The Attraction vs The Fascination

Fascination vs Attraction
Amongst black men and white women

(This is for those sayings "Iam mostly or only attracted
to bm/ww." and how true they are.)


Whats the difference in Attraction and Fascination in
your view?

Have you ever had to ask yourself if your attracted to bm/ww
or just fascinated?

Have you ever dated someone who was just dating you out of
the fascination?


Did you and Can you tell personally if someone is attracted to bm/ww
or fascinated?

 

Whats the difference in Attraction and Fascination in
your view?

The Difference to me, from my experience with white women and black men around me the attraction is all about the surroundings, if
a whitegirls social group, crowd, friends are of a certain type like lets
say for an example around here with a couple of whitegirls in my hood. If their social group is consist of black hood folks especially if she is growing up around them the type of guy she is going to be attracted to is going to be within the type of guys that is apart of the crowd. The same with black guys, if their crowd/social group is a certain type of people that type will also be the type of person they are attracted to. I got my attraction of whitegirls with booty and flava, and that hip hop swag by my first date when I was 14 with a girl from a mix neighborhood and her and her friends became my crowd since I was dating her, which consisted of more whitegirls than black girls, all into the brothas

Fascination seems to be the people who get their type from what
they seen on t.v. and or a couple of dates with bm or ww. Fascination seems to be the ones who dont know or socialize with too many ww or bm to even develope them as an attraction. Fascination be the ones who goes by the stereotypes they believe about ww or bm. When you are attracted to the stereotypes of
a person your really just fascinated.


Have you ever had to ask yourself if your attracted to bm/ww
or just fascinated?

I was fascinated when I was little because I wasnt around many white people. I just went by what my daddy always told me :lol:
I ask myself am I attracted to them when I had my first date, not first time weirdly(I think I was too excited aobut it being my first time.:lol
I hung around her friends and became friends with them, and ever since then a whitegirl with alot of flava in her, and that hip hop swag seems to be who I am always attracted to.



Have you ever dated someone who was just dating you out of
the fascination?

Yeah, she said she like the hood brothas. I asked what she liked
about us and she hesitated before saying "I dont know I just seem to be attracted to them." Pretty obvious from there. :lol:




Did you and Can you tell personally if someone is attracted to bm/ww
or fascinated?

Not by looks but like I said by who is more attracted to stereotypes and how many bm/ww they socialize with to develope an attraction.
Dont see that or If I do see that then I could tell.

 

Fascination? The only people who could be fascinated by other "races" are those with little exposure to them.

 

For me fascination and attraction are two totally separate things. Fascination is I want to know or learn more and attraction is I am sexually or romantically attracted to someone.

I have always been fascinated by different cultures, so if there were someone new in school who came from Germany or Puerto Rico or Saudi Arabia, I was the first one to approach them. Getting a glimpse into someones life who is culturally different than me has always fascinated me.

Attraction is different. Of all the different peoples I have met, some have fascinated and attracted me while others have fascinated and repulsed me.

There have been times when I was seriously attracted and fascinated with someone who was culturally very different than me. So even though it hurt like hell, I let them go. BTW, African American black men and women I consider my brothers and sisters. We share so much the same history and culture. I dont see a black American as different from me culturally.

 

That's very interesting Fly, I really dig that perspective.

...that's why you're 'family'.

 

yeah, you are definately family. :smt057

 

These terms are somewhat loose but I will give my opinion.

I am not fascinated by white women at all. I have always been around and had alot of white friends/girlfriends/associates. I grew up in West Virginia in a place that is over 90% white. I am not fascinated by "whiteness" at all.

I am attracted to attractive white women with REAL qualities.

This is how I look at it, if a white women is attracted to me then that's great but if she's "fascinated" in me then that's an automatic turn off.

Now I think the overall view of this subject is as simple as this -- some IR relationships are built on a genuine attraction of human qualities while others are built on fascination and experimentation.

 

Co-Sign all the way. I think fascination could be positive or negative. When it's more positive, I think it's like Fly said:

I'm hoping & praying that a lot of people come into like I did, I was younger & didn't know of any the stereotypes that pertain specifically to dating between bm/ww. The 1st "white" girl I ever dated (which was long relationship that lasted until college) happened so naturally because of her qualities like Scott talked about. I can honestly say with 100% conviction that I never even considered her race when I 1st start talking to her. (I lived in an area that has a decent mix of individuals, although the general level of IR dating/friendship/etc. is low--just a quick demographic background)

 

I for one have never understood the "black culture" or "white culture".. I mean, it isnt that simple... there are a gazzillion cultures within the back/white community and sometimes they overlap.
I have met bw/bm that I have more in common with compared to many ww/wm.... even when I lived in the hood.. there is "hood" mentailty outside the "hood" (whether real or not) and many people in the hood are not "hoodey"... I kinda dislike that term, but for lack of a better word.


And even if the culture is different at times, you might end up with the same frame of reference/values etc... so I think its all on a case by case basis.

Fascination (if all you have is fascination, and nothing else) to me is not flattering at all..... I mean, it sounds like a science project - putting that mice in the labyrinth and lets see how they react..eh?

 

lippy's first interaction with bm came when she was 12 years old...obviously i was not attracted at the time but obviously fascinated by something i had never seen before...such beautiful dark skin...my senses became sharpened to every person with dark skin...i used to love watching wide world of sports...any and every media opportunity where i could watch and study bm...when i got older my attraction was undeniable