reasons why I exclusively date interacially (PLEASE RESPOND)

My bloke told me last weekend that I was acting more and more "like a good African wife". I'm still not sure how to take that comment, but not very favourably at first!

 

I'm still new here...thanks for the heads-up

 

FOR THE LOVE OF GOD!!!!!!!!!! :evil: Thanks for the heads up on the trolls!!!!!!!!!!!

(O.K. Nilan has regained composure and his coolness now.... 8)

O.K. ROSEY

You are probably an angry black female who is trying to find out what is in the mind of us brothas who don't date black women, so I will humor you.

For the last time, I (nilan) and Jaydun are not the same person....
If you notice in my post (why I exclusively date interracially), I never once said that I hate black women. Jaydun says that he hates them and that is his prerogative. Remember that I said that it is not in my nature to hate anyone, because if you don't know it, it takes A LOT of energy to hate someone. Reason being is that I am an artist, but not the starving kind. I do graphic and web design, 3d animations, anime art peices, and basically anything to do with the digital arts. It is crucial that my mind be at peace and tranquility at ALL TIMES, or at least when it is time for me to draw, animate, and produce results for people. It is just how I work.

Karmacoma, thanks for agreeing with what I do say about Black women and thanks for pointing out that ROSEY does always dismiss my points and never counters them........truly suspicious indeed considering the fact that she always refers to what anyone says about BW as "whining."

 

One more thing.....Jaydun, you seem to be a little extreme bro. Don't go crazy on us...... 8)

I feel you on your experiences with BW, but that is no reason to hate....It will consume you...... Just like it has consumed my fav character Uchiha Sasuke......(Hell, most of you on here probably don't even know who that character is I am referring to).

ONWARD YOUNG BLOOD!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Jaydun,
I want you to not be so hateful. Remember, this is a big world and that the U.S. is only 4% of the world's population (that is a true statistic, check if you don't believe me). There are plenty of whites girls and other non-black females that are more than willing to give a brotha a chance. There are at least 20 girls to every one guy and that number goes up for us (successful men with nice bodies 8) ) when you consider factors that make a man a desirable mate.....but that is for another post.

Remember, guys don't let the hate consume you or Orichimaru will take your body just so he can use the powers of the sharingan.....

DAMMIT!!!!! There I go rambling again!!!!!!!!! :evil:
Just forget that last part.... I watch anime too much...

 

Start another post about that then!

 

Iffy'swifey wrote:

Right on girl!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Just give me an hour to eat my vegetable soup and cinnabon and it is on baby!!!

OHHHHH YEAHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!! (oh, oh...Nilan is light-headed from screaming)

(Nilan has calmed down and regained his coolness once again baby 8) )

 

??? SardonicGenie, I wasn't so much responding to you or anyone else, as sharing my own ideas that came to my mind. Your unfriendly answer surprises me a great deal, what have I done to offend?

 

You called our answers about black women ignorant, based on our own individual experiences.

 

This is not the case at all, I gave my own "suggestions" and called them ignorant, but I'm sorry if it sounded offensive. I don't even remember anyone's post in detail, been working too much lately and don't have time to read a thread beginning to end, just bits and pieces.

 

Oh. You didn't make that clear in your response.

 

I don't exclusively date interracially.

That said, it often seems to be where my interests lie.

I have been in a long term relationship for over three years until the other day..but prior to that I guess you could say I dated across the spectrum lol

There were Aussie guys here and there but always ended up being men who are first-generation Australian like me, with one or more parents being born overseas. Flirtations have included a Brazilian man...an Indian Tamil. I guess I've had most of the bases covered! Hah. I am willing to be with Caucasian or African or whatever kinds of peeps if I feel a connection, but I am attracted to and bond better with worldly people who have travelled and are interested in lots of different cultures and people, often where I live these men don't tend to be white like me.

 

Re: Bruh, I can relate to you on so many levels!!!!

As black man living in Canada, the situation is the almost same here too.

I agree with most of your post as it echoes the way many (good) black men feel about black women. At one point, I felt the same way, but I have moved beyond it because I realize that I could better put all of that energy to better use. Otherwise, it will consume you.

I don't date black women for the same reasons you do, but I laugh at and pity the ones who reject me rather than hate them. For every one that rejects, I meet at least three better non-black women who will accept me.
Realize that most often the people that use their criticism of you to hide their low self-esteem and their attraction to you, especially if you seem like the type that would reject them. They hurt you before you can hurt them. One bro so eloquently put it: pre-emptive rejection.

So many black women believe in the "short and shrinking supply of black men" that when they meet a good black man, they don't know how to react (More on what I mean in my next post.). Or they know that you're so many levels above them that they need to bring you down so that they'll feel more worthy of you and you'll be more likely to consider them.

It's a pity because I adore my mom, who is my role model and is the main reason why I made this far in life. I wish that women like her existed in my generation of black women. Deep down, I sense that she would want me to be with a black woman, but would prefer that I find someone who values me and wants the best for me. In turn, I will try to find someone like her. And when I say "like her", I mean someone cute, genuinely kind, sincere, generous, intelligent, wise, independent, well rounded and not necessarily black or Caribbean.

I realize it has been almost 6 months has passed since your post, but I hope that during that time that you moved beyond hating black women. Believe me when I say that you're not the only one and probably not the worst case. So far, you have just been the most honest about it.

 

I feel your pain brotha.

I’ve had my issues with African American women and for a long time could not stand to be in the same room with many of them. Fortunately I have no issues or problems with black women from other countries.

A friend who is African American explained this to me. He said that you really can’t blame the ladies for their behavior because they are not used to dealing with decent well cultured guys. The only guys they see on a daily bases are the hood rats, thugs, opportunists etc. So their behaviour towards black men is shaped by their experiences in the ghetto. He told me if you want to date them you’ve got to think like them and act like them. My reply to him was hell no!!!!!

