Sexual Harassment/Assault Scandals

samson1701 said:
You feel bad because you're a good dude. And, as bad as it sounds, you did the right thing. You have too much to lose over some potential "misunderstanding."

The only thing I would've done differently is I would've called an Uber or cab to her car. Then, let her know she has to plan better.

Maybe, you want to inform HR just in case. I don't know. I'm not in the corporate world.

Bit, don't beat yourself up over it. You did the right thing. Do you think it would be a good idea to let the woman know why you didn't offer her a ride? Or, could that cause more trouble?
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Spoke to my girlfriend and she thinks having a open door conversation informing her of options would be a good idea. I not the company are obligated to provide her with services but in the future inform me and I'll do what I can within company guidelines. Colder than I'd like to go but necessary. We have big plans in 2018 can't get derailed.
I do wonder if this new normal is better for women long term though.
If descent men like myself are apprehensive to be around them doesn't that just leave them exposed to would be predators. I wonder how many assholes thought nah not that one she's with someone. Now....
Bliss has a point liberals are doing this to ourselves and this may cause way more harm than good.
 
The Dark King said:
Spoke to my girlfriend and she thinks having a open door conversation informing her of options would be a good idea. I not the company are obligated to provide her with services but in the future inform me and I'll do what I can within company guidelines. Colder than I'd like to go but necessary. We have big plans in 2018 can't get derailed.
I do wonder if this new normal is better for women long term though.
If descent men like myself are apprehensive to be around them doesn't that just leave them exposed to would be predators. I wonder how many assholes thought nah not that one she's with someone. Now....
Bliss has a point liberals are doing this to ourselves and this may cause way more harm than good.
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You guys need to stop working in the middle of the night. If y‘all had closed by 7 pm she would not be in a situation where it’s unsafe to even go to the bus stop.:)
I remember from my Indian times (Indians also work all these ungodly hours without getting paid for extra time) that companies specifically made sure female workers either left with a male colleague or got a driver to drop them home. You know rape is a big issue there. I guess they are assuming the male colleague wouldn’t attack the female colleague out of fear of losing his job so that part is not a problem. I do remember my boss asking a male staff to walk me to a certain place I had to go one day.
My brother who works for a Canadian company even goes to the staff gym with a female colleague sometimes so it can’t be that bad here yet (am not sure cos I’m not in the corporate world right now).
I also think that being around a decent guy out at night has pro‘ly saved a lot women from the bad ones. Scaring away the good ones leaves us more exposed to the bad ones.
 
K said:
But that's part of the issue. They already do. They want men who are alpha, will take control, put them up against the wall and kiss them (all the 50 shades of bullshit stuff too) AND the men are also supposed to be sensitive, emotional, blah blah blah. It's crazy!
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Yeah that’s what I mean. Here the sexual harassment scandal isn’t as hyped as over there. But we have created this culture over the past decades where we have a non existing dating/flirt culture, our man don’t make a move on us, we split bills, the men share in household chores and childcare. They know they are supposed to be sensitive and caring and not too masculine and aggressive. Of course some aspects of it are really good, but now that we have trained them well like that women are really bored with them and date the foreign guys who haven’t got the gender mainstreaming memo yet and are putting them up against the wall and kiss them.

So in other words Latino men with their proverbial Machismo must be in high demand there now?
They are here, although we don’t have as many of them...The ones who come here are hot cake. If they aren’t too short.
 
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Madeleine said:
Yeah that’s what I mean. Here the sexual harassment scandal isn’t as hyped as over there. But we have created this culture over the past decades where we have a non existing dating/flirt culture, our man don’t make a move on us, we split bills, the men share in household chores and childcare. They know they are supposed to be sensitive and caring and not too masculine and aggressive. Of course some aspects of it are really good, but now that we have trained them well like that women are really bored with them and date the foreign guys who haven’t got the gender mainstreaming memo yet and are putting them up against the wall and kiss them.

So in other words Latino men with their proverbial Machismo must be in high demand there now?
They are here, although we don’t have as many of them...The ones who come here are hot cake. If they aren’t too short.
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We're deporting them or detaining them here

What's too short?
 
Madeleine said:
Well, you know many of them are really, really short. And German women are much taller than the average Latina. So if they are under 1,70 it gets difficult for them. But they are not many. A few students and a few Salsa teachers.
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It’s the exotic, opposites attract kinda thing.
 
