Why is it that...?

I wonder if anyone here can answer a question for me.

Why is it that people who have known you to date interracially before, automatically assume that you only date that way? I'll clarify... I am attracted to and I do date white women more often than naught or I would not be here speaking on it, but the same goes for any race of woman. As long as she's beautiful and has a compatible personality, I would'nt give a fuck if she was green or purple.

What really irks me are those times when I'm out with some of my guys and gals, and my group of friends is a mini-rainbow coalition, and we'll be checking out ladies, and my peeps will point out every white chick in the place and say, "Thats all you, bro." and things like that. It would be one thing if they only pointed out the hot ladies, but they just assume that if she's white I'll go for it...as if I date white women just because their skin is white. The craziest part about it is that my BW friends and my WW friends do it the most, as if I have a sign on my forehead that says "He-whore for WW".

The few times a year that I visit with my mother, and we go out to breakfast or the mall, she does the same thing.

So I find myself consistently having to check my friends and pander to my mum.

Does this happen to anyone else?

 

YEAP!!!!!!! I know what you are talking about.This has happend to me alot back then,when i went out with my friends and when they see a black man they look at me and go...Go ahead this all yours...or they just look at me and supose me to go and holler at him.Don't matter how he look or no matter what,just if he's black they think i'll go for it. The same story here man..But it was a way back though and it was at the time when i just started dating them,at 16.And the funniest part is,they always came at me,like i had a big ass sign on my forehead sayin,"for black men only" LOL :lol:

My sister told me that once when we went out,she said...DAMN it's like every black man in this club were expecting your ass...Hahaha

 

We live in a “this or that”, “one or the other” world.
Simple minded people think in simple minded terms:
“Oh, if you like her, you must hate me.”

Some people cannot grasp any thinking that goes against the common collective out of fear of the unknown. For them it's easier to think in simple terms because that way they don't have to deal with those unknown factors which cause their worlds to be open to uncontrollable changes.

 

I agree with you to some extent, some people truly cannot grasp anything that goes against their hard-imprinted morals or guidelines, but my mum is a shrink, so I totally would think that she has the mental capacity to think outside the box, after all she did raise me.:lol: Though, I think that sometimes I might give off some kind of vibe that attracts WW to me and by posing this question, and other questions that I have that I will post in the future, I hope to gain some kind of understanding of these kinds of social situations, so that I might be able to better utilize these times, and make myself better understood to my friends, at least my lady friends. :?

 

Just like Miizjuiizy, this has happened to me a lot also. There have been occasions where I was out with friends and when a black man walked in some of my friends gave me a look... one of those *wink wink nudge nudge* looks... know what I mean? As though I find EVERY black man attractive!

It's frustrating indeed.

 

*sigh* Yes, I get it too. Some of my WM friends will bring it up and act all offended, as if they're not good enough because they're white. Well, they aren't. :lol: Just kidding. But I fail to understand why people feel personally insulted if they don't conform to your preferences. That's why there are people of all different colours, shapes, and sizes in this world. It would be terribly mundane if we all liked the same kind of people. Just because I don't find someone attractive doesn't mean I won't befriend them, and I certainly don't cahse after ever BM I encounter.

 

So true..



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I understand what you're talking about.

I like Latinas and white women, and due to that, many of my friends (black males and females) assume that i'd jump out of my skin for any Molly or Maria that walks by, which simply isn't true.

Like this one time at work, i was on the phone with my fiancee and we were conversing in Spanish (as we always do whenever we're in the midst of people or in public) and then when i dropped, this (black) lady walked in and said, "Wow, i didn't know you spoke Spanish, are you Dominican? I then said no but i happen to be fluent in Spanish since i did it as a joint degree in college. My guess is that she assumed i were Dominican as do most people who see a dark skinned person speaking Spanish. As though only Hispanics are allowed to speak Spanish.....

Another time she saw this magazine with Eva Mendes on the cover and then came over to me and asked me if i thought she were hot and then i saw yes. She then looked at a picture of myself and my fiancee and then asked me this really absurd question, "Do you only like Spanish women?" Now i paused for a moment, contemplating whether to reply with an even more stupid question or just ignore her altogether. But being the polite gentleman i am, i replied with a smile on my face, "No, i appreciate all forms of beauty. She then brought in the fact that my fiancee is hispanic and the fact that i'm into salsa. There, i just decided to end it there by saying, "I like what i like".

And that is the answer i give to everybody and anybody who brings it up.