reasons why I exclusively date interacially (PLEASE RESPOND)

thats funny i always thought you were a black woman anyway.

 

I did say that some of the men in here exaggerate their stories about rejection from black women, and having one in particular as a role model, doesn't have anything to do with imitating a black woman, like a lot of impressionable white women, who date/marry black men feel obligated to do.

Not saying that some of these men aren't SOB's, but still, some of the claims aren't too far off from the bulls-eye.

 

I agree with you on that Jxsilicon9

 

It's just more exciting to me to date IR and I'm not close-minded about meeting a pretty BW either. It's just that I haven't had very good relationships with BW (for whatever reasons) and I've always had better experiences and shared interests w/ non-black women. I'm not trying to avoid BW by any means, I just go w/ what feels right. (natural instincts).

If I had a chance w/ a pretty BW that had similar interests, I would pursue her. If I had a chance w/ a pretty non-black woman that had similar interests, I would pursue her as well. Just so happens the second kind of woman seems to be a more common occurrence.

 

What if they both went in different directions? :lol:

(sorry)

 

..............well........when that situation occurs, I'll be sure to post the outcome.

 

A couple of other things that you all must remember and take notice of......(especially females, LIKE ROSEY, who are responding).

As far as the rejection factor goes, ladies WHAT THESE GUYS GO THROUGH IS REAL. Now, we all (including you ladies) will go through rejection at some time (it is just a part of life). For black men (and other minorities as well) there are extra obstacles:

Obstacle 1. Mainstream media- This is like fighting a losing battle. Basically, to put it bluntly. America says that, "IF YOU ARE NOT WHITE, THEN YOU DON'T MATTER. YOU ARE WORTHLESS TRASH, YOU ARE UGLY, AND HAVE NO VALUE."

Obstacle 2. Hip Hop culture- While it has done a lot to bring people of different ethnic groups together, certain aspects of it are very regressive and energy-sapping (ESPECIALLY IN TH AFRICAN AMERICAN AND HISPANIC COMMUNITIES). In laymen's terms, if you don't have the cars, money, don't flash the bling, where the name brand clothes, or act thuggish, then you are viewed as not being black or gangsta enough to be worth anything and that you must not have anything going for you. So for the ladies who still don't quite understand, HIP-HOP CULTURE HAS DONE A LOT OF GOOD BUT AT THE SAME TIME, IT PAINTS A HIGHLY UNREALISTIC VIEW ON WHAT LIFE IS ALL ABOUT AND WHAT SUCCESS REALLY MEANS.

Guess what happens when millions of women watch this stuff every day (like they have nothing else to do) and see a guy who is decent looking, has a decent job, decent car, respects women, and doesn't fit the hip-hop or American standards of beauty? :smt102

That's right ladies, he is usually called things like: reject, ugly duckling, nerd, outcast, uncle tom not only by black women, but others as well.......you get my drift?

MistressB, Rosey, and all the other ladies.....remember on Dave Chappelle's show when Rick James said that cocaine is a hell of a drug?

Well, I say that TV is a hell of a medium. The most powerful medium at that. Most people spend more time watching TV than anything else almost and when women see these images, they are ingrained into their psyche. And women (black, white, chinese, whatever) chase these images.

Black men face the most rejection because we have these false cultural expectations (from within OUR OWN COMMUNITIES) as well as societal expectations (see "fighting a losing battle" in section 125 of the reject chronicles) that we are expected to uphold and when they don't, well you know the rest......... :wink:

 

Well said,nilan. And I know what you mean about the hip-hop thug lifestyle,look,etc. I dress professionally and these women who want to pick up thug wannabe's aren't going to like me.

 

you are so right on nilan!!

 

Dead on, nilan........BM have a double edge sword to deal with...if you present yourself in a hip-hop, thug sort of way...some BW will gravitate toward you but the vast majority of society will see you as a clown and run at your mere presence. If you come across in a more professional manner....society at large won't view quite as negatively (but still more than anyone else) but many of your "own people" will reject you. As the old saying goes "cutting of your nose to spite your face!!!"

 

Just wail til the angel in me comes out then you'll know I couldn't possibly be a black woman.

 

I live and work in a highly diverse area so I'm not basing everything on one woman. Also we have have *own* minds and aren't as impressionable and gullible and you might think, and that's a really good thing.

 

I happen to be one of the people who posted about being maltreated by "some" black women in the U.S. I guess I do have to emphasize U.S when I am posting (even so, BW in the US cannot be lumped together). I am Nigerian, grew up partly there and in the United States. My very first crush (under 10 yrs. old) was a girl called "Chigozie (nigerian-ibo name). I have seen ridiculously beautiful and well mannered girls in Nigeria and a few other countries. I guess since black is not a word being thrown around in Nigeria so often, I only use it when describing American women.

Currently in the United States, I am mostly attracted to white women. I have posted several times as to why. Having said that, I know I will have no problem with "black" women in other parts of the world. Paradoxically, one of the few reasons I find white women attractive is the similarity in manners to the self respecting Nigerian girls I knew when I was growing up (of course I am only referring to the sort of white women in my life- so no generalization here).

Now I have lost my train of thought.........Oh!! I guess I was trying to tell people not to discount people's experience as "whining". Your experience does indeed determine the sort of person you will become. That being said, it is also pathetic to base your admiration of white women solely on the fact that you don't like BW (not really addressing anyone here). I would actually consider this an insult. Fact is, my attraction for the WW I have dated was a discovery on its own and I think it still would have happened even if there were no BW in America!

 

I wasn't necessarily talking about you, or all of you, but it's still true.

You can't speak for all white women who are or aren't this way. You can only speak for yourself.

 

Re: Bruh, I can relate to you on so many levels!!!!

