Why Are White Women Obsessed With Weight?

I've always wondered this. Most women, especially white women, are obsessed with their weight. I dont get it. Did you know that studies indicate that WHITE WOMEN, not black, asian, or latina women, are the most likely in this country to develop eating disorders???

Once I asked a white female friend this and she said it is because women wear more revealing and tighter clothing and therefore must take care of their bodies more and be more self conscious. But still, why the obsession with being so SKINNY? Girls always ask, do I look fat in these jeans or in this dress? I've seen some skinny ass girls ask this too LOL. Do they even KNOW what fat is? Have they seen Anna Nicole Smith (before she got on TrimSpa and had her tummy stapled) or Rosie O'Donnell? Maybe women have a different idea of fat? Maybe fat is 5 pounds more than whatever they think they SHOULD weigh? If so that is insane.

Trust me girls, men do not care about a little pudge on your belly or a few rolls under your leg or something. We aren't even LOOKING at your stomach, trust me. We are looking at other things LOL. Look at the rap videos and strippers. They are all thick and gorgeous. men like that. There are rap song after rap song about loving big butts. Sir Mix A Lot had a the biggest hit of all: "I Like big butts and I cannot lie".... Thats why black a latina women are proud of their big butts and thick thighs. Beyonce. Jennifer Lopez. These are the women black and latina women look up to. I've heard white girls joke about how one of their white girl friends has a "ghetto booty", meaning it is "too big of a butt for a white girl". Who do white girls have to look up to? Flat butt women like Jessica Simpson or Julia Roberts or something? Or those skinny anorexic nasty cocaine addict runway models who work in an industry run by GAY MEN who WANT their models to look like skinny little boys??!?

How long will it take women to realize men LIKE big butts and women with some meat on their bones. Who are you women trying to attract? Men or women? I know women are very mean and vindictive to each other about weight. I dated a skinny girl once who even called her own best friend FAT, and I saw the girl, she was NOT fat. She was normal weight and gorgeous. But compared to each other, one was about 95 lbs and the other maybe 125 lbs. HUGE difference in a woman's mind. And the sad part is that girl probably thinks she is fat too.

I know growing up boys compete with each other by sports and wrestling and beating each other up and shooting toy guns to prove who is tougher. Girls growing up played with dolls and make up and dresses and played dress up and compete to see whose prettier. It continues on through teenage years and adulthood with women all dying to buy all these designer clothes, and shoes and hand bags and purses and diamonds and everything else. I guess in order to compete with other women in the fashion department and the "pretty department", you gotta be as slim as possible (or at least in the minds of most white women). Women just do not go over board with it, remember who you are really trying to impress...us MEN!

 

Most of the time, they are doing it to meet the beauty standards of many white men, like it was discussed before in another thread around here somewhere. I forget which one.

 

The question you should be asking is: why do White men try push their idea of beauty onto Black men? Also: why do Black men try to push their idea of beauty onto White men; when neither standard is health for women? You should be worried about her eating habits and testosterone levels and other feminine biological difficulties.

 

PAYBACK you summed it up right here brothah. You'd be amazed at the amont of people who do not know that the real reason for the entertainment industry pushes the "Anorexic Annie" prototype on the women and men. The DNA programming to reproduce and be sexual stimulated in men responds most to the hour-glass figure and curves...not women who look like pubescent boys. Maybe by putting these "boys" on display they are trying to change the feminine archetypes in the subconscious minds of men so that the may become sexual aroused when looking at pubescent figures on women AND MEN!!!

 

Let me preface this with saying that I have never felt the pressure to be thin. I don't look at models and actresses and say that I need to be that thin. I know that most of them have very unhealthy diets and exercise habits. If they are thin through healthier methods, they have a personal trainer working with them for hours a day and have daily deliveries of Zone meals. I live an average woman's lifestyle and realize that I cannot afford, nor have the time, to be able to do this. I must rely on myself to go to the gym regularly and cook and eat healthy meals.

But, my point. I don't think that all of the blame can be on the media or the desire to keep a wm happy. I believe that these girls that are starving themselves to be thin, have a low self-concept. The responsibility of raising a girl with a healthy self-concept is on the parents. A mother that is obsessed with her own weight and outer attractiveness will raise a daughter that has the same obsession. A father that trains his daughter to believe that her worth is solely in her looks, helps breed eating disorders. On the flip side, a son who sees his mother constantly dieting or a father that is critical of his wife's weight is raised to have unrealistic expectations of a woman's weight.

