Soulmates

My apologies if this topic has been discussed before - do you believe in soulmates? There's only one person out there for you and it's already been pre-destined?

I do not and have a fabulous theory to share as to what I do believe in! :wink:

I believe in the 5/30 theory - which is my creation (patent-pending...)! In life you will meet around 30 people that you click with. Talk, laugh, attraction, it's all there - for about 6 mos. After that the glow fades away and you realize that you should have just remained friends.

Now there is a second group of about 5 people. Any one of these people could make you happy for the rest of your life - if you were to both put effort into it. There is a deeper connection. That glow maintains.

The problem? We can't tell which is which during the first 6 mos! So people are constantly confusing a 30 for a 5 and by the time they realize they are with a mere 30 person - they are already engaged, pregnant, too emotionally involved to break it off.

That is also why there is so much cheating! People who are with a 30 and have become unhappy then meet a 5 (or maybe even just another 30) and can't resist the temptation.

Just think back to past relations and how many started of gang-busters but fizzled out. And think back to those few people that you really loved, and would like to have another go at.

 

Hmm interesting post and I like your "scientific" calculation that you have going on there :lol:

Well I don't believe in Soulmates and in having one partner out there pre destined for you to meet. I hope that the mood, brain, perception, sensual and emotional feelers are all out there and on the right mark when the man who could be MY man crosses my path.
I believe in chemistry big time but what happens when "the right one" comes along and let's say you've had the shittiest day in a long time and you are really fed up, will you miss your chance then or will the chemistry be strong enough for you to open your eyes? Sorry I am thinking out loud... :smt017

 

That's how the 5/30 theory is so comforting, b/c even if chemistry doesn't win out, you are just passing by 1/5, but you still have 2, 3, 4 and 5 out there!

I just think the idea of one soulmate is just too scary. There are a gazillion people on this planet (another eerily accurate scientific calculation) so how in the world is my soulmate going to bump into me? What if my soulmate is, god forbid, dj4monie and he never comes back from Europe? :lol: :lol: All will be lost... :smt022

 

Yeah, I totally agree with you.

The notion of a soulmate is goes as far back as the ancient Greeks who believed that souls are created in pairs (twin souls) but born separately and

Read more about it in wikipedia http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Soulmate

 

Interesting topic. I honestly don't know, as far as soulmates are concerned. But if i had to choose one, i would have to say that there is somebody for everybody. If you're into goth and heavy metal, there's another person out there somewhere who is just as into goth and heavy metal as you are. If you're sporty, and you love people who are sporty but also intellectual(which is me), there are a few out there somewhere. The difficulty comes in trying to find them.

People tend to settle a lot because it's so hard finding that person who is perfect for them. You know they're out there somewhere, but the search to find them is just so exhausting, and so some people just give up the search and settle for a little bit less because it's more convenient. But, i dunno. Interesting topic though. :wink:

 

Yes, there's another for every kind.It's telelogical and on a Universal-Minded, Metaphysical level. We all know deep down inside what we desire, and focus on that desire expands in our life and materializes.It's not supernatural or pre-destined;but it's a metaphysical law that what you think about the most is what expands in your life.In order to have the qualities you seek in a soulmate, you have to BE them first.
So it's all a matter of opening up to it because it's already there ready for us to work with just as natural as existence is.

 

I agree that many people settle. I did for 20 years. I loved my husband, but he was not the love of my life. I don't believe in soulmate though either. I have been in complete and total love twice, but neither relationship was meant to be.