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ubiq

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Ok, hi everyone. First post...

Anyway,
I finally started paying attention to this very good looking ww coworker and of course got the #.

We've hit it off well as far as talking (mostly at work though).

Anyway, asked if she was doing anything (last week) and she told me to give her a call. Of course, called but to no avail...

Anyway, this week, I asked if she was doing anything this week and she has another job so the schedule she will have to see if there is anytime...

Now, here's why I made this thread:

Last week, her register came up short. Of course, I had to say something to her about it and we went through a great ordeal during the day tracing what exactly happened to the money. Turns out, the person who worked the register before her did not close out correctly. I am in charge of the registers (front end manager).

Of course, we talked afterwards but I feel it left a bad taste in her mouth.

Did I burn a bridge? Is it worth waiting for her to give me a call for some time alone outside of work?

What should I do?
 
:smt039 Welcome :)

About your situation, if it were me...I would think I would have some reservations about dating my supervisor in general, whether or not my register came up short. I'm not really a fan of the relationship at work thing, I think there's a lot that a person could lose in the long run, but if you think it's worth it, and neither one of you have a problem with it, then wait for the call or make it yourself!

I'm not much help, I know...
 
Welcome to the site!

If you're her manager, don't get involved, imo. It's one thing if you worked in different departments, but you are her supervisor, correct? It sounds like a risky situation to get yourself involved in.

There are plenty of other women out there.... :D
 
First off, welcome.

Secondly, my uncle used to tell me in these situations that "you don't get your meat where you get your bread".

I had no clue what that meant as a child, but I came to find the meaning as I grew older.

I hope you understood it.
 
Work is a no go. In principal that is. There have been beautiful couples that have come out of things that happened in the office. Unfortunately its usually the "accidentally in love" type of thing not when you actively work towards a relationship.

Had my present job for 2 years. We pack 11 hours a day and are "gender balanced". There is a thing here about making that an exuse to hook up. Sadly most dont stay longer than a couple of months on the job. They wonder why I've been around. Secret being that I never did what they do.

In your case the fact that cash registers are involved and there is that horrible title of Supervisor makes it a no go area. The rest of her peers will get jealous, they will issue complaints against you and at the end of the day you could be the one getting fired.

Follow your heart. But I'd advise you to follow our heads.
 
Ubig, welcome and welcome.

Because there's so much potential for things to go wrong, relationships that start in the work place are widely viewed as a negative. Of course, it's easy to understand that point of view. The romance tends to change how people interact in a place of employment and has a way of making colleagues react negatively. Very few people really understand the meaning of the word "discreet", so it's very unlikely it will be kept secret for long. If these scenarios occur, it's inevitable that there will be immediate ramifications in their "private" lives as well as in their work.

With that being said, you may think I'm against work place romances but that's not true. I absolutely believe that there's a possibility to meet someone at work with whom you can enjoy a long term and fruitful relationship. If the individuals involved are mature, I'm even not against a supervisor dating a subordinate within the same department. I think each scenario should be judged on its own merit.

Looking at your situation, I'd have to say that I don't see this working for one reason. There's already a bad taste in her mouth about what I perceive as a slight work place challenge. You asked if the bridge has been burned. The answer, as I see it, is yes. A fallen (or burned) physical bridge is simple to rebuild or replace. The same is not true when dealing with a potential relationship. It's not impossible but it's highly unlikely you'll be successful in repairing any damage caused by this situation. I wouldn't recommend waiting for a call. This is easier said than done because you work with this person, but take your mind off of her and be positive that another woman will soon enter your life. If you're the aggressive "go getter" type of individual, find someone else . If not, throw yourself into your hobbies and interests outside of work and you'll see that your urgent desire for her will pass.
 
Welcome to the boards!!

I'm in agreement with my fellow posters. Never mix business with pleasure. It's a recipe for disaster. I also wouldn't be surprised if your company had a policy against it especially since you are directly responsible for her work performance. What are you going to do if you get involved and money ends up missing again?? Are you going to report her?? It just makes for a bad situation that could cost you your job.