My mother realized that she ate to medicate hurt. She then changed her motto to "eat to live, not live to eat" even so that she put these words up in the kitchen. This is how I grow up and now this is how I live.

 

Ah, yes, the Beauty Myth. Good reading for everyone...

To be a truly liberated woman - let alone a white woman - is to resist how other people see you and expect you to be, and just be yourself. You're right though, it's sad that there are so many body-fascists around: even when I see someone who is particularly overweight, I resist the urge to chastise them, even in my head. Everyone's body is their own business and no-one's place to comment on, except for your doctor.

 

Yup.

My intent wasn't to put the blame solely on white men. It's just that many white men have this obsession over super-thin, blonde-haired, blue-eyed beauty (not all, because some of them complain about it too) and, since white men are in control of most of these models contracts, they have a lot of say over how the girls should present themselves.

That's very good.

 

You said it, sweetheart. :wink:

 

I figured that you weren't solely blaming wm. However, ww can be much more brutal than wm can be. They are the catty mothers, sisters, friends, and even strangers who make comments on a woman's weight. Women are notorious for putting down each other and weight is easy for them to attack. As I've started thinking about it, I've heard plenty of bw attack someone for their weight, either overweight (heffas) or super-skinny.

WM may be to blame for most of this unrealistic obsession, but women perpetuate it. [/i]

 

This is what I was trying to say earlier. You hit it here.

 

PeyBack, pass the cookies; I think I love you. I believe women should have curves. I enjoy a good meal and always have dessert, without guilt. Chocolate is my weakness. (pun intended)

 

Skinny definitely is NOT sexy. But the white man wants the white woman and every other woman to be skinny. I think it's ridiculous.

 

I've got to ask the question....why is it that WM want women to look that way?

If you go back to old European paintings the women were very voluptuous but somewhere along the lines (very recently) the standard for beauty has changed. Marilyn Monroe..who is not quite what I'd call "thick" but certainly shapely would probably not get any type of work as an actress or model in today's society.........I'm rambling y'all but I know one of you good people can answer my question :weedman:

 

I definitely agree with soulfire. Paris, Kate, Lindsay, and Ashlee are pretty good examples.

 

As late as 1950s, models and women deemed 'sexy' by the media were more voluptuous, just one look at the movie stars of the day will show that. However since 1960s and the advent of Twiggy etc, the beauty ideal from the catwalks has been skinnier and skinnier until it has reached androgyny (as someone pointed out a few weeks ago). Obviously this reflects little what men find desirable but is only a media portrayal. Many women in older art would be considered overweight now, but then, equally, i'm a big art fan and looking at the women across different artists, not only are there as many types of female ideal as there are stars in the sky, but many of the painters were gay anyway! So the beauty ideal might even be little connected with sex, as it is with fashion, which is something worth remembering. But you can see now in a modern surgical age (and the age of mass dieting, since the West escaped hunger and want, ironically), the beauty ideal is to remain as thin and as youthful as possible, despite your age.

 

I have noticed that these white men who put these 'thin is in' beauty standards on white women, struggle with a very repressed homosexuality.

 

I've noticed that hip hop white girls love havin' big booties and thick hips. They are the ones I like.

 

I think most of us become more comfortable with ourselves as we get older. As a teenager we need to "fit in". so no wonder so many young girls develop eating disorders while obsessing about being unrealistically model thin.

I've never had that desire, but I've always been a bit self conscious of my body. I was the first girl in my year at school to wear a bra so I got teased for it, and when I started doing a bit of modeling, having people talk about your body as if you were not there makes you feel like a piece of meat.

But now I'm older I think I'm pretty much OK. I have "fat" days, and sometimes my big arse pisses me off, as does having to buy my bras online as most shops don't stop Dolly Parton size!

 

i always like skinny, but not anorexic alley mcbeal skinny. skinny with the right amount of curve, curve that can be covered up with clothes so you be like DAMN, I didn't know she had that on her!

but many time, those thick white girl with the big backside or chest, often time have a bad complex, too self-conscious, after all a million guys are always try to get with her only because her body. and watchout for the one that has that scowl in her face "OH NO, NOT THE 1 MILLIONTH BLACK GUY TRYING TO HOLLER AT ME".

HAHAHAHA

 

Hooray for big booties and thick hips!