I know I am going to catch back lash for posting this but I am extremely curious as to why this is happening. I have a myspace profile and belong to a few interracial groups there and find that there is always 2 or 3 topics running about black women in each group. Here on White Women Black Men.com it is the same thing and there are quite a few topics going on about Black Women and it doesn't matter if they are negative or not black men can't seem to get Black Women out of their heads or hearts. I have never lied here I love Black Women and hold them in the highest esteem and never degrade them for the attention of a White Woman it is just not my thing. I hold both Black and White women in equal light as they are both beautiful and deserved respect. But many of the Black Men on interracial boards say how much they hate Black Women and have disregarded them all together but they still talk about them very often and tend to get very emotions about the subject of Black Women. Emotion shows ties to the heart that are hard to disregard...without emotion their is no love and without love there is no hate. If you are done with Black Women they should not be in your mind for you to constantly post topics about them especially here. White Women do you also see this? What do you think about the constant discussion about Black Women who are suppose to be disregarded? What do you think about this being a group about you but often Black Women become the center of much heated debates? Do you think Black Men are fooling themselves when they claim to dislike Black Women but can't stop talking about them? Personally I think these men are bogus and are not being truthful about their dislike for Black Women. Before I posted this I saw a new thread about Black Women recently posted. It was something about if Black Women disregarded Black Men or if Black Men disregarded Black Women first. Now if Black Men didn't care about how Black Women view them then why would they care? I don't get it.
Hopefully you can get some truthful answers and not snippy comments, you made a lot of good points man.
I think that some people are not always honest with themselves about their real feelings, especially on the internet, and that racial discussions can be a thwarted issue. I can't comment upon any experiences which the men might have had with black women, but ultimately their wives and mothers are also black women...I'm never sure if we're talking about 'women' as sexual partners purely, or as the other half of the human race, which is a question all in itself...and almost everything that is written is rich in personal bias as a result of rejection, or so it seems. I would never write a post saying that all white men suck ass even though quite a few of them are absolute idiots - well my current man is white anyway - but so are my father, my brother, many of my best male friends...it just makes no sense to me. Even if the ones I know are fools in their relationships or dealings with women, still they are good people at heart, and even were they not, you simply can't judge an entire, enormous racial group by the behaviour of the few individuals you've come across in your own life. So I'd have to say that it is probably valuable for some people on here to discuss their issues with those who think the same way, but I personally think the threads are a little pointless and self-contradictory, and don't always tell the full story.
Ms.B you hit the nail on the head you never see posts from the women on this site talking negative about Wm.
All i really have to tell you is that the fact that i -and im sure a few brothas here too- have a preference for white women doesnt mean that i'd deny flat out if and when i see a gorgeous black woman. Not at all. Im sure WW who date BM still find WM attractive so why shouldnt it be the same here? To be honest with you, i dont feel bitter about black women. I just ignore the bad ones and in all sincerity, if(God forbid) things just go wrong for a reason with myself and Eva and im to seek a potential partner, if she's a good woman, is beautiful and turns out to be black and has all the criteria i want, i really am going to go with her. I love white women but that love is no substitute for that which i have for black women. They both come hand in hand. If you notice that when myself and other smart brothas on this site wanna talk about their individual stories, they never generalise all BW and say they're the same. Its the foolish ones who do that and they know themselves. I can never hate black women to please white women; never. Why? Because i was born from a black woman. My sisters are black women. My children might be half black. Besides, you cant hate black women as a black man because like it or not, black women are raising the black population. I dont expect white women to express a disgust for white men. In fact, i get angry when any one of them just as much as a black man doing that because they are stemmed from spurious sentiments. We should love ach other for who we are.
I should say, to save causing offence, that I didn't mean that Cris and every man on this site had something negative to say, my comments were only directed at those who were making foolish overgeneralisations. But you've got it in a nutshell Cris, although I should point out that rather than your children being 'maybe' black, surely they're 100% likely to be at least 50% black, unless it will be the postman fathering them rather than yourself! :lol:
I have noticed a tad bit of obsession with black women. I couldn't bring myself to bash on my sisters though. I'm just not as attracted to them as I used to be. Some kats just come off as pure hostile against black women. I think to myself, man a black woman carried you in her womb for 9 months. Disclaimer: If you're not guilty of any of this then I'm not talking you.
I think some of these guys have a visceral hatred for women of their own race. Read that thread about Sanaa Lathan's movie and you'll understand plenty. Some of them feel if they hate black women enough it'll impress white women and they'll do the same.
I am with ya Cris, I dont think most men on here bash BW, we just ask questions regarding them and comparisons. I have seen and heard alot of nice things about BW here. I have also gone to many Black only sites, like blackplanet and seen many many attacks on black men who date WW.
This one is the most accurate. Some people read too much into things in here. When they see one particular poster saying something repeatedly, some people will make it out to be what 'most' or 'all' black men/white women are saying. If you read a post about a certain subject, try to pay attention to whom is posting it, and not what you only feel about the posts. Can't be that hard to do.
I dont mean to be offensive, but you'd notice that these misconceptions are mostly made by WW. Not that im saying that it happens that way all the time but it stoops to amaze me how gullible "some" WW are. Yes i know i'd get flack for this but honestly, i think that a lot of WW, especially those who are dating BM for the first time OR those with BM for sexual reasons only, fall victim to this. And Tucker is right, we black men who date WW get the most flack from people- notice i use the word "people". Go to any black website or read Essence magazine and you'd see what i am telling you.
Haha, I meant if you were bringing up HIS children...either way it was a tactless joke, guess I was in a bit of an odd mood!!
I happen to disagree with this post, and find it's mainly BM who promote and plant these seeds of hatred when dealing with or trying to attract WW. Some WW run with these misconceptions that you provide since it strokes their egos. It's also interesting that some of the main ones who stoop to this level are now attempting to deny it.
I'm with you,dark_noir. I don't know what is with all these black women threads. If you're dating a women of one race because of disdain for another. Then I think there is a big problem there.
I think that's a healthy attitude, and it's how I feel about men. Though I know I can't comment on the perspectives from a personal standpoint, I don't particularly respect unequivocal bagging of black women that sometimes goes on, like Miss B says it is hard to separate personal experience from it, but I would never be in a relationship with a man who was so bitter towards a group like that. That said, I know not all men are like that and I would prefer to see a post admiring a beautiful African or Af-American woman than one which tars them all with the same nasty brush, it may not fit into the title of this site but it's closer than the millions of other threads that get happily derailed!
