"you look like the type that dates white girls"

did you read what i just wrote? I explained that this guy at ole miss tried to hit me with a bottle because a girl asked me to dance, but he was taken out of the frat party by a bouncer.

why do you not believe? we dont all share the same exact experience in life due to our race. Your experience in Manhattan, I believe happened, I have never experienced that, but I believe that it happens.

I have never been passed over for a cab in NYC, but actor Danny Glover and other well to do black people have experienced it. I am not saying their experiences are not true, its just not happened to me.

and institutionalized? I wouldnt work for a job that was like that, or i would take it to court if it happened at school.

 

yes, I agree that the cultivation of pejorative stereotypes is a culture medium for the growth of racism. But while nobody can change his/her color, everybody has the power to shape and change the way you are pictured and portrayed - especially in a capitalistic society. You can't hinder people to perform poorly in TV shows, but you can vote with your remote control and refuse to watch certain shows and channels, you can stop putting your money into the pockets of artists who are glorifying violence, drug use and crime, and you can talk to youngsters who are focused on the wrong role models, idolizing them by mimicking their demeanor and style.

"Aside from the curious contrast to himself, the white child feels nothing on the first sight of a colored man. Curiosity is the only feeling. The office of color in the color line is a very plain and subordinate one... The color is innocent enough, but things with which it is coupled make it hated. Slavery, ignorance, stupidity, servility, poverty, dependence, are undesirable conditions When these shall cease to be coupled with color, there will be no color line drawn." ~ Frederick Douglass

 

On the reverse end has anyone on here meet a white person with a "black" sounding voice?

 

Yeah, me. I've met plenty of white people who sound black, probably because they grew up around a lot of blacks in the Inner City, and they usually tend to be 10 times more ghetto than most of the black ones also. This one dude I met out on the streets was a felon with an assault charge, a narcotic charge, and a grant theft auto charge, who hates gays ('fags') and had 11 kids.

 

I've met many who speak the way a stereotypical "black" person might speak, but not really sound the same.....they generally don't have that gravelly baritone/bass voice that a lot of us have....so it sounds a little different......

Many of the ghetto WM/WW are funny in that no matter how tough they are....the big difference between them and most blacks is the intimidation factor....when you walk in the room, not acting ghetto but they know you're not really preppy either and that you came from a similar place that they came from.....it freaks them out a little. They can act cool and talk jive with some BM/BW and they can act tougher and more street than other BM/BW but for me....they don't know how to act around me....sort of like if Malcolm X and Dr. King walk into the room....your "blackness" is real....like wearing imitation cologne your entire life only to get a whiff of the real thing....they realize no matter how much they grow up around or embrace "black" culture...there is a line that keeps them from that holy grail.

 

Yea, that's how I approach it myself. Regardless of the hue, they are still white people to me.

 

me too

 

Re: "you look like the type that dates white girls&quot

You cannot tell by general appearances whether a black man goes for whtie girls. Many black men who like country music do go for white women because not very many black women are into country music or country dancing period. It all depends on what you have in common with white women versus black women. If you don't find that you have anything in common with black women and have more in common with white women than you will date white women. I think many educated black men who speak proper english are mislabled as going for white women. However I find that many educated black men such as myself often find that to be true.

 

Its like your hobbies bring you around alot white people so its just assumed that you date white women.

 

You know, a while ago, i was speaking to Ahora, a friend of mine who happens to be Latina at a salsa club and then someone came up to me and asked me if she were my girlfriend. I replied with the simple "no" and then the person asked me, "Do you have a thing for Latin women"? I said yes and then she said, "Not suprising as i always see you here". So i guess people associate your preferences with the attitudes you portray.

 

Re: "you look like the type that dates white girls&quot

No it's like, they are just afraid they are not good enough to attract a decent woman of their own and are trying to put you down so they'll have more chances.

Or they are using irrelevant prejudices as a weak rationalization for making someone else feel bad in order to boost their own limp self image.

Pathetic and small minded and incredibly unattractive of them. Male or female.

 

I have gotten the "I bet you like white girls!!" more than a few times and I was with a black girl at two of those times.
I have a preppy type style and I guess that has something to do with what other people assume but in my view my style has probably not helped me much on the IR front!!

 

See now that totally ticks me off.

People have to totally get over the idea that a style "belongs" to them exclusively. Just because we've named a style for convenience of description does NOT mean that only certain people with the right "credentials" are allowed to wear it.

What utter bollocks.

You wear what you like, date whom you wish. The more people that do this, the less "ownership" there will be.

 

I get that all the time

 

i used to as a younger man

 

Most people usually describe me as serious looking or I look like a black political leader or some shit! lol black people usually say I look like Malcolm X after he converted to islam! (without the beard though) Its funny cause only if they knew about my severe white girl addiction lol.

 

i always wanted to know how someone can tell if the person hasnt said anything.

 

It's quite easy because the bm will usually put up a wall to make sure he repels bw. There's a major difference in his attitude when interacting with white and black. I've noticed that ww do not denounce or try to alienate wm if she's dating a bm, but bm take extra measures to let bw know they have nothing for them, yet won't hesitate to play the race card when it's to their advantage.

 

interesting perspective, i never heard that before brownie, but I dont deny you having that position. I dont hate bw at all, just because I dated and married ww, i never hated bw.

 

i hear you sistah, loud and clear, but one thing confuses me. HOw do you know what the reasons are if you dont know the person. the problems most of my black male friends and family has it not from black women we know but women on the street. they have made random comments, attacked the men, cursed them etc, for what? for dating or marrying WW? I dont get that. If I dont know them, I would not comment on the man they are with.

So, the issue for me isnt about reason since they wouldnt know the reason from the get go, they never knew the reason because for the most part there wasnt a reason.

It is perplexing to me