So...apparently, she now "needs" equal footing....

...and hit me with an ultimatum bug regarding exclusivity and "equality." What I figure, there are too many women that have an tedious habit -- putting undo stress on one healthly relationship. You see....after reestablishing "the relationship" she now wants to change "the rule" of "the relationship -- whilst in one emotional bent, given me a shit list of 'things' I mustn't continue. It seems when one puts stock into a relationship, men and women, they want to vie for control quite pathetically.

It is almost abhorrent, deemed insulting to her, that a man, financially and morally, can and will do right. I partly blame her friends and the rampart jealously, and hinderous female psychology and their "hive mind complexes." They seem to systematically in tune each others thoughts then you are having an "relationship" with NOT just one women but the whole lot of incomprehensive female jargon. Though I mustn't be mistaken, I do value a "like minded" opinion, but not one if it supersedes rationality, which I have come to loathe deeply.

It is also deemed insulting for a women to be traditional and benevolent and for a man to want a women whom is traditional and benevolent and not some she male...male wanta be. I am sure the majority of men would agree with me when I say this: men would absolutely "love" nothing more for a women whom is traditional and benevolent minded -- consciously full of discussable ideas, concepts, knowledge and inspiration that are tangible, substantial things which will actually make a damn difference in people lives.

The trouble I come to realise, is that we will always vie for power. Which is why the majority of men become "a leper to relationships" -- because we live in the interstice between clans where nature and nurture are meaningless concepts, theories thrown about in the air and "equality" which doesn't exist by nature or nurture is an ideal. Of course I have tried to tabulate it, since it doesn't come intuitively to me, it is a way I try to make sense of it anyway.

 

what are you talking about?? are you having a problem with your girl?? dont try to figure em out, just say yes honey and go fishing bro!

 

Good one!

 

True words. Hear, hear.


PS:
Why do women get like that? Hormones? Double-edges swords those hormone things. Can't they just make women pretty, and curvy without making them catty?

 

You're pissed off because your girlfriend's told you that she wants you to help around the house more? Did I translate that correctly? :lol:

Equality is good - too many relationships are about power struggles including my own, but you have to be able to fix it in a gentle way without screaming or whinging.

 

If only I'd read that on Monday evening...

I was busy on Ebay, so I asked Iffy to put the oven on - the bastard refused. So we argued, I told him to fuck off then I stormed off to bed...hungry! Nobody gained anything from that argument!

 

:lol The Golden Rule heh!? That must be a few years of marriage!? To keep the 'peace' one must remain aloof, that doesn't sit well with me, actually, I find it a bit daunting.

:lol: There aren't too many "chores" to do around an city apartment and I haven't the time to invest in property -- but that isn't the problem; fundamentally speaking, there is little equivalence of "equality" between us to begin with. Equal...equal...equal...so what does this pertain to!? Just admit it, yall have a habit of stressing us out and I think some of you get a twisted sensation out of it. Is it really too detestable to be benevolent and have one person making all the decisions!?

 

the golden rule?? I dont see the golden rule written anywhere 7seven.

 

Benevolence in what sense? you mean, being charitable enough to let you have your way.

You're really on confusing form today, 7seven, must have riled you!

Iffeyswifey: I'm no better really, should practice what I preach. Well, I try, but when the boy woke me up after only a few hours sleep because *he couldn't sleep* and put a movie on (I neeeeed my sleep), then suggested I get up and get breakfast, he didn't get the most friendly response from me.

 

Re: So...apparently, she now "needs" equal footing

if she wants to help with bills then let her do it. more time to spend doing what you want, or just plain putting your feet up.

 

I'd have killed him! But we're hijacking the thread again...

 

It's 7Seven's fault for being very unclear about what he's talking about . 7Seven please go over it again in words of 2 syllables or under, thank you please.