The Dark King said:
Like you said that accent would have dudes drooling especially black men who don't normally have access to white women like you. A hot accent gets me half way there lol.
Now I'm curious how many dates?
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Dates as in a guy I didn’t know well at the time taking me out for dinner and paying for it and that whole American procedure? I think 4-5. As one American mum in Germany put it, my daughters don’t date. Sometimes they have new friends, and sometimes the new friends become boyfriends. That pretty much sums it up. We just sort of hang out together in any way that fits our life, common interest, the place we met etc. We don’t wait to be asked on an official date, we just spend time anyhow it happens. Although it may involve food and drink in some form. But it’s more like we would also do with a new friend, if that makes sense. And if the magic happens it happens. Also when two people reach some level of emotional/physical intimacy and hang out together regularly it’s more or less assumed they are in a relationship. Just dating for dating sake or dating different people at the same time or even seeing all of them regularly but also sleeping with other people isn’t so normal. Although of course one night stands happen, but generally most people (even young people like from late teens on) tend to be serially monogamous. They have their bf/gf and are with them exclusively sometimes for many years. Then they might break up for whatever reason and look for the next bf/gf. So when they are in such a relationship that’s when a man might think I want to do something nice for my gf and take her out and splurge on her. But not every random woman that comes along. Judging by all the YouTubers who document their German experiences the different dating styles can really lead to misunderstandings. A common one seems to be American girl thinks she is just „hanging out with German guy friend“ when German guy is actually in the process of getting to know her cos he likes her. I think sometimes we tend to think there aren’t many cultural differences among Western countries, but that’s not so true...I learned the hard way when I did my school exchange to New Zealand!

Oh yeah and accents do it for me, too.
 
Thump said:
Trump is an agent of chaos, his blatant misogynistic and racist rhetoric has emboldened racists and it has galvanized feminists and liberal extremists. Why else do you think both of the Women's marches that have happened since Trump took office have obliterated attendance records. Without the fire in their bellies caused by Trump, I doubt that the MeToo movement would have even been a thing.
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Here's the thing, as it is reported mostly white women voted for him and help elected him into office, people of color did not. And some how we get tied into their bullshit. It's like sexism and sexual harassment is a culture of men that needs to die, but when you put them on about racism they accuse YOU of being divisive. Another reason why I can't get down with this #MeToo movement, these women take NO responsibility for their own who is said to help elect him into office. One thing I did like about the women's march though there were women out there checking them, of course MSM media ignored them. But you are some what right, because I do think that men like Harvey Weinstein would've still went down, it would probably be done with very little hysteria and wouldn't have got to a point where it would've reached people like Aziz Ansari.
 
K said:
But that's part of the issue. They already do. They want men who are alpha, will take control, put them up against the wall and kiss them (all the 50 shades of bullshit stuff too) AND the men are also supposed to be sensitive, emotional, blah blah blah. It's crazy!
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I said this before, the new 50 Shades Of Grey will still do VERY well at the box office with women. lol.

Side note: Have you seen any of the 50 shades movie? I finally got around to it last week, not on purpose I left the TV on HBO when I dozed off for awhile after watching Superman vs Batman and when I woke up it was on. And it was one of those BDSM sex scenes they talked about that was in the movie and that scene was graphic as fuck and I'm like this is another mainstream movie dabbling in borderline softcore porn because they were going there! lol. I had to turn it off for a little bit because the volume was up, didn't want to wake up my girlfriend who was upstairs sleep, with a woman moaning and breathing heavy on my TV downstairs. LOL!
 
darkcurry said:
I said this before, the new 50 Shades Of Grey will still do VERY well at the box office with women. lol.

Side note: Have you seen any of the 50 shades movie? I finally got around to it last week, not on purpose I left the TV on HBO when I dozed off for awhile after watching Superman vs Batman and when I woke up it was on. And it was one of those BDSM sex scenes they talked about that was in the movie and that scene was graphic as fuck and I'm like this is another mainstream movie dabbling in borderline softcore porn because they were going there! lol. I had to turn it off for a little bit because the volume was up, didn't want to wake up my girlfriend who was upstairs sleep, with a woman moaning and breathing heavy on my TV downstairs. LOL!
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I don't want to watch it. Gotta be careful what you let into your mind and heart.
 
Madeleine said:
So in other words Latino men with their proverbial Machismo must be in high demand there now?
They are here, although we don’t have as many of them...The ones who come here are hot cake. If they aren’t too short.
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My guess is that you are getting a different Latino men than we do. For us it's mostly South American (and mostly Mexican at that). I live in California where there is an abundance of them and generally they are not looked at well at all. And NO here women seem to be really thinking they want the milk toast version of a man (while fantasizing about 50 shades of bullshit)
 
darkcurry said:
I said this before, the new 50 Shades Of Grey will still do VERY well at the box office with women. lol.

