as portrayed on TV, is somewhat progressive on the issue of interracial relationships.

 

Well the experience is like; you know how it looks when people prepare a lynching? I lived in California for years before moving. And the truth is if the neighborhood is mostly white middle-upper class then don't do it. In the day you will just get the stares but at night the extreme racists come out.

 

lol, so would you suggest a white low class neighborhood for more success in southern California, since you said middle and upper class neighborhoods are usually not good?????

 

Those are the only neighborhoods I have dealt with but I'm sure low class is just as bad if not worse.

 

In case you didn't know, the amounts of hate groups and race-based hate crimes that occur in Orange County are exasperating to say the least.

 

Wow, thats amazing to hear. I understand what everyone is saying about the bad vibes and looks or whatever but I thought that the county had a very low crime rate overall especially compared to other areas surrounding Orange county.

 

Now you know good and well you can't just casually throw that out tere without elaborating. :lol:

 

I dated a girl that had been born and lived in Orange, whatever that's worth

There's some IR behind the Orange Curtin, weather its welcomed or not isn't important. IR dating happens and I don't see the Klan marchin on main street in Santa Ana...

There alot of Latinos and Blacks in the Santa Ana area, that is the oldest part of Orange County.

 

But believe you me, you do not wanna walk with your Nordic queen in one of those lily white neighborhoods in Orang County. It feels like walking through a Republican and KKK convention.

 

Trust, the O.C. is not really open to IR but of course there's exceptions with certain cities The only reason there's IR out there is because there's NO other BM or BW for the single BM or BW to get with. Shit, I've been in that situation. I mean, it's not like you're going to be physically harmed because you're IR involved with a WW.

After a while it's like f*ck it, there's a cute BW for every 40 WW I see in (certain cities of) the O.C . You end up just trying it based on the territory's demographics.

 

Eh, when I was dating that girl. We were seen in public SEVERAL times, no funny looks, no drama either.

Shhh we even had her then 2 year old daughter in tow, if anything it made us look like a young family.

I mean we held hands, she pushed a stroller... You couldn't get any closer!

Look, I have spent alot of time in OC. If you seek trouble, it will find you. If you don't seek it, its not a problem. I have spent alot of time over Newport Beach, Orange, Irvine, Costa Mesa, etc, etc and you know what? I haven't heard or seen anything.

I would consider any dating sucess in SoCal I have had over the years to be MILD, but I have done my fair share to be able to comment on such things...

 

Never been out that way so no comment from me.

 

Ive dated guys in OC. I live on the edge of Orange County right now (Riverside). I haven't had any trouble dating IR while in Orange, Riverside or Los Angeles Country