 

damn, thanks Mistress, I thought he was speaking a foreign language. here in teh US, we call that prison lingo. guys learn big words in prison and then use them when trying to sound smart.

in this case it just sounds like gibberish

 

Oh, guys. It's just part of 7's charm. He's too aloof to push spell check, too cool to stop confusing us Americans w/ the "an", and too intellectual to spell every detail out for us.

Sounds like you may not be practicing what you preach Almighty 7. Stop picking the drama queens who are influenced by her feminist (femicunt) friends. And stop fucking one lady and wanting another. If you have no feelings for the lady, she will be easy to drop to find another. Sorry, she ruined the sweet deal that you had going. You know better than to think that ladies are cool with stagnancy. We don't work that way. You may have to go without getting your dick sucked for a few months but - no frustrations.

But you, my dear, know that already.

(excuse my brazenness and foul language - but there is a place for it)

 

Re: So...apparently, she now "needs" equal footing

:lol: Yeah it happens. By the way, I was laughing yesterday because I was talking to a co-worker of mine, a young guy from Yugoslavia and his girlfriend is Puerto-Rican - his idea is that a woman must "look pretty, smile, be quiet and cook". His girl is just like that, always smiles, and he brings lunches that make me green with envy! I asked him, so doesn't she yell at you when she gets pissed? She doesn't smile then, does she? He goes, I treat her good! I don't do bad stuff! And I was like, hey that sounds like a PERFECT relationship to me!

 

Lain-i didnt say that 7 was doing it with any malice, my problem is that its illegible. being intellectual doesnt mean that one is not to be understood, his statements at least has to be coherent.

i am sure he is brilliant, and perhaps the rest of us are just idiots--but help the rest of us out and speak where we "idiots and peons" can understand it.

if one looks at what everyone does for living, one would know that that there isnt one uneducated person in the bunch(whether formal or informal an education).

both mistress and I have masters degrees from the most prestigious schools in the world, Cris is a lawyer and the others are successful and very accomplished---why do we all need a "Secret Decoder Ring" to decipher is paragraphs?

 

:lol:

I do "practice what I preach." "The Drama" was nonexistent until reestablishing "the relationship." Yes, her friends are an nuisance, the hen leader is the "empowered" one uber feminist and is poisoning an young impressionable women, whilst destroying her benevolent nature.

What constitutes a person in benevolence or to be benevolent!?!? Compassionate, considerate, caring, nurturing, humane, magnanimous, amicable, good natured, etc, etc, etc......

Finally, a man whom knows what in bloody hell I am talking about. Apparently, I am controlling her by taking care of her finances.

 

A young lady's friends are a representative of her. If they do have differing views, however, she must allow their good to influence her while holding to her own values. Wishy-washiness is not attractive.

My best friend is agnostic and a feminist. I value her opinion, her kind character, and intelligent thoughts. However, she has never made me change my mind on anything. Nor does she feel she needs to. I would not spend time with a woman who feels that she needs to form me as her follower. Also, no one can be "poisoned" unless she makes herself vulnerable to it.

A gentle woman is not weak. For example, I am impressed with Moskvichka's posts. She, to me, is the epitome of a strong, gentle woman. I'm sure that "hen leaders" are not within her social group.

 

Oh 7Seven, you're so threatened when you can't control a lady - it's really quite funny. :lol:

 

What is amusing, is that, her hen leader, the uber feminist will be single for over 2 years and will still be single at 36 and complains all the men like me only want to be catered to by "pretty young things." But, is it WRONG to be WANT to be catered to, and for a women to be nurturing and for a man to make all the decisions!? NO...women can compete with me on a financial level, so why try to!?

After the poisoning induced by her "friend" I have to challenge to her think for herself and to NOT want to change her nature because of some psycho's jealousy. Which is the running theme of "the relationship" and why I will always continue to "sample."

Actually, the only person trying to vie for control is her, instead of just letting it be what it is. We both know where each other stands, so what try to change, if it works!?