"you look like the type that dates white girls"

Well, I can, in fact, I have overheard it several times in my life, unbeknownest to the tongue-tied bigots who said it before.

 

really, what happened?

 

To put it even simpler, not only do these bigots make comments about the way you talk, the way you look, and what you think, but they also lie on you a lot about what run-ins they have with you. I usually just ignore them anyway. Have you ever had anyone of them follow you around in a store, office building, or a mall somewhere assuming that because you are black, you might steal something, or harass a white woman?

 

no I have never had that happen to me, and I work in a professional office and I could never imagine anyone in my office doing anything like that.

 

I know. The effects of such comments and thoughts are still present and i've been feeling kinda bad but im great now. I gotta suck it up and i wont let it affect me in any way. But for a long time, i havent had anyone speak of me in such a narrow-minded way so it took me by suprise. But im great now and i have no harsh feelings for the guys since as a Christian, you forgive and forget. I still saw my boss and said good morning to him. Judgement is in the hands of the mighty God.

 

well, I am glad you are better cris. I cant even imagine, for no reason at all they said that to you, I just wouldnt understand why or what would spark that. but I am sorry you went through that

 

Oh i can testify to that. On many occasions, i've had conversations over the telephone and the people assume im caucasian. Then i turn up and they look as though they'd been struck by lightning? Very odd situations indeed :roll:

Indeed, i've had some dunderheads look at me like i was some rogue looking to steal. One time when i was still living in Manhattan, i was out with some friends(2 white girls and a white dude) and we went into a store. We were checking out some stuff and what did the security guy do? Came right behind me and was checking my every kove. He kept doing it as i moved so i got really crazy and told him to stop it. One of my friends now said, "Just so you know, his dad is so rich he'd get you fired and pay you for a whole year" :lol: That was kinda funny but i dont think that way.

One time, in Literature class back in high school, we were doing a play on Romeo and Juliet. It was a serious thing for the school to watch. I was initially cast as Romeo Montague while Sarah, a friend of mine(white as you can imagine) was Juliet Capulet. We were having fun with this thing and working hard at it until what happens? A week to the D-day, i was told i had to switch places with another guy and he would be Romeo. I was so disappointed- and no, not because i would get to kiss a white girl in public :lol: .- I was exciting that i would just perform in front of the school in a lead character and then they had to ruin my chance. What was the reason? It wouldnt attract many people to come and see the play. Another time where i cried due to being subjected to ridicule and more importantly, racial discrimination. Guess what i had to settle for? Friar Laurence. I felt so bad i didnt take part in the play at all. I quit when they told me about the impending change in character. So i ended up being the narrator of the story and that was after some serious pleadings and compromises. I dont really cry over issues like that but when it hurts so bad, i cant help it.

 

Interesting story. Seems like you're the sensitive type, from reading your posts, which is what chicks love. 8)

 

Thanks for the care, man.But you know what pissed me off even more? I was speaking to Eva and some other friends about it and just as i expected, they were all saying, "Oh its nothing to worry about, it'll get better, i understand what you're going through." I got so freaking mad and was like, "Oh no, you dont have any friggin idea what im going through so dont even tell me you know what i went through". How is not anything to worry about? Obviously you should not dwell on that but you cant just forget it like that. Thats a sucker-punch at your integrity, dammit. :evil:

 

sorry you had that experience, what section of manhattan was that, what store?

 

I had an experience like that,when I lived in Kentucky. Some stupid cop that came in for a slushy asked me what was in my pockets and started following around the store. When I left out the store he came out the store and stared at me,then went back inside the store.

 

man those are wild, i know racism exist, i just never experienced those kinds

 

Yes chicks love me indeed. 8) But the thing is every human is sensitive in every way. If we werent, we wont have emotions. Immanuel Kant clearly stated that in his works. Some people just dont like to admit they are sensitive just to seem tough but you'd be suprised those people are the ones with the worst mental issues. They're the ones with the most behavioral and personality problems. They're the ones who get depressed the most. Hell at the apex of it all, they're the ones who could possibly commit suicide. Its great to express your feelings and let it out to the air as long as you're honest about it and solve it. Rationalism isnt a solution by any means.

 

OK, I see your point.

 

It was Joseph Edwards in Midtown. Very beautiful store which intrigued me but the excitement had to be cut short by some twerp. :roll:

 

wow, i was 6 years old when a police followed me in the toy aisle. he took me to the booth to look out, and my cousin came and got me and wnt off on the black cop--no white cops around.

they said they thought i was lost, but my cousin said she was in the next aisle

i lived in new york and shop on 5th ave upper east side, and upper west (liberal ) side and never have had the problem. I guess because I have always dressed in blazer, oxford, tie even when i was a teen and college student.

 

was that supposed to be sarcasm? :?

 

Tucker, i dont know; you seem to be under the impression that racist white men wont discriminate against you even if you're dressed in a $10,000 suit? Of course that isnt the case. Be as shiny as the stars, a racist will always discriminate and cops arent excluded. For the record, i didnt really have much racial problems in New York. There was the odd bit here and there but in all honesty, most of my encounters with racism have been on the road, outside of New York.

 

Cris, where did I say that? I just said that I have lived in Manhattan for many years and I never experienced anything like that--ever. and I said what my experience was, I wasnt trying to deny your experience at all.

it wasnt meant to offend you, just to share my experience.

 

I wasnt antagonising you either, you're my brotha. I was just stating that racists will always form bigoted opinions regardless of what you wear. You're a very lucky man if you dont expereince racism. I wish i had all that luxury of not going through it, like you. 8)