Side note: Have you seen any of the 50 shades movie? I finally got around to it last week, not on purpose I left the TV on HBO when I dozed off for awhile after watching Superman vs Batman and when I woke up it was on. And it was one of those BDSM sex scenes they talked about that was in the movie and that scene was graphic as fuck and I'm like this is another mainstream movie dabbling in borderline softcore porn because they were going there! lol. I had to turn it off for a little bit because the volume was up, didn't want to wake up my girlfriend who was upstairs sleep, with a woman moaning and breathing heavy on my TV downstairs. LOL!
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Yah I think I wrote about it on here somewhere actually. I finally broke down and watched the first one. It's garbage. I was over at a friends and they were going to watch the 2nd one - it started and we didn't end up watching it. Personally, I just couldn't buy the lead as a DOM in any way.

In regards to the soft core porn and how there was so much hype about how sexy it was and intense and all - please. I laughed through many of them. Very poorly done, terrible acting. Complete garbage IMO. If that was so hot and sexy, it makes me really wonder about people and what they consider to be passion.
 
K said:
My guess is that you are getting a different Latino men than we do. For us it's mostly South American (and mostly Mexican at that). I live in California where there is an abundance of them and generally they are not looked at well at all. And NO here women seem to be really thinking they want the milk toast version of a man (while fantasizing about 50 shades of bullshit)
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Lol ok I see how Mexican men wouldn't be something special in California. Like I said we don't even have many South Americans, so they are exotic for us. I have met a few Cubans, Brazilians and a Colombian and Argentinian. The Cubans are pretty hot and am sure their supply of blond girls who want to learn Salsa among other things never runs dry. A lot of women also stick with the milk toast men. Some taste the Macho menu of Turks, Arabs and other foreigners for a while before returning back to milk toast and fantasy but some also marry foreigners.
 
Madeleine said:
Lol ok I see how Mexican men wouldn't be something special in California. Like I said we don't even have many South Americans, so they are exotic for us. I have met a few Cubans, Brazilians and a Colombian and Argentinian. The Cubans are pretty hot and am sure their supply of blond girls who want to learn Salsa among other things never runs dry. A lot of women also stick with the milk toast men. Some taste the Macho menu of Turks, Arabs and other foreigners for a while before returning back to milk toast and fantasy but some also marry foreigners.
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I think that happens everywhere with a lot of people. People go for the exotic. Some would say the bad boy/girl. They go out and explore and play and figure out what they want. Then most end up back with what they know and grow up with.

I happen to prefer Black men, but for me, that means American Black men. When I was young I dated men from all different countries, it was interesting, learned a lot, etc but I wasn't interested in building a life with any of them.

IMO there's a big difference in different Latino men. I've dated men from different countries in South America and they can be very different. And then yes, European are very different too.
 
K said:
I think that happens everywhere with a lot of people. People go for the exotic. Some would say the bad boy/girl. They go out and explore and play and figure out what they want. Then most end up back with what they know and grow up with.

I happen to prefer Black men, but for me, that means American Black men. When I was young I dated men from all different countries, it was interesting, learned a lot, etc but I wasn't interested in building a life with any of them.

IMO there's a big difference in different Latino men. I've dated men from different countries in South America and they can be very different. And then yes, European are very different too.
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Can imagine there are big differences between the Latino men. Don't know them well. I think however there are also huge differences amongst "European men". I understand people who prefer to marry within their culture. It saves you certain headaches and discussions. However me and German men just don't seem to go well together. Our styles of approaching the opposite sex don't produce any results together lol. And it's always been foreign men by overwhelming majority who were interested in me. Something must be written on my forehead.:rolleyes:
 
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K said:
Yah I think I wrote about it on here somewhere actually. I finally broke down and watched the first one. It's garbage. I was over at a friends and they were going to watch the 2nd one - it started and we didn't end up watching it. Personally, I just couldn't buy the lead as a DOM in any way.

In regards to the soft core porn and how there was so much hype about how sexy it was and intense and all - please. I laughed through many of them. Very poorly done, terrible acting. Complete garbage IMO. If that was so hot and sexy, it makes me really wonder about people and what they consider to be passion.
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Oh Im aware how terribly things are done and the movie overall. My girl felt the same way you do about the lead male. lol.

I was talking about the limitations of sexual things they were doing like getting her breast sucked on by the actor, briefly but still something that's a rarity. That is the 3rd of 4th time I have seen on either mainstream cable tv show or a movie they go that far. Maybe you guys seen more than me, but the sex scenes I usually see usually just involve breast and butt TOUCHING and that's about it. lol.
 
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