Outkasts!! A shout out to Outcasts and Oreos in the room

to the outcasts and those who are hated and black--do you get lonely living contrary to the culture? dating IR when you family doesnt agree, not being accepted by the black community or white community if you are white, ostracized for your beliefs?

shout back if you are out there.

 

I don't care what people think. Ever since I was about 14 I stopped caring what people think of me and by the time I was about 17 or 18 I developed an iron skin towards criticism. Trust me I have seen the absolute WORST of teasing and bullying and racism in my life from ALL walks of life so I truly believe right now that NOTHING ANYONE could say to me could break me or even phase me. I couldn't care less what people think of me dating IR. Luckily for me, my family not only doesn't mind me dating white girls, they like it. I do not know if my mom is really thrilled about it but I know she just wants me to be happy and wind up with someone classy and so far she has seen I have good taste in girls (at least the ones I have let her meet LOL...no waaay is she meetin' the sluts) My dad and my brothers really look forward to the next white hottie I bring home (I am the only one in the family to bring white girls home). As far as society is concerned I do not care at all what people think about me being with a white girl. In fact to be perfectly honest, I totally LOVE and get off on the fact that people (white or black) are staring at me and my white girl when we are out and about. I feel like a celebrity LOL.

I admit that for a while I tried to hide my love for white girls from my family but it really wasn't because I feared what they would think, but because I am extremely private and shy about my dating life with my family and friends. People ask me how a date went and even if I had a threesome I would not brag, I'd just say "it was fine" then go in my room. I really don't know why I am like that. I hate to brag. I just feel it is disrespectful. I also am not one of those people who say "it's all good" or "life is great". I guess it is just a weird superstition but I always fear that the minute I admit to how great a situation is, something terrible will happen and it will all end.

Maybe I'll wake up in a world where all white girls have been killed and the only women left are BLACK!!!! LOL (just kidding)

But in the end I couldn't hide it anymore. The first girlfriend I let them meet was Kristen. Then after that I dated a red headed Russian girl that my mom really liked. Then after that I met Tessa and my parents saw her picture on my wall. Then this past Thanksgiving I spent it with a white girl Julia. At this point they figured out what kinda girls I am into...

 

I agree with Pey, just not for the same reasons. :lol:



If I actually cared what other people thought about me being attracted to white women more than black women, then I wouldn't even be a member of this site, in fact, I wouldn't even lurk this site, if I were to come across it online.

 

it is tough but an Oreo must learn to be strong in not being a part of the mainstream of black life and must be happy accepted only in the white community

be strong

 

Yea but it can also be a fine line. You can make the mistake of being alienated by BOTH sides. Depending on the people you associate with, you could end up being outcast by blacks since you "dress, talk, act, and fuck white" but at the same time be rejected by whites since you're black and they might never fully accept you as "one of them". Sure white girls will be your friend and stuff, but some will not invite you to their birthday parties or consider you dating material, etc. You have to be 100% sure whites will fully accept you as one of them, otherwise once you jump the "black ship", and the white ship says, "Sorry no blacks allowed", you can find yourself stranded and alone with neither ship wanting you...not sure which side you belong to or who you are. Trust me, that is a lonely position, you do not want to be there. But even at that point, you will encounter several people just like you in that same situation, of all races, who are stuck in between which "side they're on". At least you will have those people to relate to so it won't be ALL THAT bad. I have never needed to "belong" to a certain race, just be me and whoever accepts me for me, the REAL me, is a pretty special person. And the few white girls who have gotten to know me and accepted me for me I have fallen in love with, despite the fact many of them have had family, drug, ex-boyfriend issues, etc.

 

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every since I was a teenager I was looked at because I didn't like rap, I didn't like wearing my pants half off my ass and believe it or not people looked at me as if I was some one who was trying to be some one he is not I use to question my self and say why am I so different my sister black queen love the rap love the thug guys but me I am totally diff rent can you believe how hard it was being the only black boy in my family to listen to Cher and Tina turner and still had to prove my manly hood of not being gay it was hard do you know how hard it was for me to have just about all white friends and a hand full of black friends whom acted as me kinda white because they didn't like the same things I didn't but you know what I soon came to not give a flying Fuck what any one thought of me there was times when me and my ex would walk down the street holding hands and get these very bad looks from old black people because she white and I black but you know what I am going to keep being me

 

I applaud you for your bravery and independent spirit livingproof

 

I finally looked what the word Oreo means. According to Wikipedia:

PeyBackTime I understand what you're talking about. The feeling of not being accepted is real, but its not that I desperately want all white folk to like me. Its just that I've realized that I'm attracted to WW only and its hard to find a nice, decent one if white folk generally aren't keen on black people i.e. moi.

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