Why do these women choose these losers over and over again??? I’m a single guy in good shape and cannot count the number of times I’ve been told by white women that they can’t believe I’m still single. When I go out on dates with white women we both get evil stares from African American women.

I recently met a sweet attractive Chinese lady at work and I’ve never been attracted to Asian women. In the past I’ve had a few Chinese women flirt with me but it never really amounted to anything. But this lady went out of her way to make sure I knew she was interested in me. She’s attractive very outgoing and treats me like a king.

 

Hey everyone,
All I can say is WOW :shock: ......................
Apparently I haven't gone through this thing alone.....

Genuine and astorbryan thanks for letting me know that this behavior amongst the so-called (sisters) extend across the U.S. borders. I have been to Canada once (for a family reunion), but I did not meet any BW nor was I trying to.

As you know, from my original post, I know all of you guys' pain......
I come from a hard-working family that taught me that we live in a world that would rather see minorities dead, broke, and poor..... The only way to defeat this is to better yourself through varieties of means (EX: getting an education, becoming cultured, etc.) but in the black community this will make you a target of bullying, ostracism, etc. One main reason is because hip-hop culture has almost redefined what it means to be black in a negative way.....(I'll save that for another post) :lol:

Then once a black man makes it (meaning that his sacrifices and hard work starts paying off) then all of a sudden, he is supposed to feel obligated to date black women. :roll: OH PLEASE

It always makes me laugh to think that the very women that have always laughed at nerds, mocked and ignored studious guys, and looked down on guys that embrace other music genres (instead of hip-hop bull-shit) are the very women that feel that once a black man hard work starts paying off, he dates outside his ethnic group. :roll:

Is it me or are a lot of these women just missing the point?
If he was too (nerdy) for you then don't be surprised if in latter years he drops BW altogether.

Sorry, I would go into more detail.....but my time is short......

astorbryan, go ahead, mingle and have fun with the chinese girl 8) she seems to be the type to appreciate a good man......

 

Hi. 26 yrs old white girl here. I dont date exclusively BM, I couldnt even if I wanted to as in my country there are so few BM.
Just a bit confused (outraged) here: So the reason you (BM) even looked our way is because BW give you a bad attitude ? So the reverse of the myth that BM date WM rejects is true? We date the rejects of BW?
Hmmm

 

No Seychelles that is not true....

What you have to understand is that it is not about the attitude of Black Women at all...at least in my case I just want someone who appreciates me (read the beginning post on page 1). What you also have to understand is that in the African American community, it is not seen as cool to get an education, use proper language, and be intellectually stimulated. Now don't get me wrong, hip-hop culture is a wonderful thing, but it has aspects to it that are very regressive and damaging. For example: A Black man is not seen as a man if he is not a thug, a hustler, a player, or someone who is ballin' out of control (in laymen's terms, a guy with a lot of money). A black man who works hard is seen as a nobody and a nerd until his hard work pays off. I understand that some women from ALL ethnic groups share this same mentality, but with our culture, we a given impossible standards to meet because of these hip hop videos.

Everyone (including myself) simply want someone who appreciates them. In my case, it has always been non-black women (not just white women) because they don't place these silly cultural restrictions (being a thug, player, or baller) on you. Black women (NOT ALL OF THEM) are more concerned with you acting black, where as other ethnic groups of women are simply concerned about you just being a man and doing what a real man is supposed to do, like being financially stable, cultured, etc.

Personally, I have always preferred white girls (as well as spanish, asian, dominican, etc. girls). 8)

 

ok thanks for clearing me out. But if a BW would be looking for a guy like you (for someone who is educated, serious, responsable, working hard to get somewhere), why wouldnt u date her? U said u date WW exclusively. Do ALL BW only look at you only when the results of the hard work paid off?

 

Sorry Nilan, I havent paid enough attention to your response. You've already said you preffer non-black women anyway. And probably from some sort of vengence too, if they didnt want you then, why should you want them now.

 

Ya' damn skippy!!!!!!!!! 8)
I have worked too hard all of my life to resort to dating, marring, or having children with the very women that have looked down on me all my life for doing what a REAL man does, as THAT IS TO ESTABLISH HIMSELF TO WHERE HE CAN PROVIDE FOR HIMSELF, HIS WOMAN, AND FOR A POTENTIAL FAMILY. I can only stay young and pretty for so long...... 8) so I have neither the time for games or for waiting for women to snap out of their twisted mentalities.

Seychelles,
I am truly sorry if that sounds harsh (because you sound like a compassionate girl), but you have to understand something.....
A lot of guys out there (like me) come from very humble beginnings as far as dating is concerned simply because we were focused on building a future. Once you come from being the guy that girls never want (for the first 25 years of my life in my case, a late bloomer :lol: ) to being a guy that has started having many more options, you whole view of women changes. Each girl you meet that has interest in you makes you wonder if she would have been interested back in the days when you were in the library toiling with books, or back when you were not as muscular or whatever. I don't regret God making me go through this harshness of life because it has built good character within me to the point where I am automatically forced to have to look at a girl beyond her physical traits......

I understand that you may or may not be able to relate to this so imagine if you were overweight for your entire youth. If you were to slim down later in life, you would have a totally different view on men would you not? You would ask yourself if this guy would have dated me back in the day, right? It would also build some hardness within you.

But all in all, you are right on. I would not call it vengeance though because I know that all black women are not like this.....
I just don't feel obligated to date them since other ethnic groups have accepted me with open arms when they (BW) shunned me.

 

I understand.

What is skippy though?