question for sirs and ladies

hello

i wanted to know, if somebody is scared of to fall in love?
what´s going on inside of you, if you feel that the affair becomes serious?

thanks a lot for your answers

 

I used to be, but not anymore. I felt that if I let someone too close to me it would leave me vulnerable and I could get hurt. Because of that I would be deliberately frosty so people would only want to get so far with me,

I was the same with my current man. When he told me that he loved me, I just muttered something about needing to catch a bus. I wouldn't even acknowledge what he said about loving me! But somehow he saw through it and put up with me. I'm still a bit of a shit really, in that I don't like to depend on anyone, and when you fall deeply in love you seem to lose a bit of brain power and feel almost incomplete without your love...and I hate that, it makes me feel weak and pathetic!

My man is the opposite though, he says love makes fools of us and he's fine with it. He describes me as his joy and his superwoman and is happy to be dependent on me (emotionally etc, not financial).

 

i understand what you mean. i also have 3 very hard years behind me, but living without love, i don´t really want. i don´t feel comfortable with.

to have sex is possible, sometimes it is a replacement, if both know, what´s going on.but in the end, that´s not the way, i want to go.

if i feel vulnerable, i know, that something is not right with me. i have to do something against it.

do not understand wrong, it´s my opinion about myself.

love is so wonderful, i don´t want to miss it.

greetings

 

i don't know why i have issues with love
I've never had a full on relationship like i do with my current fella - always casual relationships where i held my heart
my man has come into my life and given me his heart - and i panic cos i don't know what to do

i sometimes think for women-cos of the pressure of female intuition (!) we feel we need to safeguard our hearts. how many stories are in magazines and papers bout a man conning a woman again.........and that's from teenage magazines on - so its no wonder we don't always trust men.

its also probably a self-esteem thing, cos i can tell myself I'm attractive, funny, kind, intelligent, loving, got big boobs (!) why wouldn't he love me - but then there's another part saying - no other man has love me like this - maybe he's fooling me.

Age may be an issue - as we get older we get more cynical, but also more confident.

i also have issues with things that seem to perfect - never trust them at all. that's why it was difficult to accept i had fallen love with my fella cos he didn't seem to have any flaws. as i have got to know him better and see his flaws - i can believe the good stuff - and love him flaws and all.