Social media flooded with friend requests from mostly men in Africa from other friends

In light of my post in another thread about my interaction with a guy who was not interested, and I got some feedback about that, I thought I might ask about this.

My socials is linked with a couple of people I know in person who are into the same type of drumming I do, and they knew some friends from Africa who are also drummers and are linked with them on social media. Well social media, tends to make suggestions of friends of friends, and somehow, my drummer friends African friends found my social media page.

When they found it, it was like the total opposite of the guy I was trying to talk to, these guys were flooding my page with friend requests, and messages, some of the messages were in French, which is spoken in their countries, (some of them were from Guinea). One of them saying they wanted me, loved me, and would never forget me, and another suggested checking in on one another every night.

At one point there were multiple guys messaging me at once, and one even, made an audio call, and my iPad was ringing with an Apple audio call.

This kind of freaked me out, I did not know what to do, since I have never had this kind of attention before, and it was an extreme other end of the spectrum from what I have been dealing with. I did not respond to the audio calls, and most of the messages I did not either, I might have said nice to meet you to a couple of the guys and that was it.

Now before anybody gets on me about stereotypes, let me say, I am aware of marriage scammers and cat fishers, who try to seduce foreign or white women into marrying them for immigration or green cards. This is a fact, I am not trying to put anybody down from Africa, to those from the Diaspora, please do not get offended, I know not all of you are like that, but I am honestly just asking here for little input, that is all.

I even knew of a white women in my area, who had married a man from Senegal, had children, and then due to some troubles ended up divorcing, and one day I saw her pushing a stroller with her kids with her friends, without her husband with her. Some people close to them had suggested the guy just married her to get a green card.

 

Africsn, Indian and Middle Eastern men have been aggresively "pursuing" Western women since Yahoo Messenger days and somewhat AOL messenger.
Half today are program bots. Don't get baited.

Best way to e-connect is through (non -romantic) SM interest groups. Slowly, you can get to acquaint yourself with them on neutral grounds.

 

On occasion, I'll get a bunch of Facebook friend requests from guys who are doctors working in Syria. Uh no. Plus, I'm allegedly unsearchable on Facebook, so I don't know how they find me.

 

I have tired to go into my settings to make some adjustments; no phone numbers, emails, anything like that, and even removed my relationship status, do not have my current residence either.

 

Yes, I am generally selective about what I post, and I do not post that often, but I do have some actual friends I know and other stuff of which I need information about, and they only have that on social media of which I am linked. I don't get people who post things like their meals and such, unless they are cooks or something.

Should I delete all the friend requests I have had over the last few months? the list is long and growing, will they know I deleted them? what I fear is someone might find out, and go all weird on me or stalk me or something, so as of now, I just ignore and do not respond to them.

I also keep records of all my social medias, passwords, when I opened accounts, I want to know all my online details. what happened to MySpace? and if anybody has an account with them still, should that be deleted?

I also recently had a longtime childhood friend reach out to me, whom I have not had contact with for a long time, and my mistake was replying to their message, saying hi, I did not realize all the trouble they have had, since the last time I saw them was many years ago as kids. After this, the floodgates opened, they have been homeless, on drugs, lost kids, molested while they were young, mental health issues, etc, and I said I hope they do ok, I tried to be nice, but I then backed off, since I do not want involvement in their mess, but I felt bad as well. They kept sending me gifs and dirty jokes for a short while, but so far, all is quiet from them now, since I just did not respond to them again. I felt bad, but like I said, I have seen that getting involved with someone that troubled does not often end well.

 

Continue to ignore any friend requests especially if the requestors have taken the hint & stopped sending things to you. Don't delete the friend requests if you believe any of the people who send them to you could be capable of weird anti-social & harassing behavior.

No need to feel bad for not wanting to engage with someone you once knew & now discovered they have a ton of negative baggage attached to them now. It's not you responsibility to help them with their messes if you played no part in how they ended up in dire straits.

 

LOOOOL This is a fact, Block all of them, I repeat, block block block.
Not just white women, even I get random friend requests from people that just search my name up because it's familiar to them and they just assume I should be friends with them because I live in Europe.
Facebook in most African countries is stalker central.

Block them immediately.

 

Ok, will they find out I blocked them, and get angry or stalk me? that is what I am afraid of if I do block them.

 

No, they just normalize finding random people on Facebook to send a request to, they probably wouldn't remember you. And no, once they try to search your name again, you won't appear on their search bar

 

Informative indeed. On my Facebook page l get a friend request from a pretty woman from Russia the problem is the profile has a few details. I had a account on VK and tried to friend a Ukrainian or Russian female who was friends of a African DJ. No luck.

 

It may or may have not been the same women you were trying to get a hold of, but I have heard of Russian women cat fishing American men, if you are in the US, a well known scam, I would edit your social media, and maybe leave off your current location or residence if that is a setting choice on your socials, to avoid that.

 

One tried but,l didn't respond because her looks are too good to be true.Plus,with a sparce profile she has no friends.

 

Just ignore them, simple as that. Anyone I don’t personally know I just ignore their requests. If they send you messages, block. Maybe change your settings to „only my friends can see my posts“.