Saying all that, you are going to do what you want to do anyway. If she likes you, what happened at the store should have no effect. She would respect you for doing your job and wouldn't hold it against you, and she shouldn't be embarrassed since you found out what the problem was. Just play it cool and wait to see what she says about her schedule. Even if her schedule doesn't work out this time, she will suggest another time when she is free if she is feeling you. If she doesn't, it's probably time to move on.
 
newpowermoves said:
Ubig, welcome and welcome.

Because there's so much potential for things to go wrong, relationships that start in the work place are widely viewed as a negative. Of course, it's easy to understand that point of view. The romance tends to change how people interact in a place of employment and has a way of making colleagues react negatively. Very few people really understand the meaning of the word "discreet", so it's very unlikely it will be kept secret for long. If these scenarios occur, it's inevitable that there will be immediate ramifications in their "private" lives as well as in their work.

With that being said, you may think I'm against work place romances but that's not true. I absolutely believe that there's a possibility to meet someone at work with whom you can enjoy a long term and fruitful relationship. If the individuals involved are mature, I'm even not against a supervisor dating a subordinate within the same department. I think each scenario should be judged on its own merit.

Looking at your situation, I'd have to say that I don't see this working for one reason. There's already a bad taste in her mouth about what I perceive as a slight work place challenge. You asked if the bridge has been burned. The answer, as I see it, is yes. A fallen (or burned) physical bridge is simple to rebuild or replace. The same is not true when dealing with a potential relationship. It's not impossible but it's highly unlikely you'll be successful in repairing any damage caused by this situation. I wouldn't recommend waiting for a call. This is easier said than done because you work with this person, but take your mind off of her and be positive that another woman will soon enter your life. If you're the aggressive "go getter" type of individual, find someone else . If not, throw yourself into your hobbies and interests outside of work and you'll see that your urgent desire for her will pass.
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That would be a bad move. What if she commits a terminable offense and he has to fire her? You dont think his advances aren't gonna come into play?

Its pretty much a given that she would throw him under the bus to save her job.
 
jellybird said:
newpowermoves said:
Ubig, welcome and welcome.

Because there's so much potential for things to go wrong, relationships that start in the work place are widely viewed as a negative. Of course, it's easy to understand that point of view. The romance tends to change how people interact in a place of employment and has a way of making colleagues react negatively. Very few people really understand the meaning of the word "discreet", so it's very unlikely it will be kept secret for long. If these scenarios occur, it's inevitable that there will be immediate ramifications in their "private" lives as well as in their work.

With that being said, you may think I'm against work place romances but that's not true. I absolutely believe that there's a possibility to meet someone at work with whom you can enjoy a long term and fruitful relationship. If the individuals involved are mature, I'm even not against a supervisor dating a subordinate within the same department. I think each scenario should be judged on its own merit.

Looking at your situation, I'd have to say that I don't see this working for one reason. There's already a bad taste in her mouth about what I perceive as a slight work place challenge. You asked if the bridge has been burned. The answer, as I see it, is yes. A fallen (or burned) physical bridge is simple to rebuild or replace. The same is not true when dealing with a potential relationship. It's not impossible but it's highly unlikely you'll be successful in repairing any damage caused by this situation. I wouldn't recommend waiting for a call. This is easier said than done because you work with this person, but take your mind off of her and be positive that another woman will soon enter your life. If you're the aggressive "go getter" type of individual, find someone else . If not, throw yourself into your hobbies and interests outside of work and you'll see that your urgent desire for her will pass.
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That would be a bad move. What if she commits a terminable offense and he has to fire her? You dont think his advances aren't gonna come into play?

Its pretty much a given that she would throw him under the bus to save her job.
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Agreed.

She could claim sexual harassment and it's bye-bye job for you. Whether it's true or not (not saying it is in your case, but it's a "he said, she said" scenario), it's not worth the risk. There are plenty of other women out there.
 
It will be obvious to everyone else in the office that you are sleeping together. Your looks at each other, body language... you might as well put signs on your backs.
 
haha. yeah, that's so true.

you could even just be friends with your boss.. hanging out watching movies together and everyone suspects you're sleeping together.

that's almost more annoying.. :?
 
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