Dating apps and IR

[missshyness]

I agree we all are entitled to our preferences, but just wonder if putting no this or yes to that on a profile upfront might just bring the crazies out of the woodwork, some will see it as a challenge and harass someone, the opposite of moving on. Also some might look at a profile, and even if they may not be interested in the person, might just respond to be nasty and rude. In this instance, the poster of the profile might have created a bigger headache for themselves and more to filter than if they just did not state a preference.

I think one has a right to state a preference, but need to do so with some consideration. If one has preferences and wants to put them upfront, they need to be careful about how they state them, and not be offensive in how they say so, and be ready for those who like “the chase” or “challenges”.

 

[meowkittenmeow]

I agree we all are entitled to our preferences, but just wonder if putting no this or yes to that on a profile upfront might just bring the crazies out of the woodwork, some will see it as a challenge and harass someone, the opposite of moving on. Also some might look at a profile, and even if they may not be interested in the person, might just respond to be nasty and rude. In this instance, the poster of the profile might have created a bigger headache for themselves and more to filter than if they just did not state a preference.

I think one has a right to state a preference, but need to do so with some consideration. If one has preferences and wants to put them upfront, they need to be careful about how they state them, and not be offensive in how they say so, and be ready for those who like “the chase” or “challenges”.

The world is full of predators, I suppose it just comes with the territory.

 

[Beasty]

 

[qaz1]

LOL! Whoever made that is telling on himself. He (or she, but let's be real, it's a he lol) admits in the first panel that no one should laugh at those jokes. Sometimes being "funny" is just being an a-hole. But I'll say it again, being super sensitive is a real problem too.

 

[meowkittenmeow]

LOL! Whoever made that is telling on himself. He (or she, but let's be real, it's a he lol) admits in the first panel that no one should laugh at those jokes. Sometimes being "funny" is just being an a-hole. But I'll say it again, being super sensitive is a real problem too.

It’s a self deprecation meme. It’s meant to say, “yeah, I am probably going to say the wrong thing sometimes, yeah, I know I shouldn’t, but I’m a dick, so, here goes...”

 

[qaz1]

It’s a self deprecation meme. It’s meant to say, “yeah, I am probably going to say the wrong thing sometimes, yeah, I know I shouldn’t, but I’m a dick, so, here goes...”

Yeah I see that. Me no get joke sometimes

 

[Beasty]

LOL! Whoever made that is telling on himself. He (or she, but let's be real, it's a he lol) admits in the first panel that no one should laugh at those jokes. Sometimes being "funny" is just being an a-hole. But I'll say it again, being super sensitive is a real problem too.

Meh, I let the people persons deal with that, my passion is machines. Whoever has an issue with that let them prove it by putting away their tv's, cars, electricity and internet and walk to work every day. We all can't be people person's or even want to be.

 

[Othello1967]

Ok, I’m glad to know, because I don’t want to be the trouble maker on here. I was actually looking for this kind of forum in German before I found this site. It does exist but I got bored very quickly because it was just full of women complaining about African men who left them after they got their visas... it got so depressing, so I ended up here.

People marrying just for the visa also happens here. I think some people have unrealistic expectations simply because the other person belongs to another race, nationality, or ethnicity. No race, nationality, etc is perfect

 

[Othello1967]

wow. I could see that. And of course there are lots of women looking for visas too.

I think many of us came here in interesting ways. I wanted more conversation about interracial relationships. There were more people who would talk about their relationships years ago.

I agree. And people were more honest. Do you remember Bryant who was all excited about visiting a Russian he had met online?. A Russian or someone familiar with Russia warned him that Russians didn`t much like blacks. He went anyway and gave us his report which, if I remember correctly, confirmed the warning.

 

[Othello1967]

Ok, you’re right I forgot for a moment about all the crazy shit you got going on over there with police etc.
I know you probably won’t believe it when I say it (being white) but I’ve honestly never been afraid for my husband‘s safety EVER and he’s never told me in all these years that he felt unsafe in a situation. Police doesn’t even give a shit about him either. Only time I’ve ever been concerned for his safety is when he’s in Nigeria. Me being a 22 year old alone in India was probably a lot less safe than him going about his daily life in Switzerland.
Anyway, stay safe, and I didn’t mean to be insensitive.

