We've got a problem

My boyfriend's sister is my best friend. But he also has another little sister and 2 older brothers. His smallest sister is 15 and she's very pretty, and intelligent, and sweet. However, he and I just recently found out that this white boy one year older than her has had a huge crush on her and asked her out and she said yes. Frankly, I think it's adorable. Her first boyfriend, young love is so cute. But Mr. Spidey here... :roll: has been treating her like he's her father and is pretty pissed off about the whole thing. I mean I understand it's his baby sister. He loves her and he's very overprotective of her, over both his sisters. But he just seems to be kind of confused with this one. He's been saying things like "why him? she shouldn't be going out with boys. she's too young. she's growing up to fast. WHERE DID SHE GET THAT BODY FROM?" :lol:. He doesn't seem to realize she's growing up and things are going to change. She is going through puberty (and pretty fast too) and she will like boys :roll:. They're normally close but because of him and her other brother's ravings she's been extremely upset with him and she asked me to talk to him about it. Which I have. But he just doesn't like it. She told him "you date Melly and she's white." and he told her "that's different". you can see where this is going. He's not so much upset now moreso just confused on why she isn't going out with a black guy instead. I told him maybe our relationship sparked something or simply because she just likes him and to let her have her fun. It's rude to jump on her when it's her first. Tomorrow the boy will be coming to pick her up to take her out. Lord have mercy on his soul lol.

 

Brothers are like that. It can be anoying, but it's also kind of cute. My oldest would give my new boyfriends that "what the fuck do you think you are doing with my sister"-look untill I was at least 25, and he started realizing I coud take care of myself

 

Maybe part of the "that's different" is that it's confronting to him to see her chosing someone different than he is. Just throwing that out there.

It sounds like he's taken on a parental role in some ways with his sister. While he may have done this or that....it might be tough to watch her do the same. The whole do as I say not as I do type of thing. Parents go through this all the time. It's the struggle of growth. I know, as a parent, what I always go back to is that I need to trust the way I raise my children and the incredible people that they are. Of course, that's a bit different when it's the older brother having the issues. But still - he's been a huge influence on her, a role model. He needs to have faith in her. But there is nothing wrong with his voicing concerns...even if they may be irrational.

And yes...it is sortof nice that he's watching out for her. I know that my oldest son watches out for his sister (he's 18 and she's 15...she's not dating - but I'm sure he would be overly protective....he is just when they go to concerts and such!) I think it can be a good thing if he's doing it in a healthy manner.

I don't know...I always had wished there was someone protecting me.

 

I know, wwinca, I kind of wish I'd had a protective older brother, too.

That is so sweet he's being like that! You know why he's so upset? B/c he knows just how bad guys can treat girls and he's worried about her getting hurt. It doesn't sound like Spidey is the type of guy to act like that, but he probably has plenty of friends who do!

As for the race thing, we all have prejudices to work thru, he probably has never thought about IR's in the context of his sister. Hopefully he'll mull it over and comes to terms with it, you can help him with that! :wink:

Thanks for sharing that sweet story!

 

Thanks guys for your advice and input. I did talk to him today and he calmed down. He has told me that he doesn't want her to end up getting hurt or getting into trouble and he's still confused as to why she's not interested in a black guy :roll: lol. But he seems to be ok now. The guy she likes came to pick her up today at 7:30. He's a cute little blonde haired-green eyed guy lol no wonder she likes him. But he said he's going to take her to the movies to see Harry Potter and then out to eat. Just hope everything goes well. It's so funny though, when she introduced him to the family practically everyone questioned him to death as if he were on trial for some serious crime lol. Poor guy but what do you expect?