I can't say that I hate all black women but the only black women that are my friends are the ones who do not put me down for anything. It seems like at the church I go to I see a lot of nice black women. Sex with black women sucks basically, they won't do a lot of oral sex that white girls will do. I have always enjoyed the sex with white women who are real hot looking with sexy bodies on them, I have never dated any ugly white girls in my life and probably never will.
:lol:

 

Does this mean that two separate black men, presumably from different parts of the USA and don't know each other, can't POSSIBLY share the same opinion?

WW are a whole lot of BM's 1st choice. They just don't announce it for fear that the Politically Correct Police will castigate them for liking WW exclusively. By the same token, a lot of brothas are just plain dissatisfied with BW for various reasons (of course so-called "freedom of speech" doesn't extend to that subject for BM), hence their "injection" into the discourse

Let's put it this way, if you bought a certain good or service and you weren't satisfied, you'd tell your friends not to patronize that good or service, right? You'd tell about your bad service or shoddy product. Same exact thing.

If the shoe fits you must acquit. Been on the 'net much? What Jaydun says is true if you were to go by these websites. It's to the point where if you actually see a young, slim, good-looking WW with no kids in the personals, you automatically think it's suspect

 

I dont know which website Rosey is talking about, but I often site IR dating websites where young women 18-35 are as well represented as women who are older.

try these fellas:

www.interracialsingles.com
www.interracialmatcher.com
www.blackandwhitesingles.com
www.interracialmatch.com
www.whitewomenblackmen.com personal section

 

Well you guys already know about me so forgive me for saying it over again. I am a black male of Nigerian descent and im proud of it.

I personally decided to date IR exclusively in the year 2000. I remember the exact date: ironic enough Feb 14 2000. It was because a black girl betrayed me and made me seem like a deceitful person in the eyes of my father. I decided that was the last straw and i was not having any of it again. I dont hate black women neither do i hate myself or my heritage because some blacks(especially women0 believe you have self-hatred for dating IR. I adore my heritage and will do well to keep it.

I have only dated a black woman once as i've stated and i tell you, it was the worst 6 months of my entire life. Thats all i am going to say. She was romantic and lovely at first for a month but after that, i got to see the other side of her. Argumentative, greedy, lousy, loud, domineering, vain and selfish are the only words i can come up with. However, i never had it planned that i will date only white and hispanic ladies. It just happened that way which you'd get to see why.

I was born and raised for the most part in the middle- upper class section of Manhattan. I have also resided in the UK, Canada, Venezuela and Nigeria, my motherland. 8) I was by no means the most wealthy kid but i grew up pretty lucky. My parents lavished me with most of what i wanted not because they wanted to spoil me. It happened that way with all my older siblings. But my parents made it a point to give to us what they never had. Or maybe because im the baby of the family. 8) I wasnt brought up in the conventional and stereotypical "African American idea of a home". I was raised to be intellectual and to strive for great things despite my skin color. My parents made me know that if you work hard regardless of skin, you'd be successful which is absolutely true.

Most girls tell me im good looking but black women seemed to think i was nerdy and uncool because i used to interact with people similar to me who had goals in life and wanted to discuss sensible things rather than trivial and petty things. I was seen as a sellout and not black enough because i never sagged my pants, never cussed in public, never dressed thuggishly and had a positive attitude to education. However, i never asked them out once because i didnt feel the need to considering i found solace in lovely latin and white girls who had a nice approach to me. All through high school, i only dated them. in fact, i took a white girl to my high school prom and i dont regret it.

In college, i moved away from New York down south to Miami where people had a much more positive approach to IR and i got to see that there were tons of women who want and desire black men. The issue with BW continued but i got on even more with white and latin women. Many of them have told me how much they admired my diligence and hardwork, things black women have never told me. I found them a lot more peaceful and decent and have been dating them since 2000.

I am not trying to say there arent any non-black women with bad attitudes but i am personally waiting to come across one.

But i find it amazing that black women want to chase thugs and gangstas for many years and then want a six figure earning, diligent brotha when they are 30 and without a husband. They want to turn to the same guy who they despise 15-20 years back. But brothas i want y'all to consider this with me: "Is it possible to build a house where there is no foundation?" Thats all i have to say to this.

It then surprises me that black women want the thug or mack but get mad when they see me with a white or latin girl. In college, i was constantly on the receiving end of verbal insults from bw for this. Even once, a black girl, who was working in a store myself and my girlfriend Eva went to shop from, gave the details of my expenses on a particular day and showed her friends who were black too, how much money i spent on my girlfriend. I was mad and was on the verging of slapping the hell out of her but i declined. She wasnt worth it.

The reason why athletes, actors and successful males leave black women for latin and white girls is because they never support black men when we're struggling to be someone. They go off with thugs instead who have nothing for them but hate the hardworking brotha thinking he's nerdy. Years later, they say, "oh, white girls marry black men making $100 million, latin girls marry rich black men buying them $6 million ring". Why is this? I've already explained. A lot of brothas just need to realise this.

Im not saying dump black women but dont remain with people who make you unhappy just to dignify unity. But brothas need to ignore people who hate them for trying to get Phd's and get with people who fully support them.

When i hang with white and latin females, we we shared goals and life experiences that were similar. We enjoyed the same activities, like the same sorts of foods, movies, music and places. But with black women, well you know the rest.......

In the glorious 22 years i've lived, i've enjoyed being with non black females. thats unfortunate but true. I am very happy with being with non black women and sure as hell would remain with that. My parents are just gonna have to come to terms with that. I am currently enjoying my love life with my special one and hope for the best. Thats all i have to say.

 

In agreement with most of what Cris explains, I also like his signature.

 

Everyman Cris: men want to be him, women want to be with him.