A white person in India is like a king or a queen to the Indians. Colorism is big in India. Recently I came across some youtube videos about Africans who were living in India for generations and even speak the language and consider themselves Indians but apparently are not accepted

 

[Othello1967]

I see what you did there. That's very funny! Lol. So you need some plantain right now?

You have the Gilets jaunes to warm you a little bit in this already-ending winter. When will this historic social movement end? Tough times for Emmanuel Macron!

Was there a double meaning about plantain? I think there was. There`s a Calypsonian from Trinidad called Mighty Sparrow who had a calypso called BG Plantain and he wasn`t talking about plantain.

 

[Othello1967]

such a sweeping generalization, so you know all American women now? this statement sounds so ignorant, and not very thoughtful and intelligent and certainly not one of “substance”.

enjoy your fantasies guys can I say green card anyone?

just so you know, of course some of these foreign women will gush all over you, they don't know you well, and many but not all may have an agenda and are looking for a ticket out of their country and $$$$$ and more $$$$$ and don't forget, $$$$$ will say anything to you, flatter you etc to get what they want $$$$$ just as you think us horrible American women do.

Why do you want to mess up theses guys fantasy?

 

[Othello1967]

You pointed out what I've said often times. Yes there are many amazing white women in the US who don't bow to social pressures about who they should or should not date but overall if you are a black man you aren't considered good dating material in the general Zeigiest of American culture. You feel it when you notice not only who you see casted pushed as a heartthrob or a person of desire but also when you see who is often seen as either sexless or criminal. Its spelled out for women that black men aren't a good choice. Even black women when given the creative control don't see black men as a heartthrob or good mating choice unless he is a groveling mess who bows down.
Now juxtapose that to the cultural norm of European countries or even Canada. You can either have black male lead like in Luther or Misfits and its just normal no big deal or at the very least the cultural landscape doesn't paint you as criminal.
Unless incredibly liberal or seeking money for donations American raisied white women aren't nearly as comfortable and at ease with me.
I don't know what we can do to change it but I do hear black men who experience it its very visible.

Have you noticed the significant number of black British actors/actresses working in Hollywood? Money? Yes. But also they have more acting opportunities here than in the U.K. That seems to me it`s not all peaches and cream for blacks elsewhere.

 

[4north1side2]

A white person in India is like a king or a queen to the Indians. Colorism is big in India. Recently I came across some youtube videos about Africans who were living in India for generations and even speak the language and consider themselves Indians but apparently are not accepted

Just being honest, people don't respect African bruhs the same as African American bruhs around the world.

 

[4north1side2]

Rejoined Tinder. I'm 33 now, my main photo is the same as my avatar here of me with my sons. I surprisingly match with a bunch of young college white women.

I also made Facebook dating profile. Shit is like PoF 2.0. If you are looking for a easy lay, that's the place to be.

 

[The Dark King]

Have you noticed the significant number of black British actors/actresses working in Hollywood? Money? Yes. But also they have more acting opportunities here than in the U.K. That seems to me it`s not all peaches and cream for blacks elsewhere.

It's more because there's far more opportunities here

 

[The Dark King]

A white person in India is like a king or a queen to the Indians. Colorism is big in India. Recently I came across some youtube videos about Africans who were living in India for generations and even speak the language and consider themselves Indians but apparently are not accepted

Yes and no. More often than not definitely but that's really no different than here imo

 

[The Dark King]

Rejoined Tinder. I'm 33 now, my main photo is the same as my avatar here of me with my sons. I surprisingly match with a bunch of young college white women.

I also made Facebook dating profile. Shit is like PoF 2.0. If you are looking for a easy lay, that's the place to be.

Negro you got a six pack that's literally all that matters to young women lol

 

[Madeleine]

A white person in India is like a king or a queen to the Indians. Colorism is big in India. Recently I came across some youtube videos about Africans who were living in India for generations and even speak the language and consider themselves Indians but apparently are not accepted

They think the whiter the better, but they also think young girls of any colour out alone are fair game.

 

[Beasty]

A white person in India is like a king or a queen to the Indians. Colorism is big in India. Recently I came across some youtube videos about Africans who were living in India for generations and even speak the language and consider themselves Indians but apparently are not accepted

I'm just glad the University of Ghana took down that statue of Ghandi. Black folks don't need anything from them or their culture. I also have no desire to visit India or China ever.