Overcoming Shyness.

Inner Beauty said:
You always share your great gems of wisdom, CD....

It is intimidating, even as a grown woman. Every man and situation is different. Just have to take it as it comes....
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Thanks IB, everyone knows these situations,,whether it is now a man, a woman, a job interview or sometimes just an unexpected situation, when you feel over- demanded. Everybody knows, how it feels, even the "strongest" ones, believe me. At the end, just "close your eyes" and "go through your personal hell" :smt005...and laugh about yourself (if somethings was not 100%), or maybe tell your vis-a-vis, how you feel
 
christine dubois said:
:smt005 ??? Are you serious? LOL...First I think that girls will run away from him, because nothing is worse than a drunken guy hitting on me..
Secondly, should he be successful and find a woman, drunken the same as he is, most men have a problem with sex, when they are too drunk, what could make the problem worse..
Thirdly, if he gets used to that "drink and f*ck" behaviour, he feels even more shy, when he is sober. :drinkers:
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I'm just giving my piece on helping him cure shyness. Generally shy people aren't so shy with alcohol in their system. He definitely shouldn't be getting to drunk.
 
MixedCalifornian said:
I'm just giving my piece on helping him cure shyness. Generally shy people aren't so shy with alcohol in their system. He definitely shouldn't be getting to drunk.
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This I can agree :D..but anyway don't underestimate the message that whenever you have a problem, alcohol can help

Or what I am trying to say..in different words. People always tend to blame themselves, i.e. if they make a diet and they don't loose weight, people like to think, it's their fault, but if they loose weight, the diet was great..it's the same with alcohol, if I can talk to women, when I had one or two drinks before, the alcohol helped me..the truth is, what ever you are able to do with a "bridge", you also can do without. You did it, not alcohol and not the dietplan
 
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christine dubois said:
This I can agree :D..but anyway don't underestimate the message that whenever you have a problem, alcohol can help

Or what I am trying to say..in different words. People always tend to blame themselves, i.e. if they make a diet and they don't loose weight, people like to think, it's their fault, but if they loose weight, the diet was great..it's the same with alcohol, if I can talk to women, when I had one or two drinks before, the alcohol helped me..the truth is, what ever you are able to do with a "bridge", you also can do without. You did it, not alcohol and not the dietplan
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Co-sign!! There WERE some things that I thought I could not do without one or two drinks first. Only to find out that Im even better without drinks. I can thank my mother for that one.
 
jayarmy said:
Co-sign!! There WERE some things that I thought I could not do without one or two drinks first. Only to find out that Im even better without drinks. I can thank my mother for that one.
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I understand what you are talking about. I've also had a time, when I got used to drink whenever I was feeling overwhelmed, after a certain time I got afraid even about small,daily things...Luckily I understood, what's going on.

Great Mom you have!!
 
Nyx said:
Not easy if you are shy i know this from me ..

what i think is no matter what you will read and what other people tell you
will not work if you dont try ..
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Agreed. I don't think books, videos, and other self-help media can compare to real life experience. You have to get out there and try. DK is also right in that it's good to keep living your life so that you're interesting and have unique experiences to talk about.
 
christine dubois said:
This I can agree :D..but anyway don't underestimate the message that whenever you have a problem, alcohol can help

Or what I am trying to say..in different words. People always tend to blame themselves, i.e. if they make a diet and they don't loose weight, people like to think, it's their fault, but if they loose weight, the diet was great..it's the same with alcohol, if I can talk to women, when I had one or two drinks before, the alcohol helped me..the truth is, what ever you are able to do with a "bridge", you also can do without. You did it, not alcohol and not the dietplan
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I think alcoholic beverages are very helpful. I already know that whatever I can do with the liquor can be done without it. But with the alcohol I'll feel less stressed about it.
 
christine dubois said:
I understand what you are talking about. I've also had a time, when I got used to drink whenever I was feeling overwhelmed, after a certain time I got afraid even about small,daily things...Luckily I understood, what's going on.

Great Mom you have!!
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Thank you christine. I miss my mom so much. She passed way too soon!!:(
 
Wow so many of these "Shy" people. Interesting that they aren't shy when they have to post now are they?

No matter to overcome shyness you have to let your mind have the "I can do this approach" and you will indeed get it done.

As for the shyness can't say that I am but for the most I think what I say is still worth a try.
 
jayarmy said:
Thank you christine. I miss my mom so much. She passed way too soon!!:(
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Sorry to hear that. You touched a chord in my soul there brother with that statement.

One thing about death though is that it makes us appreciate the fact that we are all Human after all.

Thanks for sharing.:)
 
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