Do white women prefer black men when they are older?

I've always preferred to date black men in every stage of my life. Never really woke and decided at a certain point I'd switch to black men. Maybe some women deal with divorcing white men then decide to try black men. Same as you hear women divorcing then becoming lesbians. I've always felt like the misplaced person, there's only one person I know who only dates black men. No one else in my life has ever been with a black man. But I guess it comes with the unfortunate territory of living in a predominantly white country. I fear it's going to happen to me. I'm nearly 40 and feel like I'm going to have to settle for a damn white dude or remain lonely lol.
 
beccaomecca said:
I've always preferred to date black men in every stage of my life. Never really woke and decided at a certain point I'd switch to black men. Maybe some women deal with divorcing white men then decide to try black men. Same as you hear women divorcing then becoming lesbians. I've always felt like the misplaced person, there's only one person I know who only dates black men. No one else in my life has ever been with a black man. But I guess it comes with the unfortunate territory of living in a predominantly white country. I fear it's going to happen to me. I'm nearly 40 and feel like I'm going to have to settle for a damn white dude or remain lonely lol.
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You gotta take a trip or find a dating app like Hinge that allows you to filter.
 
denisemilanifan said:
You gotta take a trip or find a dating app like Hinge that allows you to filter.
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Haha I do have hinge, but honestly the rare few blacks I've come across want nothing serious. That's also another hurdle. Seems like a lot of people of there are still 'figuring it out' lol. My other hurdle is because I had a kid so young. For the rare few guys wanting something serious, they do want kids. Whereas I don't. It's tough out here in the world lol.
 
beccaomecca said:
Haha I do have hinge, but honestly the rare few blacks I've come across want nothing serious. That's also another hurdle. Seems like a lot of people of there are still 'figuring it out' lol. My other hurdle is because I had a kid so young. For the rare few guys wanting something serious, they do want kids. Whereas I don't. It's tough out here in the world lol.
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I feel the latter part of your post regarding kids. I also do not want any and that has been a sticking point with potential partners. Makes an already somewhat small pool even smaller
 
beccaomecca said:
I've always preferred to date black men in every stage of my life. Never really woke and decided at a certain point I'd switch to black men. Maybe some women deal with divorcing white men then decide to try black men. Same as you hear women divorcing then becoming lesbians. I've always felt like the misplaced person, there's only one person I know who only dates black men. No one else in my life has ever been with a black man. But I guess it comes with the unfortunate territory of living in a predominantly white country. I fear it's going to happen to me. I'm nearly 40 and feel like I'm going to have to settle for a damn white dude or remain lonely lol.
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But you're still young:D
 
orejon4 said:
Do you feel that is a conscious choice, or a more subliminal/unconscious one?
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Conscious, based on physical attraction. I'm more attracted to black men than other races. Potentially less conscious but learned behaviour also that some of my early boyfriends were black and they were quite positive experiences, particularly I guess for that age of being a young teen and learning about relationships and a lot of girls have to put up with a lot of shit from guys at that age, and I didn't. It's obviously not because of being black that they were decent guys but I think my brain maybe makes the connection.
 
I think it's Freedom. Many WW have to live suppressive, restrained lives around White society when they're young and because of this, they're NOT allowed to do many of things they want to do without other White people's approval and this includes having IR relationships with BM. They know good and well they'll be frowned upon and ostracized if they do. So when they get older and they're not around the judgemental society they were raised in anymore, they simply stop caring what other White people think.

This is why there are so many older WW in their 40s, 50s,60s and even 70s who are going to certain countries in Africa, like Gambia, and the Carribean for sex and relationships with BM. Most of them are long divorced or widowed and their kids don't live with them anymore, so that leaves them alone but also free of any family and community obligations they may have had when they were married with kids. With all of this in their minds, a lot of them simply ask themselves, "Why not go do something forbidden and taboo that I've been wanting do for years but never had the chance to?" Another reason is the lack of judgemental mentality they find with BM, versus with WM, who they know will judge them very harshly for the slightest imperfection they find in them.

Of course this isn't the case all older WW who prefer BM but it still is for a lot of them.
 
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Natalie28 said:
Conscious, based on physical attraction. I'm more attracted to black men than other races. Potentially less conscious but learned behaviour also that some of my early boyfriends were black and they were quite positive experiences, particularly I guess for that age of being a young teen and learning about relationships and a lot of girls have to put up with a lot of shit from guys at that age, and I didn't. It's obviously not because of being black that they were decent guys but I think my brain maybe makes the connection.
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Your experience is a perfect example of the links between the conscious and subconscious mind and experiences.
 
I think it’s more the fact that people are more open with what they like and there’s less stigma around it as well as demographics changing.

I can only speak for the UK but they’ll be woman in their 30’s who depending on where they grew up they wouldn’t have been many if any black guys in there area so it’s not that they woke up one day and decided to change what kind of guy they like they just simply never had a chance to experience something different when younger.

My experience is different being 19 as I grew up in an area with a large variety of people from all different backgrounds and always knew what kind of man I was like ever since I was young.
 
beccaomecca said:
Haha I do have hinge, but honestly the rare few blacks I've come across want nothing serious. That's also another hurdle. Seems like a lot of people of there are still 'figuring it out' lol. My other hurdle is because I had a kid so young. For the rare few guys wanting something serious, they do want kids. Whereas I don't. It's tough out here in the world lol.
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Remember, the Creator has a plan for all of us......It's been awhile sense I've been single.....Somethings are different and some are the same.
 
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